Is it normal that i lie about who i am to almost everyone online..?

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Alright, well, since i was about 13 or 14, i go into chat rooms, or play online games like IMVU, Zwinky, Toontown, and Minecraft, and i lie about who i am.
I pretty much make up who i am.
I'm truthfully, an 18 year old female, with a fantastic boyfriend, and a bright future. But i don't feel like i'm interesting enough. So i made up who i wish i was.
I wish i was a guy. I would be happier being a guy. So i pretend, on these online games, that i'm a 17 or 18 year old guy named Alex Sawyer. I look "scene" which is like emo styles. I tell these people that i'm this person and i get over thousands of friends and people actually want to talk to me. I make up a fake story about my life. I tell them my father died in a car crash with me when i was 12. In real life, my father is alive and well, and so is my mother.
I get a ton of attention being this person, and people want to talk to me more as Alex. But if i'm just plain old me, i'm just uninteresting and totally boring.
Basically, what i want to know, is this lying a sin? I mean, i don't ever have close relationships with these people. We just talk for a bit and move on mostly. Of course, i am myself on facebook, and other sites too. Just Zwinky and IMVU really, i'm this Alex guy.
I feel like i can't stop. I'm so lonely and have pretty much no one to talk to, and people find me (Alex) interesting this way and love me.
Some part of me wants to say "Nooo, you're not hurting anyone, and no one really knows your or really cares to know you. So you're fine." but then i do know that i am in fact lying, and God does talk about lying.. i don't want to disobey, but this urge to be this way is so strong, you have no idea x.x I've done this all my life and it's given me a massive amount of satisfaction.. but i can't keep doing this, i know. I don't want to hurt God, i don't want to disobey him x.x is this serious lying? HELP D:

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    If you're lonely, what's this about a boyfriend and two parents? Surely if you have a boyfriend you are social enough to have friends which I'm sure you do.

    Remember, lying like this doesn't make you important, it just makes others think the person you pretend to be is, not you.

    A habit you should get out of. It makes you sound like an attention grabber, in my opinion.

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    • Blargh
      11 years ago

      I am an attention grabber.. :/
      My boyfriend lives 3 states away from me.. we moved.
      I'm homeschooled for the rest of the school year, and we live in the middle of nowhere.

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      • Blargh
        11 years ago

        Oh, and my moms never home and my dad lives many states away. So i live in my room pretty much..

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    • joybird
      11 years ago

      I could've sworn that you said that you are only yourself on this site but on a daily basis you pretend to be something you are not!

      I doubt you are the right person to give advice if this is the case.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        There is a difference. I only act different in different situations, I don't make up stories about my past. I am the same person, just with a different shell.

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  • hamwich
    11 years ago

    The internet was made for the kind of thing you're doing. It seems harmless.

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  • Shrunk
    11 years ago

    are you lying right now? :P
    but I do that too, not to the point of making stories like that, although I have one in my head all the time for this guy character that is supposedly me. most people just assume I'm a guy on the internet so I go with it because it's more fun and I prefer the way I'm treated as such, I've even dressed up as a cute boy in reality to take pics for my profiles on games like Second life, gaia, isketch, I never lie, they just assume, I hint at certain things and don't deny whatever they guess of me. It's also more anonymous that way. I would say just don't get yourself too involved, you will get trapped in your lies.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    something else you may want to consider - many of us "old hats" with the internet don't automatically believe every story they read anyway.

    I once went online and chatted as if i was a sandwich. actually it was fun. I kept flopping on a plate.

    but obviously i wasn't really a sandwich ;)

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  • zchristian
    11 years ago

    I used to partly lie some years back but now im nearly 110% honest...

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Yes. It's the internet. My first assumption is always that people here aren't who they claim to be. Nothing wrong with a fantasy outlet.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Im actually more honest online as i don't know the people so it doesn't matter if they don't like me or my beliefs.

    I lie alot about myself and other things to peoples faces though.

    N N N N NOSTRIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • theaverageatheist
    11 years ago

    i think your problem is that you are isecure with who you realy are, or some people can get addicted to lying especialy online because it's much easier. lots of peole do it on line for it's a good way to try out motiple pesonalities, THINK OF IT AS ACTING. try out other characters that's much more healthy, because you can risck preferring to be this Alex in the real world.
    the most important thing is don't do is in your normal-not-the-computer-life.

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  • Sillygoose
    11 years ago

    Just be an athiest. Then, you wouldn't have this problem!

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    • Blargh
      11 years ago

      uh no thanks lol

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