Is it normal that i am afraid to dance at parties

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When I was about 10 i went to this modelling school. And the studio had big mirrors all around. So the instructor once toldm us to just dance. Then I happened to look to the side and what i saw was really ugly. I have long limbs and my arms were all over the place! I also had this ridiculous look on my face(completely out of my control). That shocked thew living hell out of me.
Then in a separate incident when I was 15 at a school social, I danced like noone was watching(unfortunately they were) in an attempt to have a good time. Then the next Monday i was the talk of the town with everyone imitating my arm movements and it looked really bad( like it did in the mirror!)
Now I'm 20 and i cannot for the life of me bring myself to dance. when i go out to clubs with my friends, I am always the wet blanket (with a permanent seat at the bar). Only when I am heavily intoxicated then I can try a little to dance. But its not really healthy for me as people perceive me( i think) as boring to go out with because i cant stand the dance floor.
Is this normal. Help! Even thinking of getting some medication to loosen me up...

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    Do u dance like Elaine from Seinfeld?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    who cares? dancing isnt important anyway, I say get drunk first then dance later, if anyone doesnt like it you can just tell them to kiss your ass.

    Dancing good only matters if you are a guy anyway, 2 things if you want to get the girl.

    1. Dance with her and dance well. Take the lead so to say.

    2. Make her laugh. Alot

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    I cant dance for shit. So instead of actually trying properly I do the comlete opposite and dance like a complete fuck tard. I throw my arms around, thust my hip, do a lot of retro moves (like the submarine) and generally prance arond like a blithering idiot.

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  • nerd1234
    12 years ago

    Listen, I don't think you need meds to loosen you up. You have fear because of past trauma in your life. Try to remember that it doesn't matter what other people think of you (even though their words can hurt). You're special no matter what they think of you. Dance with your friends, and if they are good friends they will cheer you on and dance like crazy with you. Live your life and have fun. :)

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  • I_steal_free_bread
    12 years ago

    Who cares what people think about you. You need more confidence.You know what I say? " If they dont like it, fuck 'em"

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  • Ramit10
    12 years ago

    I used to be the same way and honestly at 15 kids are immture and they pick on you just to see you get mad cause its funny. If you dont get mad and just blow it off they wont find it funny trust me. I could never dance cause people say I look weird(im 6'3 and skinny) This year at prom I danced the whole time cause I could care less who saw me.

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    I know ur plight, lil lady. Not only can't i dance well, but every picture of me i hate. My arm look like broken, of my face is weird and not how it looks in the mirror. Idk but if prevoked enough i will dance (well try too)
    The trick for u be to slowly learn who to trick ur brain into thinking "drunk". It works for me haha.

    Soon its like a mindset just falls over u and u loosen up and get DANCING! just be on the llok out for cameras. last time they almost capture my "moves" hahahaha xD

    Goodluck

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    • braintrip
      10 years ago

      your arm looks broken? hmm maybe i should take a look

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  • Memehoney
    12 years ago

    Don't worry about what people think.. Try dancing in the mirror while watching music videos...... put on something sexy and just dance until u start to feel good & ultimately ur dancing will begin to look good... My big sisters taught me that n I dance like a stripper w/out the pole and added class....lol hope this helps...

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