Is it normal that i just refuse to work?

I met my husband almost 5 years ago and we dated for 4 years and then got married a little over a year ago. Now my parents are very conservative, my father is a doctor and my mom is a home maker. Now growing up this is what I observed and my mom didnt work (she sure spent the money like it was her job lol). Now I feel I shouldnt have to work and the man should go out and provide everything that we need in terms of "bringing home the bacon" and just about everything else as well. I am not saying he needs to be a doctor or anything, but he certainly needs to get off his lazy ass and at least work 2 or 3 jobs if we need the extra money. I really dont see the problem with working from 9-5 and then coming home to go to another night job from say 6-12 at night or something. Its certainly not cheap getting my hair done 4-5 days a week or the manicures that I have pay just to set up a special appointment for. I mean what does he think? Its easy to do this all day??? Some days I have to wake up as early as 10 am. Not to mention the credit card bills I rack up every month as well. Last month's was over $10K. Besides the housekeeper and chef alone run at least $1,000 a week, sometimes more even.

Is it normal he wont get a third job even though I nag him incessantly about doing so and have even been spending MORE money to motivate him to do it.

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Based on 77 votes (22 yes)
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Comments ( 139 )
  • Shackleford96

    I smell a troll...

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    • Ono

      Must be that strong hint of obvious in the air.

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    • anti-hero

      Agreed.

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    • A what?

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  • GuessWho

    *** Troll Alert ***
    How did this even make it through moderation?

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    • You are the third or fourth person to mention that. Whats the point of wasting your time in putting a comment like that up, when it was done already, and its not even what I am trying to do?

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      • GuessWho

        On No! I Just fed the troll by stating the obvious.
        I'll do it just once more:

        So, you're telling me that the story above is true and you're not a troll, but rather the biggest bitch in existence...?

        ...and I'll stop now.

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        • And let me guess, un-married AND living in your mom's basement? Total shot in the dark, but overweight as well?
          What a catch, my guess is you would be fighting them off.

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          • GuessWho

            You're as wrong as you are stupid (Hint: very)

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            • And you are as handsome as you are stupid. (Hint: not much)

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    • coolio75650932

      the only thing we agree on isnt it

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  • flutterhigh

    I swear nobody on this site understands trolling.

    You can't call "TROLL" and then proceed to get angry anyway, because then they've successfully trolled the shit out of you and you've lost their game.

    Personally, I don't fucking give a shit.

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    • Shackleford96

      Set 'em straight Flutterhigh!

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  • nobodyspecial

    Lazy Bitch!! Get a job!!

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    • Why should I? My mom didnt have one.

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      • nobodyspecial

        You just like my ex wife, thats why today she has absolutely nothing to her name.

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        • If you didnt make money and provide for her and perhaps a family then she made the right decision in divorcing you. I would have done it so fast your head would still be spinning.

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          • nobodyspecial

            FYI I divorced her lazy ass. I worked my butt off looking after her and her brats. I had nothing for myself. Now I have a working gf and we have an awesome life. Lazy gold diggers like you end up with nothing!!! I wouldnt be surprised if your husband tells you to fuck off!!

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            • if he ever told me that I would leave him so fast he wouldnt know what happened. And I would take his ass to the cleaners in divorce court. Just like your ex-wife probably did to you.

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      • coolio75650932

        cuz she was a lazy bitch

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  • Justsomejerk

    Dear OP, your name is Barry, you live in one of the northern states, you are in your 40s and have recently sepperated from your wife who was unsatisfied with you finnancialy and sexually. You are now posing as an exaggerated version of your view of your ex wife so people will condemn her and you will feel like you are normal.

    Your reply will confiem this.

    Oh and people, please stop feeding the troll.

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      I believe.

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      • I dont mind the name Barry, or Reginald.

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    • chp316

      Please learn to spell, i bet you can't even find the mistake! lol

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      • Justsomejerk

        Lol financially and confirm both spelled wrong. The problem is my typing, not my spelling but thanks for the concern. Care to place another bet?

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    • Financially is spelled like this. And your screen name is very fitting for yourself. Your response will CONFIRM this.

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  • kyanviado

    I agree with alyster, why should your husband work three jobs for you hair, you credit card bill. You my dear lady (if you are female) sound like the wife of Satan! If I want sonething, I work for it! No one here is jealous or even envies you because of you being a poor excuse of a human being and honestly a waste of oxygen

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  • Allyster_Nightwind

    Why should your husband get a 2nd or 3rd job? I feel like you need to get a job. Also I see no reason why he should have to pay for you to "get you hair done" or to have fake nails put on. -_- you are a self centered person and someone should bitch slap you.

