Is it normal that i hate when my wife has to see a male gynecologist?

I just recently had came across this thread and thought that I would add my two cents. I'd have to say that the OP is completely normal and with-in his right to feel the way that he does. What woman in her right mind would ever electively go to see a male ob/gyn if it could be avoided, especially if she is in a commited relationship or marriage. To me, that is just down right disrespectful to her man. There are plenty of female doctors out there for women to go to. Additionally the OP had stated that he confided with her that he is uncomfortable about this, but she continues to go. If I were the OP, I would divorce her ass..., as she obviously doesn't respect him! Peace!

I am a woman who made a commitment to True Love Waits (to not have sex until I am married) when I was a teenager. At the same time, I thought about how I would never let another man except for my future husband to see certain private parts of my body. I definitely would not allow a male doctor/nurse to see certain parts of my body that should be reserved for my future husband at all. I find it strange that people think that male gynecologists are an exception and that it is fine for them to see private parts of other women who they are not married to. They are men who are not morally above other men at all. Medicine doesn't make it right. It's a huge cultural blind spot. My mom went to a male gynecologist for years. After I brought some things to her attention, she doesn't feel that male gynecologists are appropriate. She has not been to a male ob/gyn in about 11 years.

The way you feel about your wife going to a male gynecologist is normal. This shows that you really love her very much.

However, I do recommend that you not be mean to her anymore. Try to work on being more compassionate & gentle and tell her how you feel. Explain to her that it would bother you if another man (ex: the next door neighbor) could and access certain parts of her body. Try to help her to find a new female ob/gyn.

Some people think that male gynecologists can turn off their impure thoughts, but that's totally untrue. You should check out how one male doctor gave up doing gynecological examinations because he was convicted that it was wrong at <a href="http://www.topix.com/forum/med/obstetrics-and-gynecology/TFC4747NUBFSG2JST/p4#c63">http://www.topix.com/forum/med/obstetrics-and-gynecology/TFC4747NUBFSG2JST/p4#c63</a>.

You should join the <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/howhusbandsfeel"> "How Husbands Feel About Male Gyns" group</a>. You will get some good insights from other men whose wives went to a male ob/gyn before. One husband thought he would never convince his wife to switch to a female ob/gyn, but he was finally successful.

There are many people who feel the same way as you do about patient modesty in medical settings. You should check out <a href="http://www.patientmodesty.org> Medical Patient Modesty </a>. Check out <a href="http://patientmodesty.org/modestycomments.aspx?ID=2">Brandon's story</a>. I know you could really relate to him.

Actually if the woman had any respect and love for her man then she would take into consideration his feelings. We live in a selfish world and often do not consider the feelings of our spouse. If my girlfriend/wife had a problem with me going to a female doctor I would honor her feelings and go to a male doctor. If my girlfriend couldn't do the same for me then she would have to find herself another boyfriend and I would get a woman that actually respected my feelings.

Actually you guys live in a dream world, where women put their legs up as centerfolds for these doctors. What a joke! So you are saying that as long as the woman thinks it is OK, the male doctors get to continue spreading them wide open and pretending not to like it? I don't find it trivial when someone's fn wife spreads for another man... even if he is an almighty part God doctor. What a crock of shit. What does that doctor talk about at lunch with his doctor friends? So I guess if your wife starts studying the male penis and spends her life examining male penises everyday you would think it is OK. What about when the doctor goes home and visualizes your wife's pussy as he make love to his wife... is that OK? Like I always say, pull your heads out of your naive backsides and face reality. Women should wake up and stop being centerfolds to fn gynos. Like gynos don't look at hot women on magazines, or check out a young girl's nice butt. I guess it is all about ME when the doctor is picturing your wife's pussy at night when he is with his wife... or over his tuna sandwich.

Women should get a female doctor and stop pretending that men (even God-like doctors) love pussy.

And he may hold his nose with some exams, but not with others.... grow up!!

Relax runner, not every man was raised to put the pussy on a pedestal like you. If she dies, will you insist on a female mortician too?

Of course you would work at a bar and defend a man looking at a wife's pussy. Like I said, do you know that men spend money to see women spread their legs? If you don't care that a man looks at your wife's pussy, and she is the type of woman that doesn't care, then you guys are a great match. Next she can spread for an art student, or your next door neighbor, or whatever. But if there is not an emergency, and it is only an examination, it seems really naive and trashy to allow another man to go into your wife's pussy. If she had any class, she would keep her vag to herself and just get a woman doctor. What about the privacy between a man and a woman??

