Is it normal that i don't wanna go near kids...

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With the amount of cases of child molestation I feel as though I'm afraid to be near children sheerly because I could be accused of being a sexual offender. I do not have a guilty conscience over this, I just feel like it's too easy to be labelled as a pedophile. I'd never put my self in a position where I'd be alone with a child (niece, nephew, etc.) because of a false accusation that I'd be a pervert. Maybe this is because there are so many fingers being pointed these days and false accusations of pedophilia. Even one day having a child of my own, I feel like my wife would think I was a diddler with our own child. I know she would never think that realistically but the rare case that she thought that would be mortifying.

A perfect example would be if I were at a friends house and went to use the washroom and as I left the washroom I'd close the kids door so we didn't wake him, as this happens the mother walks up the stairs to see my hand on the door knob. This innocent example could ruin your life.

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  • meagan446
    12 years ago

    When i was 4 i was molested so i have the same feeling of fear when i am around children as well, i would never want to be falsely categorized into the same group as the guy who did it to me

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  • GhostGuy764
    12 years ago

    One of my gratest fears is being mislabeled

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  • petawawacouple69
    12 years ago

    I realize this makes me sound like I have a guilty conscience but it's not like that. I have such a hatred for perverts and diddlers that to be accused as one would be the absolute worst thing in the world. If I were accused of being a serial killer, oh well, easy to say not true...but to be accused of being a sexual offender, true or false your life is ruined.

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  • underager
    12 years ago

    It's the crazy world we live in.
    Parents are frightened to take pictures of their own kids playing in the pool or bath these days.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I was thinking of that today and I agree with you.

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  • SweetSherry
    12 years ago

    Guilty conscience

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  • petawawacouple69
    12 years ago

    If you think a lot of people aren't deviant then your sadly mistaken, In Afghanistan it's considered the norm to use children as objects sexually. Is it so hard to believe that there are a lot of sexual predators in your own country. The world is full of sick twisted people. If you believe otherwise you've lived a very sheltered life.

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  • Lockets
    12 years ago

    How very sad that you don't think you could be alone with your niece/nephew, let alone your own future child.
    I think you are dwelling far too much on this imagined problem. You have an unhealthy way of thinking.
    Thankfully, 99.9 % of the population aren't paedophiles (I hope!), so the chances of anyone thinking anything unkind about you being alone with a child is very rare.
    Try to stop thinking like this-you'll miss out on so much joy that being around kids gives.
    Your post does make me suspicious of you though, sorry to say.

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    • CrassViper
      12 years ago

      Public perception Doesn't always comply with reality. Even in 99% if the populace aren't child molesters, you're forgetting we live in the age of CNN, Fox News, and sensational news media that feeds on all types o fears and tragedies to keep us watching so they can get ratings. Because of this, chances are that people think there are more terrorists. child predators, serial killers, school shootings, and a generally more hostile world than there really is. In fact, they actually make it more hostile just by the way they shape public perception and consensus reality. Every 1o years there right in line with the government drumming up support for some war, and everyone eats it all up. You have way too high of an expectation for the general public Lockets.

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      • Lockets
        12 years ago

        You are right! The media poisons our minds with extreme shocking news coverage. I guess they wouldn't attract many viewers/readers if the headline was '99.999% of the population AREN'T paedophiles'!
        Having said that, I still wouldn't bat an eyelid if I walked past a man with a little boy or girl or saw them playing happily together in a park. I would just assume that it was a normal father/uncle/family friend with child situation.
        Poster, just chill out about this and enjoy being with kids in a normal way-it's really wonderful!

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