Is it normal that i keep a list of bad things my parents have done to me?

I really don't like my parents. I dislike them so much, I keep a list of every bad thing they have ever done to me.

You see, whenever I tell someone that I hate my parents, they always start defending my parents. I keep the list so I can show people that I'm in the right for hating my parents.

I'm just so tired of people who barely know my parents defending them. It's really annoying. So that's why I keep a list of the bad things they have done.

In case you're wondering what's on the list, well... I'm not really allowed to say, because that's a forbidden topic on this site. Hopefully that'll give you an idea of how bad my parents are.

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  • Mishl

    It's not a very healthy thing to do. You don't gain anything from "proving" to others or yourself that they are bad. The more you think of it in that light, the more harm you do to yourself.

    If they really are that bad, you should try and move out as soon as possible, and before you can do that, try to protect yourself mentally. That list just poisons your mind, does it really make you feel better to dwell on the bad things they have done? If you can, seek some help so you feel better, and try to focus on yourself. Maybe your parents are bad, but you feeling all that hatred won't make you any better.

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  • cipro

    Move out if you can, bad family can destroy your life.

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  • Iszzy123

    Make a list of good things even if it’s small for the sake of balance

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  • dimwitted

    Doesn't every kid whine about their parents? My mom won't let me go out...wah wah wah.

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  • Boojum

    You say that you're not allowed to say specifically what they've done because of the rules of this site, which implies that you're the victim of child sexual abuse.

    I've never had to deal with that, so I can't even begin to suggest what you should do in order for you to come to terms with it and move your life in a positive direction. Generally speaking, it seems to me that dwelling on the wrongs done to us isn't a very positive thing. Still, I can see how keeping a list could be helpful because one of the ways people deal with childhood trauma is to bury it so deep they have no conscious recollection of the incidents, but the hurt can still fester away and manifest in peculiar forms later in life. Perhaps having a written record might make it easier for you to pin down exactly what happened and eventually deal with it.

    If you're a teen, it's understandable that people who don't really know your parents would dismiss your expression of hatred for them, and write you off as just another hormonal, immature, angsty teenager. If you're an adult, then the reaction isn't excusable, and I think you should reconsider who you share these thoughts with and possibly review your decisions on who you consider a friend.

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  • GaelicPotato

    For the record, it's only forbidden if it's in a fetish way.

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  • GaelicPotato

    No.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    I get your view of them but I don't think you should worry so much about defending yourself when people defend your parents.

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  • RavenCage

    People would jump on to defend the parents because sometimes teenagers see basic parenting as cruelty. Your parents demanding for you to take out the trash, clean the house, help them out somehow etc... isn't child abuse, but you're very vague about the bad things they supposedly do to you so i can't judge. But you gotta keep in mind where these people that are defending your parents on first impression coming from, especially before you get to explain.

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  • Wellyoudliketoknoweh

    Parents like that make me angry, I’ll come by and beat them up
    I know sometimes they’re useless but have u tried child protection services?

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      • Wellyoudliketoknoweh

        U get them to help u
        Im not quite fond of them myself, but I regret just going to them that late, because in my country, they sometimes provide a room in a flat where one can live at a certain age when it’s too difficult at home

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  • litelander8

    You seem like a brat.

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    • Doesnormalmatter

      I agree however it may be justified depending on how bad his parents were.

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