And there is a huge difference between fantasizing about a woman at a bar and seeing, touching, and smelling another man's woman. You guys need to get some morals.

But like I always say, if YOUR wife wants to allow a male to get access to her pussy,have fun. A nice relationship: You, your wife, and your wife's male doctor. Sounds nice to me.

I am a woman who made a commitment to True Love Waits (to not have sex until I am married) when I was a teenager. At the same time, I thought about how I would never let another man except for my future husband to see certain private parts of my body. I definitely would not allow a male doctor/nurse to see certain parts of my body that should be reserved for my future husband at all. I find it strange that people think that male gynecologists are an exception and that it is fine for them to see private parts of other women who they are not married to. They are men who are not morally above other men at all. Medicine doesn't make it right. It's a huge cultural blind spot. My mom went to a male gynecologist for years. After I brought some things to her attention, she doesn't feel that male gynecologists are appropriate. She has not been to a male ob/gyn in about 11 years.

The way you feel about your wife going to a male gynecologist is normal. This shows that you really love her very much.

However, I do recommend that you not be mean to her anymore. Try to work on being more compassionate & gentle and tell her how you feel. Explain to her that it would bother you if another man (ex: the next door neighbor) could and access certain parts of her body. Try to help her to find a new female ob/gyn.

Some people think that male gynecologists can turn off their impure thoughts, but that's totally untrue. You should check out how one male doctor gave up doing gynecological examinations because he was convicted that it was wrong at http://www.topix.com/forum/med/obstetrics-and-gynecology/TFC4747NUBFSG2JST/p4#c63.

You should join the "How Husbands Feel About Male Gyns" group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/howhusbandsfeel/.You will get some good insights from other men whose wives went to a male ob/gyn before. One husband thought he would never convince his wife to switch to a fenmale ob/gyn, but he was finally successful.

There are many people who feel the same way as you do about patient modesty in medical settings. You should check out http://www.patientmodesty.org. Check out Brandon's story at http://patientmodesty.org/modestycomments.aspx?ID=2. I know you could really relate to him.

I would worry about it. If she knows how angry it makes you and she's still seeing him, there's something going on. He's fucking her.

"As for the prostate exam, I will try to find a female doctor... The prettiest and hottest I can find."

Now you're just being petty-- not only that, but hypocritical too. How do you expect your relationship to last if, instead of seeing things from her point of view, you get irrational, jealous, and vengeful?

You're making it all about you -- like YOU'RE the victim here -- meanwhile your wife has to deal with her husband treating her like shit over something completely trivial. Find your priorities soon, or expect her to walk out the door.

Your wife deserves better.

OP I can understand how you feel. I feel similar. I wouldn't use the word jealous, sex has nothing to do with the issue, it just offends me and hurts me to have someone I care about examined that way by the opposite sex. That is the most intimate exam there is and for me men needn't apply when it comes to my wife. I only experienced this once when I had a girlfriend who went to a male. Anyway, I lucked out and my wife feels the same way. She only goes to women and won't submit to a male exam. It creeps her out to think of a man doing that. Feel however you want. If you feel it, than it is real. You don't need "rights" to feel how you feel. Anyway, you are married so you are already in pretty deep. I don't know what to tell you. I honestly think I'd divorce my wife if she did choose to be examined by a man. I don't think I would have married her if she prefered male gynocologists. It isn't really a good/bad, right/wrong issue, rather whether you are compatible in this area. Some women prefer males. Some guys don't care. If you do care then you should probably be with a woman who prefers a woman or doesn't care either way and will only go to women for your sake. If she refuses to stop going this will probably bother you the rest of your marriage. I don't know what to tell you to do. Ask her to stop. If she continues to go to men you either have to divorce her or deal with this feeling. Can you deal with it or not?

Actually, I'm a woman. Yes, I bartend, and it IS my job to be friendly/flirty with my male AND female patrons. My boyfriend is secure enough to know that while other men think I'm hot, I don't pay them any more attention past taking their tips ;) There WOULD be a problem if there was no trust between us, or if I payed more attention to them than I need to. It's just a job, I see guys that would be considered hot every day, but they mean nothing to me because I have someone that I go home to every day that I love. I'm sure MOST male doctors feel the same. Not saying there aren't rotten eggs in the bunch. His wife could very well be having an affair with the doctor. Point is, isn't there a greater risk to the security of my relationship with my job, than when I see my obgyn? Who is male, by the way. What is a doctor going to do, buy me a drink? Fired. Even IF my doctor thinks my kitty is hot... what? I don't get any bad vibes from him, no harm done. Have YOU ever had a pap test? No. They wear gloves, stick a tube inside you and swipe with a q-tip. Unless she gets pregnant, there's usually no touching involved; even then, he wears gloves at all times.

