Is it normal that i get jealous when guys find my friends attractive?

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Whenever a guy finds one of my friends attractive I get really jealous. EVen if I don't know the guy I still feel like I have "lost" to my friends if someone finds them attractive. I'm not really a competitive person but for some reason I get sad and angry when people like my friends. It's not that I don't get hit on or something like that but I just want to be the prettiest in everyone's eyes.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    I can understand this.

    I have a friend with very good genetics. Her mother use to be a model and a beautician; so not only did she inherited her mother's beauty, but she never had a bad hair day or anything. Plus, being very short with wide hips, appearance wise, she is what most men want. As a teenager, the attention she received did bother me, but as I got older, I realized it's not as glamorous as I thought.

    Currently, her world is filled with men using her for sex, being possessive, or simply just worshiping the ground she walks on just for a chance at her. Relationships are difficult, because the men she dates tolerate her personality for sex until they can't take it anymore/try to change her, or she just toss them to the side. It's a lot of ups and downs, confusion, and alcohol/sex to cope.

    Anyway, the point is, you don't need to find new friends or ugly friends so you don't feel competitive. Though wonderful being amazingly pretty may seem, could you really handle the attention that comes with it? Could anyone? Just appreciate your own beauty and the attention you do receive, because being widely desirable isn't always the best thing.

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    • Cockticus_Erecticus
      7 years ago

      Why didn't she focus on developing her personality? Her relationships would not be as difficult.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        There's nothing wrong with her personality, she's just going through the motions of being young and extremely beautiful.

        Basically, she's a poor dater. She's quickly learning that quality appearance doesn't pull in quality men, but instead attracts all kinds. There's a lot of bullshit she needs to watch out for, but isn't. She's getting fooled by sweet talk and nice handsome smiles, when all those guys can only give her is a nice roll in the sheets and nothing else or worse.

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        • Cockticus_Erecticus
          7 years ago

          My experience with very good looking women is that they usually have very poor personalities to go along with beautiful looks. I thought about why that is and came to the conclusion the woman learned at a young age her looks were a very valuable asset and put her energy entirely into that one asset to the detrimental effect of not developing a personality.

          I know my experience isn't the end all say all, it's just an interesting part of life I got to observe. I thought maybe it was similar to your friends situation.

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          • Tealights
            7 years ago

            You could be right, because my opinion of her is bias. I've known her since childhood and love her dearly; so I know what her personality is like. However, I'm not sure if she behaves the same way around the men she dates as she does with me, and when the relationship fails, I always hear her side since I don't know the men personally.

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    • CountessDouche
      7 years ago

      You're really insightful. I know I told you the other day, but your comments are really helpful. You're the kind of friend I'd ask advice from.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        Thank you :)

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    It is good that you are so honest. It's female instinct to compete against other females for the best mate. It's normal and also what drives women to hate each other.

    You can't fight against it, and the only way to win is to compete.

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  • ManKebaLive
    7 years ago

    Dam. Be glad somebody is hitting on you. At lest you can pick a good one. Stop being jealous. You probly are the prettiest. Guys find them harder to approach. You'll pull the best fish with brains. Just like the wife of the President of the United States of America.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Jealousy is never attractive. You can't make people like you they either do or they don't. You need to grow up and get to grips with this otherwise you are gonna end up depressed or suicidal.

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  • CountessDouche
    7 years ago

    Deal with your insecurity issues. You'll be much happier when you have real friends that you don't feel the need to compete against.

    If you're actually ok with yourself, you can feel good when something positive happens to your friends.

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