Is it normal that i behave differently in large crowds?

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When I'm in a group of people, around 5+, I become this zany goof. I tell everyone all my sadistic jokes and make myself look incredibly bad, thus I avoid crowds. I don't understand why I do this. When I'm talking to a person, one on one, I act calm and plan out what I'm going to say. The worst part of the whole situation is that I'm watching myself do this. It's almost like an out of body experience. I'm basically watching a train wreck. Is this normal?

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    Some people get energy from being with other people, channeling this energy properly can be difficult.

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  • devilonyourshoulder1
    12 years ago

    Everyone expresses their true self when they're alone. In front of others, we can act more loud, or sophisticated, depending on how they act. Most seem to act more immature and confident when in a group, but alone don't know how to act. So it's normal. Personality changes depending on who you're around, trying to impress, want to be like, etc., even when we don't realize it 'til later.

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  • Rufus
    12 years ago

    This is normal for herd animals. But at least you are fighting this nature. That is good.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I think I understand where you are coming from, even with the out-of-body experience bit. When I'm in a group, it is almost like I'm not really in control of myself, I'm so full of pent-up anxiousness that I don't realise what I'm doing and I do it all without thinking, without even *thinking* of thinking. I've always thought that this stems from my self-conciousness, which is enormous, especially in groups. It makes me constantly, and way over-critically, think about how other people think of me. If you have a similar issue, this might be why you are always looking at yourself from someone else's point of view.

    One-on-one or with close friends I never come across this way. It is also why I like talking online, because online I have time to plan a response and take back something stupid. I don't know if anyone has ever noticed this about me here, but lots of my comments are very structured and thought out. That is because I often spend as much as 5 minutes on just one paragraph. I spent 10 minutes on this reply.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Ya I think you understand. Thank you. I do feel self conscious at times, as if I have to be popular. I know it sounds childish but I try really hard to not come off as an immature loser. I guess that's whats happens.

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      • dom180
        12 years ago

        In that case, bear in mind that it is probably not nearly as bad as it seems to you. You probably do fine, but you worry too much about it. I know that the advice to "relax" and "loosen up" is probably not very helpful, but that is what you need to try and do.

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    • dom180
      12 years ago

      In fact, 17 minutes. I came back and re-editted.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    I have the same problem

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Peer pressure changes people. Or maybe just brings out what was already dormant.

    So yeah normal. I tend to be an asshole when I get in a crowd.

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    well, it has to do with ur social maturity in groups and how nervious groups make u, is my guess. i mean i can relate a lil, i wasnt sadistic, well not overly, but it oiled down to a need of attention, as u are in these crowds morw, and u become more used to them ur "maturity" (relativly speaking) may grow. i maen i still act out in a zany manner myelf, but for me a learned to be incontrol of it, and learned the line between funny and annoying, mostly thru trial and error. so if i caould learn this, so can u.

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  • Mrman10
    12 years ago

    It might be because you're slightly nervous.

    And uh, out of body experience? That sounds really strange.

    I can't really related. Sorry!

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