Is it normal that i hate my husbands dogs?....
My husband has two akita cross breed dogs that he has had since before I met him (2007). He has a female who is 10 & a male who is 9 and I simply cannot wait for them to die.
Hubby recently got a job 4hrs from where we live so they are in kennels during the week, which is a bonus as I don’t have to listen to them whining during the week or clean up their mess. However hubby has always been a workaholic & spends about 12hrs a day at work – so they are alone for all this time & whine incessantly when they are not in the house. These dogs have had no proper training & are a huge problem within our relationship.... we rarely argue & when we do it's usually about the dogs.
However the down side is that he has even less time to spend with them now he works away , they are NEVER bathed and stink the place up, there are air fresheners in all the places they go but you can still smell them. Plus it costs £100 a week for their accommodation, think what £5,200 a year could buy?... I don’t know why he doesn’t get rid of them, it can’t be much of a life for them either.
They live outside in kennels & the only time I will allow them inside is if he promises to clean up their mess. They shed white hair constantly, it’s in my shoes, on my clothes, in my food & in my coffee. The house has “prarie dust balls” all over when he allows them inside…… they also eat the cats food & sh*t & p*ss in the kitchen if they are not watched constantly, he has so little free time (he’s home late Friday & has to leave Sunday afternoon) so doesn’t really have time to clean up after them….. so they are never inside anymore.
However they whine constantly when they are outside (my Ipod is a god send so I don’t have to listen to it) they sh*t & p*ss copiously all over the back yard, so it smells absolutely disgusting if you open the windows….. that is of course, when they are not eating their own sh*t…. which they do all the time, and he wonders why I don’t like them licking me.
I just don’t think men understand about care of animals – especially if effort is involved. Sure they love the unconditional slavish adoration that they receive from dogs, it makes them feel needed & in control, but when it comes to cleaning up after their animals, they prefer to take the easy route & make all sorts of excuses.
“It’s CUTE!” “It’s ONLY a dog!!” “he/she LOVES me” “well I can’t smell anything” I’ve heard it all before. I’m not a dog hater, I’m actually an animal lover, I’ve been vegetarian for 25 years and I’m not not anti dog. I spent 3 years as a volunteer in an animal sanctuary – my parents bred Dobermans & spent a lot of time & effort looking after them. I feel that if you want to have a dog you must realise that it involves a great deal of effort/commitment/time to ensure that your animal is clean, well trained & cared for.
I work long hours – leaving home at 6am & I’m not back until about 8pm so I chose cats. My cats are well cared for, fed & groomed regularly, deflea’d, dewormed & occasionally bathed if they need it. They are well behaved & clean animals.
If you don’t have the time or commitment to care for a dog you really should not get one. If his dogs were children, social services would have been involved years ago…. They have a cr*p life & even when they are at the house they are mostly ignored.
I think he has them around (part time) to gratify his ego & I simply cannot wait until they go to “The big sofa in the sky”. When that happy day arrives it will be no more dogs ….. ever…. Or I’m leaving…..