The main question of this thread: is his anger over his wifes decision normal?

Yes, by definition, feelings are normal. And I can even respect why he feels that way. But jealousy is blinding, and in my opinion, his feelings are irrational, and the product of many days/years spent brooding over it and justifying them. If he loves his wife, and she loves him, the issue of her doctors gender should be trivial.

Continued. Bottom line. I know exams are not sexual in nature and not pleasant for women. However, I stand by any man that does not like a male doctor examining his wife and the wife should respect that. There are enough female OBGYNs as well as women doctors that perform colonoscopies that a woman does not need these performed by a man. It is also true that attractive women are scheduled for more exams than unattractive women...case in point my best friends wife is very attractive and she is told to have a PAP smear twice a year....the doctor found something suspicious....huh, huh....yeah...she is suspiciously attractive as is my wife....

I've worked in the healthcare business for thirty-five years and you are normal and justified in your concern. I've only met one OB/GYN in all these years who didn't truly LOVE his work, if you take my meaning. The one guy who wasn't a horn-dog was a gay guy in rural North Carolina. LOL (true story!) My wife only sees female physicians, regardless of specialty. I have managed dozens of physician abuse cases over the years and know the truth of this situation from long experience.

People, and especially women, live in a total fantasy world relative to male physicians and female patients. When I go to my internist with an upper respiratory infection I'm not even asked to remove my shirt. When my female colleague goes to the same doc for a similar complaint she's asked to strip and put on a flimsy gown. Why? Because guys love to see women naked and an extra few years of professional training doesn't change that basic fact of life. So, ladies take charge and realize that you are the customer. When the CMA says "get naked" simply say, "There's no need for that today," unless you have a breast, genital or rectal problem. The doc will never have the nerve to bring it up when he come in the exam room and you'll feel empowered - as you should be!

as a man who has tryed to take to my wife about this and for years she has being telling be that I am sick in the head for feeling like this to a point it has harden my hart, and I don't look at her in the same way any more do she has a women doctor , now her doctor and my doctor work in the same place and I found out by chance that she had went to my doctor for a pelvic EXAM over heard her telling her friend on the phone i will admit i lost it and she keep on saying i was tick for thinning like that that he is a doctor , it made me feel quite sick , i told her it was not fare that i would now have to change my doctor i could en face him knowing what he had saw and done again she said i was tick to feel like that , so now it was get back time ??? i had to get my prostate check wrong her doctor made the appointment to see her doctor and asked for them to ring to remind about the appointment but said my phone was broken to ring her to remind me ?? the shit hid the fan when she heard tried to cancel the appointment the wouldn't do that with out me saying she tried to contact me i wouldn't answer the phone went ahead with the exam , now her doctor is shit hot like a godess when i came home she went mad said she would have to change her doctor now couldn't face her after her examining me , now i know you out there will say i was wrong to do that but she still couldn't understand my i felt like that ?/
ps the say its not sexual those type of exams got my prostate check 2 times once by a male doctor and once by a women doctor be leave me it felt a lot nice er when the women doctor did it

Ok, I worked in the medical establishment for 6 years as a male. I did, in my job in surgery, see alot of unclothed people including attractive females. No sexual urges ever emerged....however...there is a curiosity factor. Most doctors are professional but there are a few that are out there. I am also married to a woman, a nurse, that is attractive, and...had alot of male doctors hit on her....regardless of her being married. So face it...half the doctors egos are so large because they are doctors that they think women will respond to their advances because of their status. Sadly, my wife did have an affair with one. Nearly destroyed our marriage. Also, when she was in the hospital to give birth, we had made it implicit that no residents attend. One showed up at her room and advised that he needed to give her an admissions exam. We protested....then he stated it was required. He had a rotation in the clinic she worked in in the hospital. ue to legal reasons, and our naietive, we reluctantl relented. It made me sick to my stomach. I found out later we could have said no but the way he put it he made it sound manditory. This doctor intentionally violated my wife and I am sure it was for his lust of her. We got smarter after that. Initially I did not have a problem with her going to a male obgyn and I went to the appointments also. She also went to some male plastic surgeons...without consulting me....and I guess that made the trust issue worse. I made it clear to her that I know longer wanted her to go to any male doctors for whatever reason unless their were no in the specialty. There are plent of female doctors in practice these days. In the old days ....no. If a man has an issue with his wife seeing a male doctor the wife should respect his wishes....period!!! If it is a bad female doctor...find another. My wife had a colonoscopy done by a male doctor...even though there are women doctors doing them. That was the last straw. Next time she will find all of her belongings in the front yard. I am not jealous....just don't want another man touching my wife. And by the way...it is a fact that doctors spend more time examining attractive patients than unatractive patients.....they may act thoroughly professional but they still are men and think like men.

