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Hi, i ve been feeling down lately. Everything seems falling apart. I cant think straight, do my job etc. I consider myself a loser all the time. No matter what i do just cant shake off. Too much depressed. I got a wife n two kids and im attracted to men too. I feel jealous of everyone whos got good job nice car etc. Always got negative thougts in my head.
Thanx kiwiwisdom. I might consult with a shrink. Cus this low self esteem things really gonna kill me.
Not normal to feel down all the time. Consult a doctor to find the root causes and take care of the issue - it's impacting your quality of life and your life does matter. Be kind to yourself, negativity is a self reinforcing habit and if you call yourself names like "loser" it's going to keep you down. Instead treat yourself as well as someone you'd love with all your heart and don't wish any harm - even if you don't feel it's deserved. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to men, or having a family, or both. It's okay to want something better too, but recognize jealousy is rooted in fear and resentment - finding that root may help you change things for the better. If you recognize you have recurring negative thoughts then I recommend writing them out and then defeating them with logic. They're mostly falsehoods and improvable situations when you really look at them. At the very least you can start building a list of steps you take to improve things and measure your progress by how far you've come rather then how far you have to go to an ideal.