Is it normal that i kind of look down on polygamy?

I actually kind of agree with you. I watch this show called "Polygamy USA" and it's very insightful into the lives of polygamist. Sex is not really there main motivation for the living the way they do. In there minds this is the way God lives, and that was said by a woman. However, I feel the same way as you, because I wonder, why not have it the other way around? Like you said, a woman with multiple husbands. I will admit though that I am a bit jealous of those people, simply because it looks like they have could have threesomes every night. But it's probably not like that. And yeah it's there life, not mine, so I don't have a say in how they should live it.

Polygamy makes sense to me. I think monogamy is irrational no matter how you look at it.

I believe that polygamy makes only the higher quality males in higher demand yet with higher accessibility, leaving the lesser ones who cannot provide and don't have the most desirable genetics alone to not produce offspring and eventually shut off from society to die out like they should.

I do not understand why anyone is against polygamy. If its not for you, fine, but some people do not want to live they're life with the same person and that is fine as well.
Personally while I've had a couple relationships, I feel naturally aromantic. I do not understand romance yet I still have a sex drive. This makes things hard for me because most women want a relationship to have sex, yet the idea of living with the same person forever is unappealing to me and I'm not someone to lie about wanting love just to have sex. It's a different sexual orientation just like someone who is gay or asexual so you shouldn't be judging because it is a bit hypocritical.

I would love a harem :-)

When I come USA I will be excite to buy many wifes for sex and cook.

The problem isn't with you girlfriend, of this you can be sure.

As a pretty much heterosexual man I can say that the thought of polygamy pretty much bothers me but this is only my personal feeling as I would never want more than one woman/female being at a time...

I'm with you on this one - polygamy just feels really wrong to me. It should be illegal, worldwide. If people want open relationships, fine - but even an atheist like me thinks marriage ought to mean one-on-one.

Q1w2e3 actually does manage to make a couple of decent points - though they are sandwiched between absolute bullshit. I prefer QotSA - No one knows!

Western men have one wife (registered) but have multiple mistresses.

Most of polygamists are religious people and they can have lawful up to 4 wives, most of them are faithful husbands. Islam also sets a very stringent rule if one wants to marry more than one wife, eg; one needs to be financially capable, one needs to be just, one needs to buy different houses for all wives etc etc.

If one woman has many husbands, after some time that woman will contract a disease, it's medically proven. Also, there arises a question about the child, who is the father? It further complicates the lineage, inheritance.. etc.

This doesn't happen with polygamy as the father is the same lesson.

Social justice - during the war, it's men who get killed in big numbers. Women are left behind unmarried.. polygamy is one of the solution in this case. Similarly in many countries there is a gender imbalance, there are more women than men eg; china, India, even in US.

Allah knows and we know not.

Like you said, who are YOU to judge?
You already admitted you are abnormal; you claim to be a lesbo. I don't think a mental hospital or even a shrink would help you; it seems you have some growing up to do. Since you've never been w/a man or any experience you have had with them was so bad that you are now gay, I think you are the last person to judge others in a happy relationship.
Don't knock it if you haven't tried it!

To the OP I will say I completely understand what you mean. I have often wondered this myself. The way it was explained to me is that women have babies and so one dude can impregnate multiple women and they will stay home taking care of all those children. Well that was the theory anyways. So the point of this is to have big families all following one religion. Which from that point it does make sense. There is other type of relationships like this one though. A master/pet relationship. A master can have many pets and the pets are all obedient and loyal to the master. Pets and masters can be any gender. It king of goes into S&M though and each member in the relationship is happy to take on that position. In some cases will volunteer for it.

Look at the idea this way, do you also look down on polyamory? (The practice of one woman marrying multiple men) is this about your personal hangups on a paternal society, or, is it your own personal hangups on men? In the end, its none of your concern what other people do. It also not right for anyone else to look upon what you do. My bedroom is none of your concern, nor is your mine.

Is there a lesbian out there who isn't so massively insecure/hypocritical/jealous/fake/unintelligent/backwards/cock envious/cliche that they won't make me sick when they speak?

I've met several in real life and they were the same, I was like "what is your fucking malfunction? Why are you so petty?" I don't see gay men all speaking/acting like this.

*can't bear

Here is another scenario, man and woman gets married and later finds out that the wife can beat a child. They still love each other. They can adopt but man wants to have his own biological child. Instead of divorcing, after perhaps 10-20 years he can marry to another woman and have a child. He can also adopt a kid with the first wife.

And to the question of one above, yes some woman willingly marry to a person as a 2nd wide or 3rd wife. Marriage is not always about "love" per se. People marry for other reasons as well. For example they might marry a widow who lives alone, so that she can once again have a happy family etc.. Don't just think about sex and love...

The only issue I've got is with it being polygamy (male with multiple wives) and not polyandry (not gender specific).

q1w2e3 makes some good points for only polygamy, although most drawbacks he mentions don't apply anymore due to genetic testing and hopefully pay equality sometime soon.

The only real problem with state recognized polyandry is that inheritance laws would become quite complicated and legal issues would likely arise naturally for quite a whole until the problems were ironed out. Difficulty is not a reason to deny rights though.