Is it normal that i am so terribly afraid of being alone

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I am extremely mind numbingly scared that I will end up alone. I had a few bad experiences with friends before and now it's stuck in my head that people will leave me 'coz i am not good enough and so i tend to over do it in an effort to get people to like me. I lie at times and make up stuff too. I literally can't stand if someone doesn't like me. I overthink it and end up with a bunch of negative conclusions about myself. It would be very helpful if i could get a few tips to deal with this problem.

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  • loveurheart1234
    7 years ago

    all i can say is i really relate .i feel the same way..message me if you want a friend to talk about it with..sometimes it just helps to know your not the only one who feels the way you do ..so thats my advice .talk about with those who understand:)

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    • hakunamatatta01
      7 years ago

      Hey! :)
      Thank you so much for saying that. It really helps to know that someone understands. I know it sounds so silly coming from an adult, but it's really difficult to let go of something so ingrained in the system. But i have been working on it.
      And I would love to talk to you! :)

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Create systems for yourself, routines that will improve yourself physically and mentally a little each day. If you don't consider yourself someone worth being around, then you aren't. Improve yourself and you'll end up loving yourself. Then you'll be able to love others.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Just be yourself any body that matters will like you for who you are the others don't matter. Don't lie to make yourself sound better or more interesting ppl will eventually figure it out and then they'll be gone from your life. If your not a interesting person then become 1. You have to take some chances and it won't always work out but thats life. When it does work out you will benefit from it. And don't try so hard to make friends and impress ppl that kind of desperation shows and it will turn ppl away from you. Hope that helps and good luck.

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    • hakunamatatta01
      7 years ago

      Hey!
      Thanks for the help. I understand what you are saying and I do realize i have a problem and i have been working on it. Just that, it's gonna take a little time. :)

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      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        Sure it will take time but most things that are worth it do. Just keep at it and don't give up you will have setbacks as well as successes. Take it all in stride and try to learn something from both success and failure. Making a positive change is attainable. Good luck.

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  • dontlookatmeeveragainokay
    7 years ago

    I used to be like that, but I have my cat now, so fuck people lol

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  • NeilYounger
    7 years ago

    I can tell you that people like you bug the fuck out of me. You talk too much for one thing. And you try too hard to be liked. I think you need to get a sense of your own self worth. A decent therapist can help you there. Realize that not everyone is going to like you. Let that be their problem not yours. Get more in tune with yourself. Learn to enjoy, and sometimes embrace, the time you spend alone. I certainly do. Because it's perfectly normal to enjoy time spent alone. A time for introspection: a time to discover wonderful surprises about yourself. A time to strengthen self esteem, self confidence. This will help you enjoy the company of other people so much more. So I would suggest therapy. Please understand that there is no shame in seeking that kind of help. Great post, by the way. You more than likely helped someone else besides yourself. See? You're a good person. :-D

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    • hakunamatatta01
      7 years ago

      Actually people like me bug the crap out of myself too. I do realise that what i do isn't healthy. It's just that ingrained habits take time to change. I have had some badeexperiences previously which just added to my insecurities. But lately, I have had some good luck, met people who have made me realise my self worth. I am working on the change. Well, I am a work in progress. :)

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    Smoke weed every day

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  • Wolverine99
    7 years ago

    fuckin faggot

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