Is it normal that i believe people should adopt more

I think people don't adopt because of the hoops you have to jump through to actually get accepted.

I feel like I'm one of the "Heroes" that help Earth by not having any biological kids with the intention of adopting a child already here. How I'll slow the population growth (along with other people that choose to not have kids) and help the Evil and Selfish Ones (IOW, Human Breeders) by letting them have resources for their own progeny. No thanks are needed. Just doing my job as a good Humanitarian.

It's a shame I'm not a super hero. Then I'd cut the population by 3/4s and limit everyone's family size to 2 kids (Multiple Births would cease to exist). I'd also make everyone only live to the age of 66 (anyone presently over 66 would fall over dead and their bodies would make beautiful patches of flowers).

Oh, and when people hit the age of 40, they're completely sterile (no more disabled or deformed babies or just normal babies born to grandma/grandpa aged parents). I'd save this planet in a massive way and we'd never have the issues we do today (overpopulation and what not) again.

I just wish more people were like me. I hope that I'm actually doing the world good, too. I think I am.

I wouldn't adopt for a very selfish reason. It's not really my child. If I am going to spend a lot of time, money and invest my emotions into nurturing a child, it's not going to be to help some other chap's offspring at least not voluntarily. Doing that would be biological folly.

Also having two kids is fine, the problems lie with the overpopulated countries. In fact depopulation is a problem in Europe, so I don't think any restrictions have to be placed here.

You should be targeting Africa\Latin America\Asia with this. They have to up to 28 kids (one guy with 5 wives) and are then surprised that they can't make ends meet nor pay tuition. *sigh*

Having your own and knowing that it came out from you, conceived by you and your partner, makes people feel like there's a part of them in that child. It's an innate feeling that is just much stronger than anything else as it creates a separation with the bond with your child and others. It's also somewhat possesive. It's like you have a claim to ownership with that child.

I agree that adoption would be a good way to share your blessings and love with others who already exist and lack those experiences. It's hard to be strong-minded about it though when procedures interfere. It makes people think twice. If only people were more considerate about adoption, then more children would feel loved and have better paths along the way.

Of course you can deeply love an adopted child, although, I don't think it's quite the same kind of love as for your own child, however, I don't think this should stop people. I think it's a bit extreme to believe that people shouldn't have offspring of their own. Humans will always have maternal (and paternal!) urges that drive them to procreate. It's natural and normal - although, in this day and age, I do think having more than say 5 is irresponsible. I wish people would be more open minded about adoption. noopiepoe is right, though, it's a long and drawn out process. But they have to make sure these kids are ending up with good parents. Personally, I think people should do some kind of test before they become parents - whether natural or adopted!? I know that sounds harsh... but when you think about some of the rubbish parents out there... I've got a point! : / There are many happy and healthy families with adopted kids out there and a few more would be a positive thing. I see your point, but I do think it's a bit on the extreme side, if I'm completely honest.

Personally, it would be great if the world's population dropped by 4 or 5 billion people. That would surely help with the overpopulation problem and the number of kids in orphanages and foster homes. Another nice thing that would happen is if people could finally elect to have their kids sterilized at early ages so more kids would be adopted. Just a thought. Free sterilization for adults would be great too.

If alot more people adopted instead of reproduced, alot more kids wouldn't be stuck in orphanages and foster homes never knowing what it's like to be adopted by a loving parent or parents. It's sad that there are so many people close-minded to adoption when there are so many needy children. I'm not adopted but i know that the kids in orphanages and foster homes must be hurting terribly...being ignored and treated as 2nd-rate citizens because everyone keeps having their own kids for the sake of narcissism and mini-mes. It's quite sad. Maybe if alot more people were infertile, the problem could be fixed to an extent.

I agree with OP, too bad it's next to impossible to adopt is to costly and to demanding. To many requirements that most people can't meet.

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For the sake of the unborn child that didn't ask to come into this horrible world I'm all for it. For the sake of the adopted too. However from an econimics standpoint this would be a disaster. We'd also aggravate the already dire situation of having an aging population and exploding retirement schemes.

I was thinking that every nation could pick up a strict reproducing policy (think China) and that they can persuade people to adopt with tax breaks and payments for the "Lesser People, Lesser Orphans/Foster Kids" cause.

true i agree but maybe 2

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People want children probably for the same reasons your parents did.