    I wake up at 5 am EVERY morning to lay out my husband's work uniform and to cook breakfast for him before he goes to work. I also take care of the baby and all of the house work. I fix my own hair and paint my own nails. I am a stay at home mother, I do not work but when my husband gets home at night our house is spotless and all the laundry has been done and our son is well taken care of. Also dinner is on the table as soon as he walks in the front door. I wait on him hand and foot because he works 50 hours a week to support us. (If he wants a beer I bring him one, if he is hungry I will cook him anything he wants me to. I give him a back and neck rub after he eats and has his shower.)

    YOU ARE NOT A HOME MAKER!!! YOU ARE A SELF-CENTERED SPOILED BRAT!!!

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  • ccjigsaw

    I was readin the first bit and was like O.O Seriously??? And then I got closer to the middle and I was like "Ohhh! Not seriously."

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  • kyanviado

    Are you a satanic witch? You sound like one

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    • cupcakechicken

      Nope, troll.

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  • kyanviado

    When women rallied for equal rights, it was not enough I guess. "oh we want to have the same rights as men, but we don't want to work for it!" what happened if you lost your wealthy husband through divorce, he might have been happy when he married you, the question is what about at this present time. If you did have to raise the kids, pay the housekeeper and chef by yourself. You would need a job! Think about it, because if you don't pull your own weight. No job, good luck! In saying that, get your bitchy ass back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich

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    • ccjigsaw

      "oh we want to have the same rights as men, but we don't want to work for it!" LOL More like we want the same rights as men +75% more xP I'm so glad the OP isn't a real person. If all women were like this I'd be a woman hater, and I am a woman!

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  • Ixu

    I strongly encourage you to break up with him but only because you're a stupid bitch, and your idiot husband doesn't realize he needs to gtf away from this mad woman!

    If you really were dedicated to being the housewife, you would do all the cooking, and do it well! You would make him breakfast, lay out his work clothes every morning and clean up the house throughout the day.

    You're just his useless pet.

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  • SLAYERoftheWICKED

    the OP is such a CUNT!!!

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    • at least I got someone to support unlike you, jealous bitch

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  • canada87

    Don't you ever wanna see your Him. If he has 3 job you won't be seeing him much. Seem like you just care about yourself.

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  • crazyladii

    You must give a mean Blow ^.^ lol, or you just the trophy that he keeps at home and bangs everything else. Modern Peggy Bundy smh

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  • BigScaryRooster

    Troll

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    • Your profile says "trying to be helpful" well how in the hell is saying what just about everyone else has already said being helpful??

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      • cupcakechicken

        He warned others of the danger. Why are you stalking his profile after he comments one word?

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        • Because I am pretty sure that I am honestly love him.

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    God i'm hoping this is a troll, because if not, your husband is one stupid jackass for staying with you! Honestly i'd divorce you so fast it would be stupid, and you would be a penny-less hoe!

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    • I may leave him, but he will never leave me.

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      • Captain_Kegstand

        Then I feel sorry for that poor brainwashed bastard.

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        • I doubt he would have married me if he wasnt happy.

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          • Captain_Kegstand

            So if you left him, who would support your... "lifestyle"

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  • Avant-Garde

    You're living by old-fashioned terms. In the fifties and earlier it was custom that the man bring home the bacon while the women either did housework or go out and spend the man's bacon on herself.

    Times have changed now and it's expected of both partners to pull their weight. He shouldn't be expected to do all the work while live off of him. You seem to live upperclass lives, but you won't be able to do that forever. Times are tough and things are expensive. Nothing is free or cheap. He shouldn't be expected to get yet another job, it's you that should get a job! Contribute!

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    • I contribute by doing the housework myself or at least trying to cook, though last time I almost started a fire, thats why we hired the chef.

      Besides isnt it enough I spend my time trying to look good, for him?

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        If you do the housework than what the hell does your housekeeper do, sit around eating cereal all day?

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        • Avant-Garde

          I vote that both the housekeeper and the chef are only there to "please" her husband.

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          • cupcakechicken

            That makes sense

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        • Well I do the laundry and some grocery shopping, the house is too big for just myself to clean anyway and it doesnt cost much to have someone come in to do it. We dont always have a chef I can cook some stuff.

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          • NeuroNeptunian

            "I contribute by doing the housework myself "
            No, you said you do the housework YOURSELF. Now the housekeeper only does some of the work?

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            • COOKING IS HOUSEWORK.
              The housekeeper doesnt live with us, she comes once or twice a week.

