Is it normal that i hate being a woman?

I know I'm supposed to be proud of who I am, and love the life I have, and I am grateful for being a woman in America where I can pretty much do what with my day and my body I want without overt threats of violence. So yay first and second wave feminism. Good job on that.

But, it really does seem like everything men do is more fun, more exciting, and more socially acceptable. It makes navigating the world a bit easier for them. For example, I wish it was easier for me to build muscle, I wish I wasn't so risk-averse, and I wish I had better spatial awareness and could keep my head quiet. I'm thinking about getting an IUD just to quiet my female hormones a bit so I can think straight.

Sometimes being female feels like a disease, hence my desire to treat it with an IUD. We're more likely to get chronic illnesses, quit our jobs early or have less advanced careers, end up in poverty if single, get raped/attacked, get scoffed at in every performing arts field (music, comedy, acting) except for Adult Entertainment, the list goes on. And when people try to set up programs to help women, we just get told we've got it so easy because look how many handouts we get just for being a woman?

I can't take it anymore. I'd get a sex change but I don't want to mutilate my body and I am attracted to men. I'm sure men have some things harder, but generally speaking the world was created in their image and likeness so it can't really be THAT much harder. I wouldn't mind being expected to pick up heavy things and hold doors for people and pay for dates and fight wars and support a family if it meant I also got to be sane, strong, and confident and had the freedom to think and dress and be where I want without having to look over my shoulder, seek constant medical attention just to deal with the world, or apologize for who I am all the time.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    The only parts I really don't like about it are...

    A lot of people seem to have this idea that women are supposed to me dumb as hell. I have been in many situations where I have said something that seemed "intelligent" and shocked every man in the room. WTF?

    Single Motherhood. My biggest fear when it comes to kids. No matter how it happens (being married to a fallen soldier, being a widow, being divorced), people, especially older people, assume you're a fucking slut. Yeah. So if my husband ever decides to go find some younger broad and he doesn't want custody of the kids, now I'm a single Mommy slut and everyone thinks it's something I did wrong.

    Traveling abroad is much more risky. Walking about outside might get me followed by men that think "u soo sexy guuurrrll u wana hava gud timme?". Trashy fucking men think it's OK to approach women like me and ask for money and shit like that because I am little and easy to intimidate. If I get raped and I happened to be wearing revealing clothes at the time then it is my fault. If I go to a party and get drunk and get raped, it was my fault. Being raped is always my fault.

    Although, I'd still prefer to be a woman. I have enough sense to try to keep myself out of a lot of bad situations but some women don't. Women get a lot of benefit of the doubt and leeway that men don't get. I say all of the time if I had this personality and I was a man, people would kick my ass all of the time.

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      *be dumb as hell
      proofreading ,Neuro, proofreading...

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    • Shroot

      You've been raped a lot then?

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        The fuck? No.

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  • kelili

    Men get raped too. Anyway I can't help you there because I'm so happy to be a female!

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  • Maya05

    Although I agree with the things you have said I would still much rather be a female then a male. I am a male and I hate being one. I'm assumed to be a sex driven slob with no emotions or brain cells. No matter what I do I feel I am being judged by women because of my gender. I know my "problems" aren't probably a big deal to most but it bothers me a lot and I really wish I was a women.

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    • Anime7

      I don't want to be a female but I honestly have the same feelings when women look at me.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    I'm a dude and I have zero spatial awareness. I navigate like women remembering landmarks. GPS was invented specially for me.

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    • BLAh81

      Same here.

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  • Mersaphe

    Men have it worse.

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    • sunshinemoonlight

      lol yeah right

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  • johnny1326

    As a female you have a couple hard things that are rough but then im going to tell you what being a man is like. Disadvantages of being a woman--painful when giving birth, periods. That is about it. As a woman you get to dress pretty and look feminine but of course the feminists cant stand that.You get to be treated like you're beautiful and wanted. You can have a husband and CHOOSE whether to work or not. Children always love their mother more. See all the good things. But women dont embrace those things instead they get pissed because they arent a man. Well here is what being a man is like-- You wake up and you want something beautiful to love but when you try you get rejected because in this world you have to buy women. So as a man your view of love goes out the window 2 if you think a woman is beautiful and sexually think of her women start having a cow and make you out to be a pervert 3 you go to a job and make shit and get treated like shit all day whereas if your a women you can make liveable wage being a secretary and answering phones 4 last but not least the be all and end all of why it sucks worse being a man..simple...----NOBODY EVER SHOWS YOU ATTENTION OR WANTS YOU OR FLINGS THEMSELF AT YOU LIKE IN A WOMANS LIFE. a woman is told she is beautiful, has men wanting her sexually, has opportunity after opportunity for love and happiness and tosses it all aside and gets angry about it whereas a man only dreams women would act that way. that you wouldnt have to spend half your life teaching women how to make a move,how to show affection, how to be damn sexual for crying out loud. Men embrace masculine roles and are beaten down for it whereas women denounce feminine roles are men are supposed to like that? why cant women just be feminine and let a man be a man? why is it so important to outshine a man and prove that you are just as equal.we already know that.

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      It sounds like you have had a horrible life.
      I am so sorry.

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  • wonderful360

    I'm a girl and I hate having to deal with periods and girly stuff. Boys and men get it way more easier

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  • dandan1960

    Perfect example of women complaining for the sake of complaining.

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  • hairyfairy

    You say we get more chronic diseases? Iv`e read that men suffer moreill health & die several years earlier than women, & are less likely to survive if they get cancer.It`s much easier being a woman now than it was in the 70`s, because a women couldn`t even go into pubs without a male escort without being suspected of prostitution, & if a woman was sexually harassed, she was expected not to complain because "boys will be boys".

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  • ToxicCrayons

    What the fuck?

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  • q25t

    Your second paragraph sounds like a wish list I might have as well, and I am a man. Some of these things may be possible anyways though.

    Building muscle is a fairly well developed science. I don't know what exactly you're looking for but you can find advice online if you need it.

    Risk aversion is trickier, and the only advice I have I'm not doing myself so I'm not even going to mention it.

    Spatial awareness is an interesting one. Men seem to be better at some aspects and women at others. The only apt description I have heard is that men know how to get places and women know how far away they are. There's little you do to help with this one except for simply practicing.

    As for keeping your head quiet, personally I've found exercising to be very useful for this.

    As for the discrimination bits, I'm sorry society is like that but it does seem to be getting better slowly. I know that probably sounds hollow coming from a guy, but it's true.

    Anyways, good luck to you.

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