Is it normal that i am scared to talk to people?

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Well, from elementary school 1 - 4 I'm a very talkative person in school. But suddenly from 5 - present. I started becoming really shy. I'm scared to talk to my classmates and I hate my school life because I don't have any friends at school. Is there any way to fix this problem? I can't even find the courage to go to my school counsellor and ask for a counselling. My face also becomes red easily, from running and when I look at someone in the eye, I will look away, self-reaction. I just can't look into people's eyes directly. My face also becomes red when I do that, what's the cause of these and how do I fix it?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i got really shy too in 5th grade

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  • pisces_22
    14 years ago

    I'm exactly like that. I don't really have any friends before.
    There's a boy who is very friendly with everyone. He suddenly became my best friend. I kinda "talk" through him. He would invite me when he went out with his friends. You should find people like that.
    Also, I participated in many different activities so that I could get use to people. The activities are things that I'm good at, so people would usually ask how did I do that and this so I got friends that way.

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  • TennisAce17
    14 years ago

    I understand I have the same exact problem, just not the red face part. I normally just say stupid stuff and ruin conversations which is why im quiet. But it is all good man, I dont have friends, want them, but they are not mandatory. Focus on your future and dont worry about friends, they will come. Pick up a new sport like golf or tennis. Go out to public tennis courts even if its to hit aganst the wall or practice serves. I did that yesterday, met someone to play with, and now were friends. Even if your shy on the golf course or tennis course alot of times people will come to you so you stay comfortable =].

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  • bloodrose100
    14 years ago

    it's ok to be shy. My twin sister is very quiet in class but she talks to people gets use to it and now the whole class is her friend (though she's a bit of a softy)

    what you should do is even if you dont have friends there has to be at least one person thats atleast close to you or says hi to you. take it from there and start saying hi back.Then take it slow and talk a little more to them. You can't wait for them to do something. You gotta make it happen. after a while you'll get friends and gain your confidence back. Take your time and breath... you know you can do it :P

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    you will surely find friends if you can find a way to start talking.

    little children are so unaware of themselves, that those early grades you talk about, no doubt you had no trouble talking to anyone.

    maybe you can start slowly, practice in the mirror. keep things short in the beginning, like "hi", with a few people. look around and observe your other classmates, and try with the kids who seem the most friendly.

    try not to let this go on too long, because you don't want to be known as the kid who won't talk to anybody.

    try sharing this with your parents. they may have some insite in which to help you.

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