In terms of overpopulation, it depends on what part of the world you are speaking of. I don't think there is an overpopulation problem in the western world. Over consumption yes, but in terms of population birth rates are often below replacement rates. In other words not enough children are born to replace the current population.

Adoption to address global population growth is a bit of a mismatch - because it just can't be done nor is it the right tool. You'd just have economically advantaged countries taking the children away from families of disadvantaged countries.

Adoption is a good thing when done right, I think. Unfortunately so often it is not. If you want an infant you're looking at paying a very very large sum of money. People want older children far less often, and even then...

I was raising my sister on my own and she got adopted to a family who just wanted the cute little white girl from Thailand but had no use for her 17 year old sister.

I realize why someone wouldn't want to adopt a 17 year old, but separating siblings like that is beyond cruel. The foster system is poorly handled where I'm from and I've got a lot of friends here in America with similarly poor experiences, such as being put with foster families that just wanted to exploit the money they got.

I think the idea of adoption is wonderful and for many people it has been an amazing, fantastic thing that has changed lives... but there are downsides, too. I can understand why someone might not want to deal with the headache.

Humans have an innate need to have biological offspring.

I don't know if I'd go as far as saying having biological kids is wrong, although I do believe that just because an urge is natural - like having kids biologically related to yourself - does not make the urge right.

In 2011, 60 babies were adopted in the UK. In the whole of that year. In a country of 60 million people, only 60 babies. That's almost literally nothing. Only 3000 older children were adopted in the same year, out of 65000 in care. That's less than 1 in 20 who should be adopted who were adopted. It's obvious that we need to get more children adopted, and to do that we need to make it easier to adopt and foster kids.

At the moment, people have too many kids for lots of reasons. Contraception is expensive, more kids means more money from the government, more kids means more chance of one of them being able to do something with their life. Add that to a biological urge you can't help, and you can't blame people for wanting more kids than they can support.

I think there is a little bit of fear around adoption too. Having to tell a kid that you are not his or her "real parents" must be a really, really hard thing to do for everyone involved.

I think the main thing is that adoption doesn't even cross most people's minds. They don't even consider it a real option for them, they see it as "something other people do". We need to create public awareness that adoption is a very normal thing to do, instead of something weird or against the norms of society. While it is still considered abnormal to adopt, most people won't even seriously consider adoption.

EDIT: Link with the UK abortion stats I used - http://www.guardian.co.uk/politics/reality-check-with-polly-curtis/2011/sep/29/reality-check-adoption

What makes it worse is that those numbers suggest that, far from getting better, less and less kids are being adopted and more and more are in need of adoption. Of course, we could chalk that down to the economy at the moment and how much more it costs to raise kids these days, but it sure isn't a good sign.

That's a good question. I hope if I'm ever to have a child of my own, I can just come in as the father, or we can adopt, I don't see or feel a need to spread my seed.

First of all, I must point out that a lot of people that say this, in MY experience, are unaware of just how difficult (and expensive!) adoption is and can be.

I want natural kids but I also want to adopt. I, too, could never quite understand how you can look at your own child, regardless of their blood ties to you, and not love them as your own. I did the research and I researched everything from adoption of babies to adoption from foster care and it almost makes 9 months of pregnancy and childbirth look like an easier undertaking.

Good, married middle class couples get rejected almost daily. The process is long, grueling and even then there are no guarantees that you'll be able to be parent to a child, regardless of the urgency of their need for adoption.

Honestly, I hope I'm able to have my own child and I will most likely just be a foster parent and hope the opportunity to adopt comes my way rather than having an only child and the frustration that comes with wishing that he wasn't and that I'd just be given a chance. Shoot, my husband is looking forward to it himself, he suggested it. I heard being a foster parent to begin with makes adoption much more possible unless you want to pay $30000 worth of adoption, hospital and legal fees for a newborn baby. I know it will be easier for me because I have little preference for any age range or race but that's nowhere near saying it'll be easy. I'd love to just go out and adopt. If only it were THAT simple.

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I would have to agree. People shouldn't reproduce so much and adopt more kids. I'm not saying this to be mean.

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