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      • iEatZombies_

        Listen, troll, if he wants someone to look good for him, he can hire a prostitute. It'd be cheaper, hotter, and he doesn't have to deal with a cold bitch when he's done.
        Also, if you want to get paid for looking good, maybe you should consider prostitution. Though, it seems you're doing so already.

        You can't be worth the housekeeping, either, if you have a hired housekeeper.

        Happy trolling.

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  • BlackDays

    Fuckin pathetic

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  • iEatZombies_

    You're a troll.
    Not that you need to, but you can look it up in Urban Dictionary.

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    • I did look it up, someone who starts fights purposely online?
      I barely have time with my facial appointments and other stuff. Just comment seriously or shut up already. You must be a man.

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      • iEatZombies_

        I'm a respectful human being. That's all you need to know about that. I'm sure you're a troll, but I'll bite.
        You seem to me to be very unappreciative and spoiled. Your man deserves better. It's more than normal that he wouldn't get a third job, aka suffer and torture himself, so you can paint your nails.

        You want serious, there ya go.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    "Now growing up this is what I observed and my mom didnt work "

    You're forgetting that back then you could live off of one check easily.

    http://finances.msn.com/saving-money-advice/6952105

    Read that article... back in the 50s you could earn enough to pay rent with less than a week of work. And that's on MINIMUM wage.

    These days you have to work almost twice that just to pay rent.

    Now if your husband doesn't mind then fine... but don't be surprised if he gets annoyed with having to support a fully functioning and capable adult.

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    • Yes its what I was privy to growing up, so why should it be any different now? He is more then capable of supporting and providing for the household. He just needs to get off his lazy ass and do it.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

        "so why should it be any different now? "

        Did you read the link I provided.
        it's different because cost of living is higher.

        And frankly if you're telling him "get off his lazy ass" to go provide you a life... I say you might find that's not the best way to motivate him to want to work for you.

        I know plenty of men who would look at a statement like that and say "time to eject from this relationship"

        so be careful what you ask for.

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  • wistfulmaiden

    Ha, this is everything I really want to be but I'm too nice.

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  • coolio75650932

    why must you follow in mommys foot steps? i recommend getting an EASY job such as a waitress since its the same as at home OR get a kid so you have a reason to stay home... i recommend the job. (no im not jelouse of yo life i actualy thinks its normal) while i am a teacher who is basicly at school 24/7 i barly have time for my wife and kids yet when i do get the time (vacations week ends and such) im either hanging out with my kids at the skate park or im with my wife. so i say either get a kid or a job...

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  • chp316

    I just bet this is a bunch of made up BULLSHIT!

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  • Wambo37

    son of a troll...(gd job)

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  • NocturnePonyFan

    Blonde?

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  • NocturnePonyFan

    Yeah, you are a selfish, greedy cunt.

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    • wow, someone is jealous of my lifestyle.

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      • NocturnePonyFan

        Nope. Not in the least. I actually contribute something, whereas you just take, take, take.

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        • Yeh sure contribute something in between your watching of my little pony. Get a life bitch.

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          • NocturnePonyFan

            Aww isn't that cute? Little Miss Greedy is getting defensive. ^_^

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            • Jealous that I have this life bitch? What does being blonde have to do witb it? Lose your man to a blonde? Bet you did.

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  • moomus

    Troll

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    • This is just stupid, I wouldnt have posted a story if it just resulted in this in every answer or every other one.

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      • Justsomejerk

        Good stop posting.

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        • Probably some bitter single man right? Whats wrong couldnt make money so nobody wanted you? Whats so hard about giving an answer? A real one.

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          • cupcakechicken

            What if its a bitter woman? Or do those not exist, cuz you seem to say that every single person who calls you a troll (because you are so obviously so) is a 'man'.

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            • But am I a man or a woman?

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I could have done a way better job than this.

    But I'd still like to bet money that a few of the people that read this will take it seriously, even though it is obviously a troll and get self-righteous with you.

    Which is why I love this site.
    Dumbasses.

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    • I looked up being a "troll" I am not trying to piss anyone off, what I saw was what I saw growing up. Its not my fault its my outlook on marriage. My parents were happy.

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      • NeuroNeptunian

        Like I said.
        I could have done a better job. Dumbass.

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        • How am I dumb?? Like I said my parents are perfectly happy and besides I will stay home to raise the kids or at least help the nanny we will certainly hire.

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  • UnrecognizableMan

    If he is just being lazy instead of working hard and getting promotions then you should just break up with him. ESPECIALLY if you are married. It's his duty to provide for the household. He sounds like a pathetic husband. I feel sorry for you.

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    • chp316

      Yeah, but why should he have to get a 3rd. job? She is not working at all!

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