Is it normal that i don’t like my boyfriends child.

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His child can’t do anything on his own, he whines , cries begs and has hissy fits! Nothing that he does is age appropriate. He can’t do anything on his own, get his own juice, open a bag of chips, open a water bottle, wash his ass, brush his teeth, he cries everytime you make him do something that involves getting off of the game and turning off the television.

He stares, whines, begs, I caught him using dirty clothes to wipe the shit out of his ass instead of using toilet paper in the bathroom and he tried to hide it in his closet. He sneaks food as if he is not fed. He comes into our bedroom calling “daddy” and standing at the door attempting to wake up his father for no apparent reason. (He has since stoped because I told his father it was starting to creep me out) every night in the middle of the night he is the only one up sneaking to watch tv after he is told to go to bed

He begs to go over his grandmothers house because they allow him to watch tv 24/7 and treats him as if he is a 2 year old baby. Allowing him to sleep in their beds every night and they don’t require him to do anything on his own. He doesn’t even have to learn to do anything because they do EVERYTHING FOR HIM!
He knocked my baby over
several times because of his carelessness and the lack of attention that he pays to anything or anyone besides the tv. but can’t do anything on his own. He is rude, disrespectful and careless about everything. He don’t not follow simple directions and can’t do simple tasks. Always needs assistance with simple tasks. His mother is not in his life as she suffers from severe mental illness. I have asked my BF to get his child evaluated as he cannot retain any informed. Can’t remember anything but how to play the game and then on the tv. When I make him turn it off and do activities he cries as if he is being abused ! He is also disrespectful to my BF he told him he didn’t like being here with us because we make him so things. He is lazy! He wake up and lays in the bed all day watching tv
he begs for friends to come over and when they do he does not interact with them. All he wants to do is watch tv! My bf did not put him in summer camp to save $$ but I honestly think it has made him even stupider! He will never learn how to do anything sitting in here watching tv! He cries when you make him read a book. Can’t write and doesn’t care to learn how to read. Cries everytime it’s time to turn the game off, go to bed, shower to go outside! He just complains and whines. I honestly want to beat him! He thinks he knows everything , talks so much but doesn’t know shit!!! About anything!!! Everything that comes out of his mouth is pretend and about a cartoon! i honestly do not like him and want to bet his ass 9/10 for this! His father does nothing half the time and I’m the one discipline.

He lives with us. Used to spend more time away at the grandparents house but lately they have not been getting him. He is with us 24/7 now and it makes me sick! I wish his mother would get her shit together and just have him live with her Fulltime.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    Wow, I'm sorry you're having those problems with him. How old is he?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      He is 7 years old but acts like a 2 year old!

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    1 year ago

    "He knocked my baby over
    several times because of his carelessness"

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    "His father does nothing half the time and I’m the one discipline."

    Yeah, I'm just going to come out and say it at the complete risk of being considered an asshole. As long as your boyfriend continues to be a lax parent, this kid is just going to get worse. What are you going to do when he's 15 and continues to have tantrums? At that point he's going to be way stronger than you and your kid and be a potential danger. You'll have wasted some of your life dealing with this crap. I say leave now while you still can. Besides, his son came first and as long as that fact remains, a good chunk of your wants and needs are going to be put aside for his sons wants and needs.

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    • February11
      1 year ago

      Thank you for your comment and I completely agree. As much as I love his father, something has to be done to protect me & my son also. I hate to take him away from his brother. But if I leave my sun won’t be allowed to be around him unless I am present. Dad is nonchalant about it. . Crazy thing is dad was talking to a friend of his on the phone earlier and the friend made comments about his kids behavior! And my BF agreed!!! He knows something is wrong with him, yet he won’t address it around me but will agree with outsiders that don’t have to deal with his kid 24/7 who also recognizes the issues that he has!!!
      I’m curious as to why he is like this?! He will argue with me when I make comments about his child’s behavior and development but agree to come one who has been around his kid a good 5 times and realizes an issue with him!!

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    You'll never be his mom so dont even try to play that role too hard. If you are an overbearing stepmom he will resent you and not listen to anything you ever say. The best thing you can do is try to get close with him and have a good relationship and thats gonna be hard.

    Dont be like one of those overbearing stepmoms who come in and start dictating how the kids father parents them. I remember I had these friends that lived up the street and their parents got divorced. A new stepmom came in and IMMEDIATELY started telling the father what to do with his kids. And boy she was strict. Theyd ask to come over to my house and the stepmom would be the one to say no. We always knew if she wasnt working that day theyd have to sit inside. They hated that woman forever and even now barely will look at her at family reunions

    Make sure ur not overbearing. I understand its hard.

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  • February11
    1 year ago

    Thank you 1weirdguy I try not
    To even say anything or be around him
    If I can help
    It. I’ll butt in if the behaviors get too out of hand as my boyfriend is sleep half the time from working crazy hours. Other than that I’ll feed him along with my son and try not to say anything else to him. He likes to be in his room and sadly im starting to enjoy him being in his room and away from me and my child. Because he likes to be in his room, my bf no longer expects me to take him places when I go out with my son and do fun things. He knows that his child is a whiner and complainer but does nothing about it. He is just a whiny wuss

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    • 1WeirdGuy
      1 year ago

      I think cuntsicklestick advice was good . If you must stay and not leave the relationship you could maybe coach your boyfriend to grow a backbone and start being a disciplinarian but make sure the boy never knows you're telling his dad what to do with him. Do it in secret.

      Sounds like ur boyfriend doesnt understand every parenting decision you make creates a chain reaction that shapes the kids personality as an adult.

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      • February11
        1 year ago

        I agree I will try that also, I love him dearly and he is a great dad to our son but gives his son multiple passes and makes excuses for him. I am going to put my foot down and force him to start disciplining his child or I will have to threaten to leave and take my son with me. I think that is the only thing that will make him start making changes that are needed. I hate to be the one “bossing” his kid around, it makes me look like the bad person.

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        • 1WeirdGuy
          1 year ago

          Id explain to him how every parenting decision has a big impact on the kids life. If the kid is never forced to pickup his own toys and show up for school hows he supposed to go to work when hes older? You arent raising the kid to be a child youre raising him to be adult. Kids also need to learn that their feelings and personal happiness arent the most important thing in the world. At the end of the day you have to get used to doing things you dont want to do and you cant just say "this makes me upset" and not do them.

          He needs to get used to being told NO and if he throws a temper tantrum he needs to know hes not gonna be able to change the rule and he will he punished for his tantrum if it gets too bad. Just like if your boss at work tells you you cant have a day off work if you throw a temper tantrum at work you get fired.

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  • hermione
    1 year ago

    Hmmm it sounds like this boy has gone through some trauma and seven isn’t that old really so there’s time to change things, he definitely needs therapy and maybe go from there but most of all his dad needs to take charge and put in rules

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