Is it normal that i can't be mean to her?

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So, there's this girl at my school who really pisses me off. I won't go into details, but she's one of those people who talks for pages at a time and then refuses to listen to anyone else in return (and gets really angry when someone tries to disagree with her).

But whenever she talks to me, all of the sudden I become all nice and friendly to her, and for whatever reason I can't seem to stand up to her at all.

Am I being a coward, or just reasonable?

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  • Frosties
    12 years ago

    It's a common myth that we need to be mean to each other. Being nice against all provocation can often show greater strength of character.

    Put it like this, I'd much sooner have you as a friend than her.

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    • Saycheese
      12 years ago

      Like this answer.

      I had a friend like that. I know this is kind of bad but I just don't talk to her anymore because she drained me. She constantly complained to me and what I told her finally was that she needed to get out more... she doesn't ever get out. She turned around saying I have too much to do I can't. My thoughts: "Yep working at Arby's is too much and me going to college is nothing." She hasn't bothered to call me since... I was rather nice about it too. But whatever she was way too immature for her age. As I grew older the more I realized that. She's still in the highschool world while I'm in the adult world.

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      • Frosties
        12 years ago

        I seem to be a magnet for people like that, simply because I'm often nice. But there's a difference between being nice and genuinely wanting to hear people moan all day. People like your ex-friend don't seem to spot that.

        Just because I'm listening without complaint, doesn't mean I'm enjoying someone sucking the life out of me!

        Sounds like you've had a lucky escape, by the way.

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        • Saycheese
          12 years ago

          Thanks. And I agree for sure.

          If she would ever care to see how I'm doing she'll call, but I don't see that happening anytime soon.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    I think there's a dominate part of you that is aware that she is wearing a mask to cover up her self esteem. You want to be nice to her in effort that your kindness will rub off on her. You want to believe that there is some good in her. I think it's a positive quality to have.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I admire your good-nature and kindness.

    God forgive me but I go to lunch with a crowd of girls every so often and there is one girl who could spend half an hour, telling us how she left a room! Lunch is such a short period of time that I always need to interrupt her boring ramblings to change the subject. I don't mean to hurt her feelings but I can't understand her arrogance, as to why we would be interested in listening to this drivel for any length of time.

    However, I feel the same when someone gets up to make a speech at a formal dinner.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Tell her what's on your mind, and if "fuck off" happens to be on your mind, then I would applaud you for saying it to such a person.

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    Just so you know, the phrase is "all of a sudden", not "all of the sudden". XD

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  • zebraprintedroses
    10 years ago

    I'm the same way. I may dislike someone, but for the life of me, I cannot even imagine myself being mean to them.

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  • sissycakes
    11 years ago

    thankfully you are one of the few people in this world who are actually sweet.

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  • Wonder_girl101
    12 years ago

    Just man up dude :/

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  • missmood
    12 years ago

    Be careful, she will make you her bitch. Keep your distance from this ballbreaker.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    if there is a reason to stand up to her, and you don't do it....well that's not reasonable.

    It's called fear.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    "My mind is tellin' me no..."

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    • Anime7
      12 years ago

      "But my body is tellin' me yes.."

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