Is it normal that i keep gatekeeping?

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Basically the title.

I’m aware it’s VERY stupid but i can’t exactly stop it. usually i don’t express my thoughts out loud so that counts a little i guess…

here are some scenarios it happens:

- i get a specific haircut style and then one of my friends get it, and it makes me very bitter and (i don’t know if this is the right word) but i guess i’d say i also get jealous?

-or when i do a makeup style and my friend also does it after it makes me super annoyed.

-if i have a certain kind of doodle i come up with that i frequently draw and my friends copy it and start doodling it too, that also annoys me

-some music artist i listen to, if someone sees me listen it and then they also start listening to it i also get frustrated

-sometimes i gatekeep things that i’ve never even STARTED before (for example let’s say i want to start playing the violin but i never get around to it and one of my friends do it) then that makes me very annoyed and a little sad.

i know this is all very dumb and i never actually express my thoughts out loud about all this so i guess that’s a good thing, but at the same time i have these thoughts and i feel super bad about it. does anybody else do this? how do i stop??

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  • dude_Jones
    2 years ago

    I eat gatekeepers for lunch.

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    It’s more immature than “gatekeeping”.

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  • radar
    2 years ago

    I'm the opposite. I like seeing when I've influenced people, and I like sharing cool things.

    Sounds like a self esteem issue, you're jealous because you think they're stealing your worth.

    Just remember, everyone can copy but not everyone can generate the ideas. You are the golden goose.

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    • Wow3986
      2 years ago

      Every problem someone has has to do with "low self-esteem".

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      • radar
        2 years ago

        If only it were that easy.

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        • Wow3986
          2 years ago

          Apparently it is, since y'all put every problem someone has down to having low self-esteem.

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          • radar
            2 years ago

            Ok. What’s your opinion then?

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            • Wow3986
              2 years ago

              My opinion is that people need to stop putting every problem someone has down to low self-esteem.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    2 years ago

    I used to gate keep too but I've learned to accept alot. My suggestion is to work on acceptance.

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  • Anonquestionsduh
    2 years ago

    It’s human to want to feel seen. With examples like you describe, it’s easy to become frustrated that the things you thought made you unique or interesting are being taken over by someone else. It’s rooted in insecurity. i try to reframe the thought when it happens. Like someone else said, you inspired something in people.

    That being said, if you have a particular friend that does this a lot, it could be their own insecurity problem.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    2 years ago

    How old are you? If you're in your teens or early 20's you might just eventually grow out of it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      i’m 19

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  • Somenormie
    2 years ago

    People who gatekeep are toxic asses.

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