Is it normal that i dislike my daughter as a person?

You don't have to like family. It's normal.

I understand how you feel. I think many of us do feel this way about some members of our family but it's something that we cannot discuss with those around us. We simply can't.

Its normal. I want to kill half my family cuz they ruined my life.

this post makes me sad. it is your daughter. you are not supporting her, and that has an impact of what children do regardless of the age. please be sure to keep your horrible thoughts to yourself or you will hurt your daughter badly.

Some advice from my grandmother and not from this sissy PC culture now.

Always remember this = You married your husband not your kids.

That may sound harsh, but even if you are the perfect parent they decide if they are a good or bad person.

What don't you like about her? Is it more specific big things she's done, or is she just always looking to fuck people over or what?

I went through something similar with my daughter. She was a great kid with hardly a single issue (except a perpetually messy room!) until she was 19. She got in a group of surly goth kids in college and as I said to some friends, the wheels fell off her cart. She started failing in college, making some dumb decisions, and lied about things to get money from me and her Mom’s trust fund. Her uncle (the trust fund trustee) and I were close and caught her in her lies. We cut her down to money for basic necessities if she stayed in school and in return she said she hated us and wouldn’t return calls or texts for a very long time. It was a hurtful time and I did not like the person she was at that time. Thankfully, she grew out of it in a couple years, ditched the low life friends, and has become the great kid she was before. We’re as close as ever and all that’s behind us. It’s understandable you might not like your daughter now, but don’t burn bridges. She’ll probably grow up and turn back into the great kid you raised.

You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.

What has she become?

Sharing some genes with someone and having cared for them through their early years does not mean that you are required to respect or even like the person they eventually become. She's an adult now, and so you have to view your relationship as being adult to adult, rather than parent to child.

The whys are water under the bridge, and since it sounds highly unlikely that you're going to raise another child, there's not much to be gained from agonising over where you went wrong. Maybe you were crap parents in one way or another. Most of us screw up that job in one way or another, so you're hardly unique. Or maybe the way her brain was wired at birth meant it was inevitable she'd turn out as she has. Whatever's gone wrong with her and her relationship with you, it's irrelevant. You did the best you could for her, but she's not your responsibility any more, and you have to do what's best for you.

There are plenty of such situations.
Well like me and my son - we get along as long as we have limited communication.
He tends to be difficult to be around for any length of time anyways. He's been kicked out of a few living situations, been kicked out of schools throughout his childhood, whatever.
He means well of course but is just obnoxious. He has been like that his whole life. I love him but could not have him living in my house.

So what exactly did your daughter become once she moved out? Like gang activity? I assume she isn't on Wall Street trying to marry Investment bankers?

More importantly, why? Were you two over bearing as parents? Sometimes that causes the kids to go wild once they are adults and out on their own?