i understand how you men feel about us going to male gynae and i myself only go to female gynae...

There are definetly also good and gentle female gynae out there.

My boy friend is always telling me how much more he loves me for being respectful of his feelings.

It may be true that most women don't like going for this exam. But I'm a jealous huband, not about my wife, for my wife. I don't want another man sticking his fingers in her, or looking at her. Somehow the notion is that doctors are more than humans, not the least bit interested in that.I think the thing that I don't like the most is the control, I don't want another man having this and I'm not willing to give it up. In this world where anything goes, and everything is ok somehow. My wife and I feel the same way, she has a male doctor, and I a female doctor. We both trust our doctors and like them. But we agree that for those exams we'll use the same gender doctor. If you have a choice and you care about your spouse's feeling make the right choice. I love my wife and she loves me, we will not do anything that will caouse each other pain. If you don't have a problem with this, thats ok. But he does, and his wife should care more about his feeling. There may be more wrong here than going to the doctor's.

Answer one question for me then: Why do men pay money for magazines to see a woman spread her legs? And what logic in this universe says that ONLY doctors don't like a pretty woman with spread legs? You guys are living in a dream world. You really need to wake up.

You just dont want anyone looking at YOUR woman. But dont be so hard on her! Its a doctor- not her fault. But its normal to feel that way.

You can only hope that a male gynecologist thinks of each woman as a patient...

Your wife is not the first woman to go to a male gyne. I think you need to support her decision based on the bad experience she had and feel comfortable with this gynae. I think you need to grow up and behave more mature than becoming angry...after 3 years??? Dude you have a mental problem and I think you need to get your head examined.

I am a female and have always gone to a male gyne with no problems.

All you males are idiots. Especially runner.

A gyno appointment is NOT sexy. No matter what you think. And I'm sorry but so what if the guy looks at ONE nice pussy now and then? It's not like they act on it. It's a job, and they have to see fat, old and diseased pussy all day. And there is always a female nurse in the room. You're just super insecure obviously and that's not right. I can understand you not being comfortable because as a guy you just don't understand. But treating her so badly is wrong. Try being nicer and leas insecure and she might be more willing to change doctors for you.

I love how you idiots are claiming it's immoral to let a male doctor see your vagina.
I hope when you go to the ER or have surgery, you MAKE SURE you request same-sex doctors and nurses only.
A doctor is a doctor. When they are examining you to make sure you are healthy and that your chauvinist-pig husband hasn't given you an STD that he got from the strip club, they are just doing their job.
I've spent years trying to find an OB/GYN that I trust, and the males seem to fix my serious problems best.
Get over yourself and stop thinking like a 14 year old boy.

That's pretty unreasonable. Trust me, when gynecologists touch us or look at us, it's not sexy and they behave completely professionally. I would bet money that it's not something your wife looks forward to, but she does it for her health. The doctor is just doing his job. He can't even afford to flirt with her because he has to be extra careful about that sort of thing at his job or he runs the risk of being sued for sexual harassment.

Your feelings may be normal, but they are not fair or rational.

"I'm a pretty laid back guy. There aren't many things in this world that I hate"

So you just had to pick something like this to get worked up about...

As Alaskaraven said, it may be normal to feel that way, but it is totally unreasonable of you to mistreat her. How would you feel if you went to a female urologist and your wife acted that way towards you?

Mate, you've gotta get over yourself. She's just going to the doctors.

