Is it normal that i do this? am i sane?

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I am 23 years & in love with this guy from a particular website (not a dating website) and everything he says is funny and he gets me but we haven't spoken in a while. So needing to see what he looks like I searched his Facebook page using my anonymous facebook account and viewed some pictures of him and downloaded some of them into my phone, I constantly view these pictures and zoom in them and sit am fantasize. I think about this guy all the time everything he says is hilarious. I fear sometimes I am going insane because my feelings for him are intense. He doesn't know how I feel. IIN?

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41% Normal

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago | pl

Why dont you start talking to him instead of stalking him?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Because I am very shy. We haven't spoken in months and I don't want to start a conversation "out of nowhere"
  
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  - lc1988
    
    11 years ago
    
    Sometimes starting a conversation out of nowhere works. Of course sometimes it doesn't...but I think you'd feel better if you tried. In my case, it was 2 years between talking but it worked out.
    
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shuggy-chan

11 years ago

Are u the one sending me dead animals in the mail <=O

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Nope. I am not that crazy
  
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  - disthing
    
    11 years ago
    
    ....yet.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      hahaha nice one disthing
      
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millefeuille

11 years ago

I don't believe this is normal. Nu-uuh.
This is an obsession which I would suggest you get over with. It is tremendously unhealthy.

Either you get rid of this 'super-crush' of yours or at least make an effort to truly get to know him as a proper acquaintance. I think confessing your feelings for him out of the blue is downright terrifying.

Unless you are content with just looking from afar, fantasizing at your little corner then go ahead. Just don't mention this to anybody you know.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks for this comment. Truth. :)
  
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

So you are cyber-stalking this poor man, without him knowing? What part of your moral reasoning told you this was okay?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I love this guy and I think he is the most funniest person. He's really sweet and just the best. Maybe my moral reasoning got lost because of my feelings for him. I don't even understand it myself.
  
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suckonthis9

11 years ago

Turn fantasy into reality.
Make an effort to meet him in real life.
Tell him how you feel about him and what you like about him.

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- loopoo
  
  11 years ago
  
  This /\
  
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Gumball

11 years ago

Does he happen to be on iin? Everyone be wary.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  No he is not a person from Is it normal.
  
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  - Justsomejerk
    
    11 years ago
    
    Cat, Bird or Jerk from IIN?
    
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OswaldCobblepot

11 years ago

Touch him on the penis

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Stop obsessing it's not good for you

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nursebetty

11 years ago

How can you Facebook stalk him when you game for 20hours a day? Oh that's right, it must be the other 4hours in a day! So that means you never sleep right? Hmmm yeah right....

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Where exactly did I mention in my post that we game 20 hours a day? I never said that.
  
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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

It's good to talk.

But better to stalk ahahahah.

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KingRabbit

11 years ago

What you describe is not love. Not even close.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  If it's not love then what is it?
  
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  - Saycheese
    
    11 years ago
    
    It's most likely an infatuation. After you would get to know them maybe it would fade into love but in most situations like this the feelings just fade away.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Oh I see. I hope it fades away if it is written in the stars that there is no chance but if there is a chance I pray for the courage to converse with him in the hope of it building up into something more.
      
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      - Saycheese
        
        11 years ago
        
        Yeppers. Just get to know him if there is a chance. If not just move on... There are millions of good men out there. :)
        
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Saycheese

11 years ago

This is an obsession which only makes things worse.

Maybe say something to him about how you like him or meet him in real life. But if nothing can happen then just move on and get away from this guy. Like I said you obsessing over him will only make things worse on your part and will make the fear worse for you.

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michaels4p5

11 years ago

all i can say is enjoy as i would.

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  11 years ago
  
  Why was your comment thumped down, I found it pretty funny. But you know what as for enjoying it I don't anymore, it's not like the picture of him will come to life and start talking and telling me how he feels the same way. That'd be something. :P
  
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  - michaels4p5
    
    11 years ago
    
    yeah it would be something it'd be strange. im glad i don't have a facebook account
    
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rosy10194

11 years ago

I'm not sure. But you should meet him real life.

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FordPrefect

11 years ago

Normal-ish but not healthy

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nursebetty

11 years ago

See...

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nursebetty

11 years ago

It's another post, same user name, different colour...

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  What do you mean. I have never posted this before maybe someone has in the past posted something similar to this. I wouldn't know.
  
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jim8255

11 years ago

Could you stalk me?
Please?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  well..... if you insist. Alright.
  
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AvrilLavigne

11 years ago

being in love with someone you haven't talked or met is completely abnormal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Maybe it's abnormal maybe it's normal but sometimes falling in love with a person online whom you've never met means you fall in love in love with their mind and not what they look like because in the end an intelligent mind or one that is compatible with yours will probably mean a successful relationship because it goes beyond physical attraction which fades with time.
  
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  - AvrilLavigne
    
    11 years ago
    
    Not completely. People are people and sometimes we change our MINDS, not our FEELINGS.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      When I say Mind I mean the person's personality, intelligence how they view life, their sense of humour, their ambitions even basically I mean who the person really is. Yes people change their "minds" as a state of emotion but in this case this is not what I am referring to.
      
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      - AvrilLavigne
        
        11 years ago
        
        Then say it clearly. :)
        
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PurpleMuffin7

11 years ago

Ignore the rude mean comments. But anyways you're just really in love with him & afraid to tell him or show him so you do that instead. Its not healthy so start talking to him and see where it goes. If it doesn't work out than move on so your feelings wont get hurt.

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1000yrVampireKing

11 years ago

I know people on her that do this.

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Sog

11 years ago

Oh no, you aren't that guy with the gay crush on Mark Zuckerberg again, are you? I thought we told you- NOT NORMAL!

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puppyface

11 years ago

This is so weird because I'm doing the SAME thing RIGHT NOW. It feels like he's every single thing that I love and I just want to watch him all day. I wouldn't though. Don't. That's not healthy... But I do understand where you're coming from. Its so easy to fall in love with the idea of a person, especially when you only see their good side online. Its usually not who they really are because their flaws are hidden. Your crush would fade if you really met him. For now just occupy yourself with something else, preferably something that would make you that desirable person that would make others crazy over you!

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- 1000yrVampireKing
  
  11 years ago
  
  Nice rabbit
  
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