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Is it normal i am afraid to say no?? When someone asks me a question i always say yes no matter what. Even if i really need to say no and know i should i never can... I think im afraid of how people will think of me, like sometimes a boy will ask "can we meet up?" and i cant say no, i either don't talk back or ignore them. I have gotten myself
Are you an eager-to-please insecure little girl with attention issues?
Also, can you lend me $10,000?
Op, it is kind of normal but its not good. I am definitely with you on this one as I can never say no...it has led to obnoxious and lame consenquences like having to change a dat with my bf because my boss asks me to cover a shift I know I am not available for...it sucks! I don't really actively try anything to avoid saying no when I know I should so I guess I have no advice. Just know you're not alone lol
I learned the hard way that saying yes all the time makes people walk all over you. I think it stems from a confidence thing, but start learning to say no and I think you'll start to notice a difference.
Ah! A people pleaser... me too :/ It gets you nowhere in life, believe me... Learn to say no. Sometimes we need to be assertive in life.
My friend advised me that before I dive in and say yes that I should ask if they would do (that favour) for me. 99% of the time the answer is no.
Prepare yourself for the question,
"Can you do me a favour?"
You say, "If I can."
"Can you work late?!
"I'll get back to you if I manage to change my plans."
Now, before you blow it - STOP TALKING!! Look away, look at your work, for your keys - whatever!! Then smile at them sweetly.
Walk out at hometime and DON'T go to see them. If your boss says to you the next day, just say, "I couldn't change my plans so there was no point calling in just to tell you that."
This applies to everyone!
"I'll get back to you." is a fabulous response. If you don't you can say you forgot, or just say you were too busy with other plans!
You really need to care about yourself nit how others feel about you so much. Learn to say No and you be more confident.
Can you watch my hyperactive kids while I move to another country?
People will respect you if you put up boundaries and say No. Practice on me or a close friend you know; have them ask you question after question and say "No" as bluntly as you need to.