Is it normal that i don't want children?

I won't give my age, so let it suffice to say that I've been an "adult" for a number of years now. Anyway...

I don't have any desire to have children, nor have I ever. Whenever I see someone that I have known for a long time who has started a family, it almost makes me shiver. They've basically sacrificed their freedom. All of the time and money they could have used for vain, selfish things must now go to raising their little bundle of regret (If only they had used a condom that night). They wheel their strollers around in hollow-eyed misery, like someone that has just lost a limb. Their menial jobs barely gave them any disposable income before, now they are lucky to survive at all, and their hair is turning grey under the stress responsibility. Too bad, too bad.

I feel like I've dodged a bullet. I am never having kids. Ever.

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  • crimson_mamba

    It is true i see lots of young couples that are not even meant to be together there is no love the only thing that binds them together is that baby in the stroller...whenever i go shopping im lucky to not be a part of that hollow eyed look you mentioned. i know exactly what you mean. those parents are low income, stresed out, and miserable barely affording diapers

    NO KIDS FOR ME EITHER

    i love my freedom too much and my solitude and the joy that comes in knowing you can do whatever you want

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  • Miss_Anthrope

    "They wheel their strollers around in hollow-eyed misery, like someone that has just lost a limb."

    WOW

    That's quite an apt description, actually.

    I chose not to have children for a wide variety of children, and every time I see a pregnant woman, I cringe (especially if she already has other children). Human overpopulation will be the death of this planet and ruination of everything.

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    • Thank you, finally someone who gets it.

      Nothing wrong in all reality with having kids, but you idiots who spout the belief that it is wonderful, amazing, and everyone who doesnt is "missing out" are sorely mistaken.

      Having kids is at best a life changing decision when it happens, and at worst a life ending decision at the same time. Time answers the question more accurately, but at the time you have the kid this is best scenario to present the argument.

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  • MahBoi24

    God breeders have such sad lives. In the end, they are only jealous that they threw away their lives just to crap out a little brat.

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  • AngAnders112

    I agree. I don't want kids bc I know I'd make a horrible parent. So dogs will suffice for me. But I can only imagine how difficult parents is, even if you do have the money and the patients and the brains. I'm sure you kids never turn out the way you plan. Parents are only humans too so their bound to make some mistakes.

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    • Wwfjdraw

      Its not just normal. But it is the correct answer. In todays hard economy the last thing we need is over population.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    It's okay to feel that way. You don't have to have kids if you don't want to. More people then you think feel the same way as you. Just make sure you're really careful that the condom doesn't slip.

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  • joybird

    If you don't want them, dont have them coz you can't send them back to where they came from.

    A friend of mine had IVF and said she cried when she couldn't have children but has cried 100 times more since she has had them. They are extremely hard work if you intend to parent them properly. Of course, you could let the tv / computer babysit them and throw them some junk food every so often.

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  • DannyBxtchh

    i hate kids. /;

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  • ThatOneOtherPerson

    Same.
    Having kids wont help stop overpopulation either.

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  • Well I guess you were just another "regret" aswell then, yes? Afterall you were a child once, of people that wanted a family. It sounds to me that you are jealous and I would even go to say that you made yourself feel this way to try and get rid of the reason why you made yourself feel this way, because no one wants to make a family with you and to sheild yourself from that you try to make it seem as if you don't want a family.
    This is my opinion on the matter because instead of actually addressing the point that "you" don't want kids you decided to just insult other families, which shows that you are more focused on the fact that they have a family rather than the fact that you don't want one.

    I want a child one day just so my bloodline continues.

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    • Maldetete

      You went in a really weird direction with some of your comments, especially mentioning that the OP was once a child of someone who wanted a family. Of course he/she was! That should have no basis on if you want kids or not, it's a preference.

      Now I'll agree the OP was a little overboard on their bashing of people with kids, I can appreciate them all the same. To some people, having kids is worth all the money in the world and most of them aren't as unhappy as the OP made them sound.

      I also don't want children, I just don't feel like it, at least not right now. I like my freedom, I like worrying about me and my wife, and I don't feel I am ready for taking care of someone for the next..well..20 years to the rest of my life.

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    • And a thousand years from now you will still be a part of that bloodline and will be remembered for all its glory right?

      This has to be the stupidest reason I have heard yet as to having children.

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    • If I wanted to have kids, I could have had 100 by now. believe me.

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      • No, I don't believe you.

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        • No matter how stupid, poor, ugly, and uncouth a man is, he will always be able find a reasonably attractive woman willing to have kids with him. I know.

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          • Keep telling yourself that.

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            • I will dammit.

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  • Strawerry

    It's your opinion. But children are wonderful. If you got you first child in your hands, you'd think, that you're the most happiest woman ever. A child could change you. But it lays in your hands, how to get changed. Positive or negativ.

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    • MahBoi24

      I hate people like you. Don't you dare tell the OP how she would feel if she held a baby in her hands. If everyone felt love for their child as soon as they held the little punk in their hands, there would be no abused kids.
      I don't know you in the slightest but I already have a strong hatred for you and I hope you miscarry.

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      • Strawerry

        It's your opinion and I don't care if you'd hate me or not ;) I don't even know you, why should I? But my opinion is, your are a heartless b.a.s.t.a.r.d. Didn't you get enough love from your parents? I don't get your words, 'cause you were one of those 'punks', too. Don't you think your words went overboard? Seeing what you are writing, I'm just thinking: parenting fail.