This is just ridiculous and my bf has the same issue with me seeing ANY kind of male doctor. Im expecting in 5 months and im sorry but my obgyn is a male and is completely respectful . He was voted the best obgyn in the town that i live in and if i have to choose between a so-so female doctor or an excellent male doctor who is 100% devoted to mine and my child's health im going to have the best. The way i see it is it's all insecurity issues, ya u may think the doctor has another agenda but wheres the trust in your wife? has she ever done anything to make u distrust her? has she ever cheated on you? If no then u should be secure enough in your man hood and your relationship to know that it is JUST a doctors visit. Ask yourself if she goes to a woman doctor who doesn't have as good of credentials as the male doctor or as much knowledge and messes something up or misses something and she gets sick or worse dies are you going to be thinking "damn i wish she went to the male doctor that would've taken care of her better" or are you going to be saying "she went to the woman doctor like i asked and now shes gone" like i said if she's never been unfaithful to you then you shouldn't be jumping down her throat for going to a male doctor. Ive had women gynos b4 they are less personable more judgmental and have a worse bed side manner. My health is more important to me then anybodies insecurities and for the sake of your wife i hope she feels the same way.

TO PRIVATE WOMAN I have to say, thank you for having some common sense and integrity in a world filled with loose morals and phony people who don't want to be honest with themselves and pretend that people doing improper things are OK if they are doctors, or actors, or whatever.

You are exceptional

I always have a female gyn. b/c they are better listeners. No, how you feel is NOT normal. The pelvic exam is one of the most "unsexy" experiences that there is. Her MD probably shuts his eyes and holds his nose when he's down there!

Women should only be seen by female doctors

You must have the tiniest of wieners if you are this insecure.

Dude, aren't there more important things to worry about? Is this from insecurity? Are you feeling inferior to the doctor? Is he better looking than you? Have you even seen him?

Also, if you looked at 30 vaginas every day and half of them were diseased, filled with yeast infections and such, you would probably not even want to have sex with your own wife. I seriously doubt either of them are deriving pleasure from this.

Finally, how would you feel every time you had to go have a female doctor spread your asshole open and look inside? Would you enjoy it? Now imagine that after that experience you had to go home to your wife and catch a bunch of crap from her about it.

THE GOLFING GYNECOLOGIST :

In the club house bar, having played 9 holes in the afternoon, with his 3 male friends, the gynaecologist asks, "what kind of a morning did you 3 have?" Each of the 3 told of his boring morning at the office. The golfing gynaecologist then says, "I played 3 holes this morning, one shaven, two hairy. All three, fine looking blonde ladies and for extra fun, the husbands were there to watch."

My own experience is as follows :

I had told my wife that I kind of knew what the procedure would be. Said that I wouldn't mind attending with her if it was a female gynaecologist, but it could be a male. My gut feeling was stay clear of this. However, my wife really wanted me to attend. I am a 'comically unlucky guy,' it was obvious what would transpire.

In we go. Male gynaecologist. Blimey. First the initial discussion in the outside office, then into the scanning room. "Are you not coming to watch?" says the Gynaecologist.
"I'm not too keen actually," I retort.
"Please yourself," he says. My wife then says,
"Come on, it's your baby too."
"Blimey." In I went. The gynaecologist perched my blonde wife on the scanning chair. Told her rather erotically to take her heels and knickers off. He even assisted her. Blimey. The gynaecologist then helped her spread her legs into stirrups. Then to my horror proceeded to gel up an instrument and inserted it up my wife, wiggling it about, whilst pretending to look at a screen, but really taking a real good look at my wife's vagina, whilst I the husband just stood there. Blimey. I have real suspicions that my wife enjoyed the fact that I had been made to watch. I didn't enjoy it. At all. It was the power the doctor had over us which I found disturbing. He clearly enjoyed it, he was obviously past the stage of a, one to one, with the ladies. He wanted the husbands in there too.

2 other comments :

1. I don't mind a male gynaecologist doing this to my wife. My wife can look after herself. However, I don't wont to be there to watch it, or even know what went on.

2. A few months later, my wife and I were at a restaurant. Who should be at another table? Our gynaecologist friend. He clearly recognised us, my wife is blonde and hard to miss. My wife didn't appear to recognise him. I did. He smirked at me, the smirk of a 'master of the universe,' whilst he sipped wine with another striking blonde lady. Blimey.

Of course, and you shouldn't let her. It's hardwired in our brains to not want any male around our females, for good reason. And if you are not convinced yet: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/3b7dq9/dr-rico-is-the-hottest-gynecologist-ever

My husband is a retired orthopedic surgeon. He's now part of a Health and Wellness program for physicians with drugs, alcohol and sexual misconduct problems. He's a recovering alcoholic and sober for over 23 years. One of his favorite sayings is, "We are not bad people trying to be good, we are sick people trying to get well"

Anonymity is assured and there will be no names mentioned. Some of his more heartbreaking cases have been with OB/Gyn doctors who were addicted to pornography and their inability to overcome it. To have intimate power over females was the prime factor in becoming an OB/Gyn.

