Is it normal that i don't want to talk to my mum about my hopes and dreams?

Your mom sounds like one of those people that don’t know how to raise children
Yeah like the others said, just don’t tell her. Parents are hard to deal with

Old folks also tend to relay only on their experiences. What they are forgetting is, u are a different person and everybody goes through life, changing opinions, desires and goals. Maybe it’ll seem stupid later, maybe not, but the important thing is that u made your own decisions. If you don’t, there’s no experience at all, no dreams, no will and you will have problems in dealing with people and life itself. Leave children and others alone and let em do their thing, it’s way healthier
Your mother also seems like she has some negative experiences with things, she doesn’t know affect u through her, so tell her that she should stop putting her problems on you. But if ur going to tell her, that is your decision, because it’s gonna trigger a fight. She tries manipulating u in a way, not that much but a bit. My mom does it too and they don’t really notice it themselves
Anyways it’s the same with much older people, I just always nod because those opinions r the most difficult to change. In their eyes we have not gone through anything comparable to their lives

As for the transgender thing, I know some people who just left home when they couldn’t bear the whole thing anymore, I dunno about ur situation
Tell her that she can read it in the internet, in books and consult a psychiatrist. Theyre all gonna tell her she shall not even try talking u out of it.

Yes. Don't tell her then. Just do it and don't care what she thinks.

Basically I can say it is sweet that your mom remembers what you tell her. That is a good sign. Also when people get mad they say things that they may not mean just to hurt people. But of course I would keep other things to myself.

My mom asked me who I liked (as in sexuality) I'd been looking for an opening for a while and I told her girls. She then said 'while your still young and don't really know yet' I told her again months later and she told me the same thing and I insisted and told her she didn't get to choose who I liked. She's not homophobic, but just doesn't think I'm gay

Don’t tell her. It’s her loss to miss out on having that connection with you. A lot of parents suck. Hopefully your mum will grow and you can build a better relationship with her one day, but you don’t owe her intimacy if she throws it in your face. It’s ok to feel sad about that too.

Just live your life. Most folks don't tell their parents anything. Least of all something important to them.

Oh yeah, I get annoyed when people want to pull personal stuff out just so they can use it against you later. People like that don't have much going for them, and aren't worth confiding in as far as I'm concerned.