Is it normal that i keep putting up with this shit?

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Hello everyone! I just joined this website today so I can vent all of my personal feelings and problems to complete strangers the world over!

My best, and only, friend is kinda turning into a huge dick at the moment. He had a kid with a girl about four years ago and at first it was all peachy. Great kid. Horrible bitch of a mother.

The first time she cheated on him with another guy he called me up screaming about having a knife to his throat and not knowing what to do. I drove up there as fast as I could (he lives at least 10 miles away) and had to take the knife away from him (He's 6,5 and I'm 5,4, no easy task). We sort it all out and I call his mother to keep an eye on him for a bit, and hear no more about it. He gets back with her about 6 months later. Nothing is ever said about it again and for a while things seem to be going good between them, and we even go out as a group a few times.

Then his phone breaks and she decides to punish him for this by opening her legs to another guy. He takes it better this time, joking that she's just a slut who cant keep them closed. We chill lots after this, good times with some other friends. We're hanging out pretty much every week.

Then a month ago he asks me to drop him off at the local train station so he can go visit the kid. On the way there he tells me they're back together for a SECOND time. I get the feeling it's not so much seeing the kid as seeing her, because he had no interest in visiting the kid in all those months we've been chilling, and I feel a bit offended because he knows I've got a soft spot for the kid, but can't stand the mother.

He's not hung out with me for ages now, and only texts me when he needs a ride to the station. He said he'd pay me for the lift but then when I showed up "I'll have the cash for you in 2 days time mate."

Should I tell him to go fuck himself?

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Sorry to be blunt, but he's been using you as a stopgap. Time to move on.

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    • GuyWithScrewdriver
      7 years ago

      Hey, thanks for reading and commenting so fast! I get that I'm getting used but he's my first real friend. I met him in college back when I was 18. I'm 26 now and I guess I kinda hero worshiped him, even though he's 2 years younger than me. I'm in kind of a bad place at the moment (trying to cut down on the green and caring for my disabled mother)and it all just seems so fucked , you know? Fuck.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Maybe he's been a real friend in the past, but circumstances and people change and now he's using you.

        You have enough to deal with at the moment without his bullshit and you deserve better. Detaching from him will leave space in your life for better things.

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  • NeilYounger
    7 years ago

    Dude you sound really desperate to have a close friend. This guy sounds like a total loser who is using you. That's a lot of baggage you're carrying taking care of your mom. So focus on finding a female friend. She'll help you carry some of that baggage. That's for sure. She doesn't even have to be your girlfriend, but it certainly can lead to that. And you must know some other dudes you can hang with. You are such a good dude taking care of your mom like you do. You deserve to be with other good people.

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  • Flowerlake88
    7 years ago

    You really need to stand up for yourself! You shouldn't let him use you anymore

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