Personally, I have never seen a male OB/Gyn and never will. My primary physician is a female also.

I'm going to insert two You Tube videos. There are many more just like it. Perhaps these videos will change some minds?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SgQDBs2F-M
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-SMLkB_O7mc

Until recently, women have largely been excluded from the educational system. It may surprise you to know that while Harvard opened in 1636, the first college to admit women did not do so for another 200 years. Women did not begin attending college in equal numbers to men until as recently as 1980. Women did not have much of a choice for a long time. Now they do!

I understand how a man feels. He feels his lady is sacred. My husband felt the same way! Being a doctor he suggested, "Don't Do It"

I'm a woman and I have always wanted a female gyno for myself when I have to have my lady parts checked. It would feel extremely weird and uncomfortable for a male to check me out like that. It is totally normal for you to act that way or be upset. If is keeps bothering you then ask your wife to change her gyno to another female doctor. A different one than she had before. Talk to her about and tell her how you feel.

When my ex had a procedure a few years ago, the hospital had her laying on a table completely naked. She felt humiliated. Several years ago I had to put my foot down in a pre op room because the nurse wanted me to remove my underwear before the surgery. It was a cyst in my upper arm for crap sake!. I made kit clear the the underwear stayed on. There was mo excuse to even ask me to remove it.
Also thank Heaven I'm a man and don't need my junk examined. Yeah I get a prostate exam, but at least my doctor has the decency to be as embarassed about it as I am

@:runner

Thats an excellent post u have given. thats a great blow to the entire male gynos in the world. Great and excellent thinking highly appreciated comments. I add up to ur point that Male gynos are not GODs and it might be ok if they cutoff their penis and then examine a woman, And also patients privacy rights and interests (especially woman patients) has to respected and patients are not like animals to be seen and touched and examined as a veterinary docs casually do with private parts of animals. And also some women and girls are still super idiots by allowing an opposite sex to see,touch and examine the private parts of their body by male docs which is disgusting, distressing,dismaying, disheartening and hugely embrassing and killing for any man closely related to such girl or woman. So girls & women THINK...WELL, OPENING UP NUDE TO ANY OTHER MAN OTHER THAN UR BELOVED HUSBAND IS LIKE FEMALE STRAY DOGS OR ANIMALS DOWN THE DIRTY STREETS WHICH IS MATED BY MANY DOGS.

VERY IMPORTANTLY : Profession or education cannot bring any disparity or discrimination among men, that one man can experience obsceneity and immorality which can be justified and other men if experiences such things will be treated as crime. So Education or Profession cannot Justify any crime of immorality and obsecenity.

Wouldn't bother me. But mine sees a woman, she says she's afraid of male gyros. Lol

Would you feel better if she were seeing a woman? Or, would you think that they were LESBIANS and take it out on her too?

I have gone to male gynecologists but never felt comfortable. Then I read an article entitled "Gentlemen Don't Look Up Ladies' Skirts" and my whole outlook changed.
The website is www.modestyxxx.com The article is very sophisticated, nothing improper, and it is researched and written very well. Take a look and comment.

I am male and worked in surgery for six years. I worked with reputable doctors as well as doctors I wouldn't let operate on my dog. I also witnessed a lot of doctors hitting on single and married women....there was always one nurse carrying on with a doctor, both married. My wife is a nurse. She was hit on by male doctors also. These particular types of doctors don't care if you are married. When my wife was pregnant we specified to the male OBGYN that we did not want any residents involved in the delivery because my wife worked in a clinic where most of the male residents did rotations. Well, before her delivery a male resident showed up saying he had to do an admissions exam. We told him no, no residents. This A hole told us that if we did not submit to the exam the hospital would not be liable for complications. Sickenly, I watched as he examined my wife. I found out later this jerk had gotten a female resident pregnant, "supposedly this resident was a Christian" and refused to do anything with the female resident about the baby. We complained to our male OBGYN that we were upset about the resident's exam and he just told us we were overeacting. I suspect, that this resident, who had worked around my wife in the clinic, found an opportunity to examine her body by feeding us that lie. I have not trusted male doctors since. I am far more wiser now. My wife knows that I abhor any male doctors performing OBGYN exams on her.

