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From the ages of 14 and 15 I have always had my eye on older men In their 30's and 40's. From such a young age i refused to look or think about anyone who was younger than 28 for they seemed extremely young to me. Could it be because I've never had a father figure In my life? or could It be due to my maturity level being more advanced than the other teenagers I knew?
I'm 81 and still have sex with youngsters from age 18 to 50. I guess I'd be called a cougar, and while I'm married to a very sexy 81 year old man, his erections aren't as hard or as satisfying as a young man's. BTW, my husband has had a mistress who was 99 and he had oral sex with her until she died at 104. Sex can last forever, if you work at it.
Sorry no, it had nothing to do with maturity, more so yes, not having a father figure. Criminal minds and CSI have proven this
Ya, most guys (and some girls too) under the age of 25 are completely clueless about how to behave normally in a relationship. I understand your frustration there.
But...
You're young (I'm assuming 17-21 ??), and guys that old are too old for you. It would be a bit creepy for a man in his 30s or 40s to date a girl your age - like why can't they find someone their own age. Since women tend to out live their male counterparts by several years, and they tend to marry men who are older (usually only 4-10 years older), they end up being widows for the last two decades of their lives. That may not seem like such an issue to you now because you are still young, but it will matter one day when you are middle aged and have to deal with a husband who is a senior citizen.
It is your choice, but always keep your future in mind. There are a few young guys out there that are more mature than the others - keep your eyes open for them.
It has a lot to do with maturity, as well as expectations. If you want certain things a young man won't give you emotionally, or what have you? I am married to a 40 year old, and she offers me nothing anymore. Weight issues, mental issues, constantly negative, hates herself, no longer out going ect... God i would kill to be with a 18 year old again, just to live and feel alive again. No strings attatched fun. Friends with benefits.
Teenagers and girls in their 20s still have body image issues. Don't you remember having female friends in highschool and college!? They'll drive you even more crazy with their problems. I'm 20 years old, and I always complained to my bf about my looks. He always had to complement me.
I hope you mean older, as in 3 years older. . Your attraction to older men can definitely be linked to your psychological issues, Id recommend you getting therapy.
You don't have to have everything in common to have a good relationship, and you don't have to have ANYTHING in common to have good sex. What you like is what you like, and nobody can tell you it's wrong as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult.
I'm an older guy (47) who loves younger women. I find them delightfully open-minded, fun, and unspoiled compared with women my own age. . . and I like to be with someone who is young and hot enough for me to physically worship in bed.
The problem for me is that I feel like I can't make the first move on the women I'm interested in, for fear of being creepy. I'm up for a relationship but not clingy or jealous or needy, so if a young woman is interested, she just needs to let me know, and let me know what her boundaries are.
So, do you live in Northern California? I'd love to meet some interested young women! :)
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