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        • MahBoi24

          First off, I grew out of being a baby, so moot point there. Second, my mom did an excellent job with me...I just didn't listen to a word she said about "love" and "acceptance" and all that bullshit she tried to instill in my brain. I am living proof that you shouldn't place your hopes and dreams in a stupid child. Third, I don't think I went at all overboard. If you miscarry, you'll be doing your part to end overpopulation.

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          • Strawerry

            It's okay that you think, that your life is about going to chase your dreams and so on. And my life is about having a family. Sure we've got dreams, too, but who said, that having kids means not to be able to fulfill dreams? You cannot make people think the way you do. If you don't want to have kids, go on. No one forces you to have some. But I hope for you to never having kids. Get yourself a vasectomy. Or at least know how to handle with condoms.

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            • MahBoi24

              Lol I love how breeders assume I'm male. And bitch, you can have a family without kids. My SO and I ARE a family, and we are such without a bunch of crotch droppings ruining pur lives. Babies ruin relationships, and mine is too precious to be ruined by babies.

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  • Crudhouse

    25% of my friends have already gotten a divorce and three of my friends are single parents with kids under 10.

    It's a global culture of shit that needs to change. You can't sleep around without consequence. You can't give in to lust without a fucking condom.

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  • DeadPixel

    My s/o and I don't want them. I even had a permanent sterilization procedure at an early age to prevent any "accident". We do like the idea of passing on our genes, but we don't really like children themselves (also since I'm female I wouldn't want to go through with the physical pain and body ruining).

    I agree that having a child means you are required to put tons of money and effort that could be used for more enjoyable things instead toward this disgusting and annoying thing that will take up all your free time. You will have to consider them in any major aspect of your life or decision you make because they ARE your life now. That concept alone is intimidating. It's not like you just got a pet or some new expensive toy; it's like you replaced your identity.

    I have seen the parental regret like you describe and that helps confirm my decisions. Not to mention most of the time everything you worked toward with the child comes out ultimately to be all for nothing since they tend to grow up to not care for you, be a type of person you don't like, and/or just continue leeching off you.

    I honestly don't forsee myself getting so bored and done with my life to the point of wanting to pop out some new life to try to control or entertain me or whatever anyway. Throwing away my youth and future is mot definitely not worth passing on the genes for.

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  • Antares

    My girlfriend likes children - she just doesn't want to sport some. See, some lovers want to create life from their lovemaking. I don't blame them. Some like kittens/rainbows/sunshine, others want a baby, y'know?

    Personally, she (my girlfriend) was once an orphan (long story), so she hates people who want to lavish the parental love on children but never thought of adopting orphans, instead, opt to contribute to Overpopulation.

    Children, inevitably, will change a relationship. You no longer can do whatever you want, cause your partner is mature/an adult, but your baby is like what Shrek describes, "they cry and they poop and they cry again", is all.

    Honestly, a baby's arrival is a major change - and almost everyone can't be comfortable with that. It just depends on whether you're up for the responsibility and risks/consequences/possibilities, or not.

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  • ProverbialMonster

    There is something called instincts. I was scared to death of having children, even now... At some point in just happens...

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    • IceRico24

      Accident! Hahahaha!!! At some point you forgot to check your drink for roofies!! XD

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    • MahBoi24

      Fuck you, cunt. Having kids doesn't always "just happen". I hope your children all die.

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  • dappled

    Are you your parent's "little bundle of regret"?

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    • No. My parents got married in their 30's and had me intentionally.

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  • bubber

    You are such a sad, naive person.
    You have no idea how much you are missing out on.

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    • Yeh your right, having kids is the answer to all of life's problems....in fact the world would be a far better place if every single person that could biologically conceive kids did.

      Did it ever occur to you that almost every single evironmental problem can either directly or indirectly be traced back to overpopulation?

      Not to mention the assumption that having kids makes your life complete is ridiculous? Being what could be called a "good" parent hedges your bet that your kid will be a productive member of society, but how many good parents had kids that were proverbial pieces of shit?? Let alone murderers, rapists, and baby killers?

      And I am 31, not married, with no kids. Probably not intending to have kids either.

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    • Sacrificing my freedom and wasting my time and money on someone who does not appreciate me? Thanks, but I'll pass.

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  • alv1592

    sure, it's your life and you can make your own choices. parenting isn't for everyone. I want to be a mom someday when I'm ready. I just don't wanna be tied down right now.

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  • aceattorneyfan

    i want 3 or 4 of them

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  • It's not normal if you're lets say in your 40's and don't have kids because If you get to old you wont be able to have kids so you wont be able to pass down your genes for future generations. But if you're young It's perfectly normal, just don't get to the age where you can't have children wishing you could have children.

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  • rawr123451

    Ur selfish as hell and when ur old and don't have anything 2 be proud of it'll suck.

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    • Whats selfish is having kids and contributing to overpopulation. Im not against people having kids, but some reasons people choose to have kids are very selfish such as wanting to make someone who will love them because their lonely.

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    • Yeh your right, every single parent that has ever existed has been able to look back on their kids with pride.

      Especially the one's who have to visit their kids in prison or even worse at a graveyard because of drugs, murder, suicide, etc.

      Having kids is not the answer to life's problems or questions.

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    • MahBoi24

      I hope you lose your children you worthless cunt.

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