Yes, you are 100% normal. You know why? Because your wife is your property! That's right. She resigned her rights to think or feel or have an opinion that wasn't sanctioned by you the day you wed. Have another man putting his fingers (plus a cold-ass speculum, a swab, and a little pincher thingy) into her pussy is wrong! It would be tantamount to your Chevy deciding to let your covetous neighbor take it for a spin down the block! Imagine; that cervix, those ovaries, that uterus--they are all yours! You don't want some other man knowing what YOUR cervix, ovaries, and uterus look like! It's all yours! Again, it would be just like your neighbor sliding his ass over YOUR bucket seats, fingering YOUR ignition, grasping YOUR steering wheel, and worst of all, revving YOUR engine. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO REV THAT ENGINE BUT YOU!

Now, some folks have advised you to divorce your seditious property. But marriage is a sacred bond wherein your wife's pussy, uterus, ovaries, and Fallopian tubes become your sole property! Divorce can't erase such a beautiful covenant! The only recourse you have, should she continue down this disrespectful path, is to tie her up in a gunny sack and call for a holy, public stoning!

Seriously? Get over yourself or move somewhere your fragile ego is protected by law. Or give yourself a coronary worrying over trifling crap.

Yes, you are 100% normal. You know why? Because your wife is your property! That's right. She resigned her rights to think or feel or have an opinion that wasn't sanctioned by you the day you wed. Have another man putting his fingers (plus a cold-ass speculum, a swab, and a little pincher thingy) into her pussy is wrong! It would be tantamount to your Chevy deciding to let your covetous neighbor take it for a spin down the block! Imagine; that cervix, those ovaries, that uterus--they are all yours! You don't want some other man knowing what YOUR cervix, ovaries, and uterus look like! It's all yours! Again, it would be just like your neighbor sliding his ass over YOUR bucket seats, fingering YOUR ignition, grasping YOUR steering wheel, and worst of all, revving YOUR engine. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO REV THAT ENGINE BUT YOU!

Now, some folks have advised you to divorce your seditious property. But marriage is a sacred bond wherein your wife's pussy, uterus, ovaries, and Fallopian tubes become your sole property! Divorce can't erase such a beautiful covenant! The only recourse you have, should she continue down this disrespectful path, is to tie her up in a gunny sack and call for a holy, public stoning!

Seriously? Get over yourself or move somewhere your fragile ego is protected by law. Or, give yourself a coronary by worrying about trifling crap.

Men will always be a man when came across attractive women.

Think of this:
A very experienced male gynecologist is given a chance to examine the genitals of Paris Hilton/Angelina Jolie/ or any of those young hollywood beautiful women....

Do you think their inner thoughts won't say "HUWWOWWW!" ???

The way I handled it was by turning it around into something sexy. Just think, while you're at home, your wife has her feet in stiruups, no panties. Just her pussy spread wide open for another man to see. He gets to feel her clit, push fingers up in her pussy and even finger her asshole. Best of all, he is so close he can actually smell her pussy. Hell, man, let it be erotic!

I think OP should calm down a little. Unless your wife has previously cheated on you to provoke these feelings, it's her body, not yours.

Honestly, I am not a jealous man. Am married for 4 years, but before it we flirt for almost 9 years. Totally 13 years we are together.
Anyway, when we got married I kindly requested my wife to choose a female gyn, if one day she will go for a REGULAR control. And she accepted witout any objection. And 3 months ago in Jan, she told me that she got appointment from a gyn. And honestly I didnot ask her if the gyn was male or female.Later in the evening of appointment day, I asked her how was her control, and she told it was very good etc. Then I asked her if the Dr was male or female. She said it was male, but said he only checked her with ultrasound from abdo.
1 month later, I found a barcode inside a book and asked to my wife. She said that she had a pap smear and will get the result with that barcode. I didnot know the detail of a pap smear test and checked it from youtube.com . And I was shocked. You all know the details of the test.
Now my point is, in my country you can choose Dr. From the website of the hospital, but she has choosen a male Dr. despite my kind request, altough she accepted my request and although there were female doctors also to choose. For urgent matters she of course should go whoever available, male or female, but this is a routine test, not urgent, there is no pain or no illness.
After the appointment she told me that she only had abdominal ultrasound, means she lied me and this shaked my confidence very much.
For a male who loves his wife, there is a high intimacy, and once it's gone it's difficult to build again.
I love her, I had no doubt that she loves me, and no doubt that she has never cheated me, but she lied me.
After all these, I left home twice and each time went back since she was calling me, crying, telling me she loves me, telling she only went to have abdominal check, but after Dr.suggested a pap smear to avoid any cancer cells etc. Also promising she will never go to a male gyn again. But I hate the fact that a man saw her naked and touched her private parts.
I love her, I really love her too much, but I cannot get rid of the idea of leaving her for ever and getting divorced. I hate the feeling that a man saw her naked and touched her private parts. Very strange feeling, but that's what I feel.
WHAT SHOULD I DO ???

