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Like I barely even talk to people at school, during recess I avoid going outside (i always go to the library) where there's a lot of people and sometimes only have conversations with other people when they talk to me first. During class when I get interrogated, I start fucking shaking. I can sometimes go days without even talking to anyone at school.
I'm an introvert and comfortable with it. I have always enjoyed working by myself doing stuff that is too difficult for all other people. I enjoy people when they have INTJ personalities with graduate level technical skills.
Edit: I wish I could get laid but it's unlikely at this point. If I looked sexually desirable, I'd up my social game.
You could be an introvert, could have a bit of social anxiety. For me, its both. A lot of other people are the same way, but if it bothers you, try to figure out why and how to fix it.
Ask yourself the following questions:
-Is the fact that you don’t talk to others, a choice?
-What is preventing you to socialize?
-Are you afraid to have forced conversations with your peers?
You might be an introvert. That is normal.
Also, nobody likes to get interrogated by the teacher (If only my math teacher took the hint), so that’s normal as well. But to the point where you shake? IDK. Is it fear to disappoint? If so, it’s ok to make mistakes. You get to learn from it.
Yeah being an introvert sucks but it single handedly kept me from dealing with my panic attacks for years. It could be a bit more than just being an introvert too, there could be social anxiety along with it and that's when things get complicated. I try real hard to keep myself broken of the old bad habits that lead to it by interacting lightly with people occasionally like while standing in lines and stuff but sometimes it's nearly impossible and my fitbit goes nuts telling me that I've entered into exercise mode because I start sweating a little bit and my heart rate is spiking and it's like...Oh you must be running!! No...i'm actually just having a forced interaction with someone and it's causing my anxiety to flip the fuck out.
A lot of people are quiet at school, but it is good to open up sometimes. But if you don't feel like it, no pressure, just be yourself!
I agree that smell is the most important attractive quality. But a nice smile is a close second. When I smile, my crooked (but very white) teeth are an instant turn off. That together with facial scars doesn't give me much of a chance.
I feel you. I’m introvert and I have social anxiety. I kind of regret not trying to overcome it when I was in high school.
I didn't talk to very many people in school. Most of them were assholes, anyway.
I was kinda like that... The fat, lonely kid at school that constantly drew sketches and drawings of various vehicles... Cars, submarines, airplanes, spacecraft, engines... Nobody would talk to me. I had very little friends and most kids in class either made fun of me and my hobby, or simply ignored me. Hell, even the teachers ignored me... Anyone chewing gum gets berated, but me drawing a destroyer VTOL, nah, let him slide... He's harmless.
Only real friend I had in school, until the 10th grade was my friend from the first grade. Still one of my best friends today that mofo...
It wasn't until the 10th grade, when I lost weight, started going to the gym, got my drivers license, started acting like a douchebag, I became liked and befriended the whole class. Slept with several girls from my class. Had my first proper girlfriend, my first lover, parties and all that nonsense. By 12th grade I managed to change. I was way more outgoing, way more social and way more attractive to people.
Deep down I'd still prefer a bit of piece and quiet, only to have my closest family and friends near me, but the world requires you to be very socially active. So does my job. I sell cars. Basically I have to sweet talk people into buying my shitty cars at a high enough price to turn a profit.
I'd say it's completely normal, but to survive in today's world, you gotta learn how to be outgoing for everyone.
I kinda hate myself for being this... I've missed so much on meeting new people. Cause even If I secretly want peace and quiet, peace and quiet doesn't get you anywhere... Knowing people means connections, friendships, power, affluence...
And in Eastern Europe, if you wanna make it, you gotta know a lot of people...
Thats fine i used to be that way too. My advice to you is just find a couple of friends, they dont even have to be in school. You only need a couple to keep your social nature satisfied. It will help to make you less anxious. And when you do start to get scared ask yourself
"Whats the worst that will happen? And how likely is it that will happen? And what is the BEST that can happen?"