Is it normal that i can’t stand my family’s touch?

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I have a big family and I feel very uncomfortable most of the time if they touch me. My sisters will cuddle each other in bed but their touch gives me this really uncomfortable feeling that they’re too warm and I can’t stand it. A small hug is fine but I hate being kissed on the cheek by any of them or touching my hands or hair etc. I get this subconscious feeling that touching is totally intimate and feel completely fine when my boyfriend touches me at all. Is all that normal or kind of odd?

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    I'm the same way. My mom sometimes runs her hand down my arms after she hugs me and I wanna puke

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    I've felt that way about my mom before, but I think it's because of the verbal and emotional abuse, not that there hasn't been any physical abuse, because there has been, and let's not forget the gaslighting. OMG the gaslighting, she can hurt me to the bone, a then turn it all around like she's the victim.

    I don't feel like touch is only for intimate partners, because that's stupid. I just feel weird being affectionate with my mom, because she has caused me so much pain in my life. I also don't feel very close to my sister; sometimes she tries to put her head on my shoulder when she's tired and sitting next to me, I hate that from her!

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    • 2009ispronouncedtwentyohNineKok
      6 years ago

      The people who gaslight others in real life and on the internet should die off.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Narcissistic abusers love to gaslight, because they must always have their way, can never admit when they are wrong and also as a result are incapable of ever apologizing.

        I'm in a bad place in my life right now, but I'm very grateful to have a roof over my head. I feel quite trapped and alone, and I want to ask people to pray for me.

        There's a thing called trauma bonding and it's real, I think that's why I ended up with my ex, because it's scary how much he is like my mother.

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        • 2009ispronouncedtwentyohNineKok
          6 years ago

          I really feel sorry for you, If you have another boyfriend make sure he's not like your ex or your mother ok?

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