Is it normal that i'm afraid of getting older?

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I always feel concerned about aging. Like I feel I'm going to completely disappear. I've always been paid attention too and complimented for my looks. I'm just afraid that I'm going to lose them permanently, you know. When you've been called gorgeous all of your life and can have anybody you want, wouldn't you be afraid of losing those qualities?

I put on like 15 pounds over the summer and saw the change of how people reacted to me. It was like I wasn't invisible but was starting to become invisible, it's scary. How do I cope, how do I live?

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    Honestly, if you're afraid of losing your looks, then perhaps you might want to find somebody who likes you for who you are as a person, not cause of your outer beauty. It seems like that's all that you've been valued for, so that's why I'm suggesting you find someone who values your personality. Looks fade, and I'm sorry but that's just a part of life, but personality is something that doesn't really erode.

    Alternatively, you could just learn to value yourself as a person. If people compliment you great, but don't forget that what really matters is what's on the inside. I know that finding a person to accept your flaws and all can be difficult, but I suggested the previous solution cause it is easier to deal with stuff if you're not alone.

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals
      10 years ago

      I disagree with this. We can't wish away the fact that a majority of people DO value looks over anything else, so it's a nice thing to have and normal to fear losing it.
      I really wish people would value me for my looks and not personality, since I myself am attracted to girls who are out of my league looks-wise.

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      • Anime7
        10 years ago

        I never said that people don't value looks, hell everybody values looks to some degree. Some more than others. I'm just saying though that while people value looks, some value personality a lot more. And that's the type of person that the OP should be around. I'm not saying that her fear is not normal, plenty of people fear getting old and being ugly. I'm just saying that if you learn to love yourself it might help, and learning to love yourself if another person already does makes it easier.

        And hey, one day you'll meet a nice attractive girl. Just get out more and try to be more sociable.

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  • filiasan
    10 years ago

    I fear getting old, but my reasons aren't limited to looks. I admit, I'm afraid of getting uglier. Women are judged by their looks far too much. But, for some reason, I can't find a good think about growing old. You fall apart physically, and mentally. And you lose more money, trying to stay alive. My only drive to keep living is to do so for the ones I love.
    Find people to love, who love you back. They make life more livable.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    If that is what you are most concerned about, your looks, then it's really just a matter of hard work in the gym, for the next 20 years or so. If you are lucky enough to have small breasts, then they won't sag to your navel and of course there's always plastic surgery.
    It's a whole lot easier and cheaper to accept that you will age and if you try to age gracefully, stay in shape and find friends who aren't with you just because you are gorgeous, now. How old are you?
    The only alternative to growing old is a pretty stupid choice.

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  • wet
    9 years ago

    yes. especially if youre a girl

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  • ThatCreepyWhiteGuy
    10 years ago

    Just make a clone of yourself from several years ago, kill yourself, and posess the clone. Thats how I plan on surviving for eternity.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Do you have any substance or are you just about the looks?

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