Is it normal that i am falling in love with my cyber boyfriend

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I am a water polo player in California and I have a face book account and I got an invitation to be friends with a famous water polo player in Greece. We added each other and we began to chat every time we see each other on line. We both have many things in common, water polo, diving, adventurous type personalities etc. He is divorced, no kids, lives alone. I am divorced no kids and live alone. We have seen each other on camera a few times, but not cyber sex or anything just talking. He always tells me that he likes me a lot and he loves me a lot, but we only seem to chat when he is online, he doesn't go out of his way to call me or think of me, is this normal that I am falling in love with him? What should I do? Should I travel to Greece to meet him? Also I sent him on face book an invitation to show our status as if we are in a relationship together and he accepted. Mind you he has 1,300 friends because he is a famous water polo player. am I just taking this way to serious, or is he just playing with me?

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  • BrainDamge
    13 years ago

    Well if you sent the invitation to be in a relationship on facebook, it's official.

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  • Dantevus
    14 years ago

    Aside from the extremely long distance, there is also the 'Is he who he says he is'. And if he is really famous, what is he doing in a cyber relationship with some girl in california? Just questions you have to ask yourself...

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  • one_green
    14 years ago

    Well there are many, many happy people all over the world who have met their mates online.....so I don't think you are taking it too seriously. It sounds as if he is interested in you, too. I would say proceed cautiously, but try to get to know him better...talk on the phone....etc. Who knows what might come of this?? :)

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    • PoisonFlowers
      14 years ago

      Yeah, I agree. Good luck :)

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  • imtherealpandabear
    13 years ago

    Give it more time.

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  • BlackShadow123
    13 years ago

    Love in real life is different.
    Try that.

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  • jameilious
    14 years ago

    totally normal, it's in fact a lot easier to fall in love online, because what they say is open to a small amount of positive or negative interpretation because there is no body language / tone of voice involved. Ever noticed if you don't like someone, everything they type to you takes on a negative, annoying edge?

    If you ever met them you would then find out if it would work IRL.

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  • BobPopTot
    14 years ago

    If anything, both of you are great friends and it is great to have that in life. Because you are adventurous, you can go to Greece if you'd like. But for safety reasons, bring a trusted friend or two.

    Many people in the comments have suggested many things. So do what you can but also maybe keep a back-up sort of plan back at home? Two countries can be a bit hard.

    Back to your original question, it is normal. But maybe it's a more of a friendly love? Best of luck.

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  • andrian007
    14 years ago

    So far, I don't see a problem. In fact, I would be rather suspicious if he starts harassing you to go over to greece to see him at this stage. He could be a drug dealer and asking you to be a drug mule or something along those lines.

    It's absolutely fantastic that you have made some sort of connection with this man. But I have to agree with the previous poster than from here on, you realy should try to speak to him on the phone and hear his voice. Once you've spoken to him enough, meet up with him at a neutral location and see how it works out. To cut the long story short, if you want to progress this, you have to see him at some point.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    why not?take an adventure..it'll be fun

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  • d0_0b
    14 years ago

    Do baby steps all the way.

    Start with a phone call. Watch as your conversations start transitioning from the internet to the telephone. Then perhaps, if all goes well after that, one of you will fly out to see the other, a weekend visit perhaps.

    Just go slow. :)

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