Is it normal that i love to be alone?

I sit by myself all the time in school, and I do have friends -- I don't know, I don't go to people, they come to me. The truth is, I really sort of hate my friends, not because of anything they do, but just because they're THERE. And I want to be alone. I don't have a problem with it, my loner-ness, but I've been sent to the guidance counselor and the teachers say they're worried about me (which pisses me off), and I also sort of hate my family (again -- for no particular reason). All I want to do most of the time is draw, read, write, listen to music, and be by myself. Everyone annoys me by not understanding that I don't want them around. I have never met anyone like me. Normal?

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89% Normal
Based on 168 votes (150 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • Avant-Garde

    I'm the same. I don't like to be around others. I prefer to be alone. I like to do solitary activities. It's just so hard to be around others, I get so stressed out. I haven't been sent to a "guidance consular" for it, but old my psychiatrist got on my back for it. My mother often accuses me and asks if I'm "depressed" and if I want to talk. There's absolutely nothing to talk about. I used to be extremely social as a kid, but I'm no longer am. Things change and I'm tried of people thinking that "the act of being alone" means something serious. I have friends, but I really don't want to have anything to do with them. I don't want to go out them and do "activities". I'm perfectly fine with the occasional text, but not psychical contact.

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  • FrIz7

    This extroverts society will never understand introverts...
    But don't worry bro,most of genius people are introverts.

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  • Sillygoose

    This is a mirror image of me...you seem awesome sir!

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  • it gets old

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  • NoraBaker

    I understand you. I voted "normal" only to express "I've seen a lot of it", for I know several people like you and I am somewhat similar. I'm a very sociable person, but only when I am up for people. If I'm not and I'm forced to socialize, I have the same feelings of annoyance as you. Try to sense when you're a little more expansive and use those moments to interact with family and friends, even if you don't really want to that much. They are important people for you, I assume. In being so, you'll want to keep the connection alive. That can only be done through interaction.

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  • valbdreamer

    Totally normal. That normal, you shouldn't be worrying about it.

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  • MiPreciosa

    i feel the same exactly way. Love my friends and family, but love to stay alone cause i can talk and listen myself and do the things i want.
    But sometimes is good to show them some love and stay when they needed and also great to know you can count on them.

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  • carterjm4

    Be yourself. I am an extreme introvert and people don't get my tainted humor much, but I enjoy myself and the few people I wanna be around if I wanna be around them. No worries.

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  • loyally

    I started to think I wrote this post until I got to the "draw" part. I think you're totally normal. Those teachers need to suck it.

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  • topaz_x3

    Same! I'm kinda introverted at times.. love my friends but really I'd rather be alone doind

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  • Ryan556

    The only people I hang around is well my gf and thats cause I have to

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe

    wow, i feel the same way as whoever created this post. it is completely normal to want to be left alone. as long as you are happy in your own space there is nothing wrong with that. usually its the people who dont like being alone that are the problem. there's something inside themselves that they cannot deal with. i respect that you have matured to the level where you are happy in your own space alone. its very difficult for humans to do that, i.e. - highschool cliques, religious organizations, etc. people use Groups to hide their insecurities. its a great big bandaid. people are afraid to be alone and afraid to be in their ownspace. they are afraid of themselves, and you have conquered that fear. you should be proud. dont listen to your guidance couselor when he/she tries to label you with things like Disassociative disorder or something stupid like Depression, anxiety, or OCD. Psychologists, Therapists, Counselors, Psychiatrists are stupid. they know it, they just dont want us to know it or they wont be able to make a living off their nonsense anymore. they are scared of the world around them, which is why they resort to labeling everything around them.by falsely labeling everything around them, they are trying to relate to a world that they know nothing about - mainly because they didnt create it. the best thing you can do to kick the Counselor's a** is be yourself completely, which is normal. dont let their perception of you change your perception of yourself. its your life you live it the way you want to live it. meditate and listen to the person within. good luck. keep us posted so that we can give you positive feed back if you want.

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  • Thanks, guys. I didn't THINK it was out of the ordinary, but I thought I should ask random strangers on the Internet just to make sure.

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