I am a laid back guy. I just had the last straw regarding males touching my wife...period. I worked with Docs. They may be professional when they are doing there work but they are still males. Period.

Alright, it is completely normal to for your wife to see a male gyno. I even have a male gyno who's my normal doctor. Now the reason why is because i feel comfortable and know that it's buisness, nothing more. He already knows all the my weird health issues, so I don't feel completely judged. It's important for your wife to feel comfortable, not you. You're not the one who is being examined down below. Trust me, after a few 20 or so yeast infected vaginas, the doctor is probably not even phased by it. He probably won't even care about it, sexualy I mean. I've had a female gyno before, she was dead wrong about what was wrong with me, she kept telling me that my diet was making me feel poorly down there, went to my male gyno and he found I had a yeast infection, endometriosis, and a cyst on one of my ovaries (TMI I know, sorry). Don't worry, a female nurse is usualy present if it's a male doctor, if there isn't a female nurse with him, then that's the time to be worried. Realy to tell the truth I don't even think she should tell you when she's going or about the experience there unless it's harms your health or is dire to her or to your wants (such as wanting a baby). Lastly, if you feel so inraged by it, ask not to be informed about it unless it has to do with your health too. (I'm not a religous person so this is an individual and moral belief to myself, I don't expect you to agree) I beleive a marriage is not about placing your lover's needs and wants before your own, it's about having trust and being able to confide in one another. It's about teamwork and acceptance, support. Your feelings are valuable, but be open minded and look at the situation from both sides. Maybe if you have insecurities about the situation and can't find common ground with your wife, then you should reconsider your marriage.

I am a 45 year old man and my wife has been going to the same male gynaecologist for the past 15 years.Earlier she had been to a couple of female gynaecologists but somehow was not satisfied. This doctor in fact lived in our building and in an emergency situation she had to go to him. And since then will not change him.
Trust me, ladies do not like going to gynaecologists, whether male or female. It is not a pleasant experience. They have to go to them out of necessity. So it is essential that the person she goes to makes her comfortable. What if the person is a male. She is going to a professional for treatment not sex.
I see this doctor in our building occasionally and the thought does cross my mind that my wife has been stripping naked before him and letting him see and touch her private parts. But this does not disturb me at all.

First he is seeing breasts and pussy from morning till night and most of them are for some problems. It is not a pleasant job. Once in a while if he sees a beautiful woman, i would say it is a small bonus. He can only see but not do anything.

Trust is important. I trust my wife. And if my neighbour gets a small bonus now and then so be it. There is no need why i should get perturbed or be harsh on my wife.

Dude, don't you have bigger problems in your life?
1...visiting a gyno whether male or female isn't fun. But it has to be done. I've had boths sexes examine me and IT'S NOT FUN BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE FOR MY HEALTH.
2...I can relate to her being female and having had bad experiences with some female gynos...cold vibes, rough handling.
3...females have heavier hands being that they have less upper arm strength than males, so female gynos have a tendency to be more rough than guys in that regard, even female tattoo artists.
4...Someone said it up there correctly, male gynos have to deal with diseased and old ass pussies too, not just your wife...in addition to only see a gyno 1-2x a year for the pap smear and breast exam. It's not a blindsight, it's how comfortable she feels. If the male gyno was a pervert or manhandled her, she would have changed doctors. Do yourself and your heart a favor...because stress increases heart disease rates...stop worrying so much about when your wife sees her gyno for medical exams and start worrying if she sees him more than 2x a year unless she's pregnant.

It's not sexy, we get that...but this issue isn't about maturity, it has more to do with about protection, and respect for a marriage or relationship!

its normal that you would be bothered and a little mad.. but, two days man ? no. thats not normal. the dude is a doctor.

YES NORMAL. Why don't she sees a female gyno instead?