Is it normal that i'm afraid to have sex because of pregnancy? (guy)

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I'm 19 and probably going to lose my virginity soon. It is likely going to be a cold emotionless rite-of-passage primarily due to my friend hooking me up with some girl he knows. I have no regrets about making my first time a loveless one night stand and I'm not interested in being lectured on why I should wait until 'the right person'. I'm not afraid of std's outside of hiv, but this is statistically unlikely (granted even if I do get it, I'm a goner anyway, so not much to worry about).

The part that I am deathly afraid of is the pregnancy possibility. Even with proper protection AND pulling out, there is still about a 2% chance that this could occur. This is worse than any possible std because a child would destroy my life and make it a miserable experience (I don't plan on EVER having children to begin with). It would ruin my huge dreams and plans for the future. People have sex all the time though with little regard or worry about this complication though. I really desire to eliminate my virginity because it is the source of embarrassment with me and I spend a great deal of time wishing I could be experiencing sex.

I have no inhibitions about stds or the fact that I'm going to lose my virginity to loveless sex to a random slut. But, the chance of pregnancy is scaring me half to death about the upcoming event. I'm not looking for you guys to discourage me from doing this, because I am going to do it no matter what. I just want to know if my fear of a pregnancy chance is normal.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago | pl

    Hell yes it is normal and I WISH there were more men on Earth like you! A man that doesn't want to end up being some dumb-slut's baby daddy and is willing to take measures to prevent the baby momma drama from happening? If anything, it is a sign of intelligence to have the forsight to be knowledgable of the risks and for that I praise you!

    In fact, if you thought any differently then I am sure many IIN users would be begging you to NOT lose your V-card! But please, someday, reproduce. You used paragraph breaks and proper syntax. Your genes are valuable, son.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I just wanna say, I took the time to read most of your comments and they are awesome!! :)

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      It was impressive, considering both the length, breadth of subjects discussed and proper sentence structure.

      The fears are rational. Just wear protection, only dummies get pregnant when using protection. Someone of your intelligence wont.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        12 years ago

        God would not allow a slut to be blessed with a child that could, quite possibly, graduate from high school someday.

        I just realized how mean that sounds...
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        I stand by it.

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        • milkymum
          12 years ago

          so your saying all sluts kids are thick as shit!!!

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          • NeuroNeptunian
            12 years ago

            Babe, tell me something, are your kids thick as thick as that ass you got goin in?

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          I dont know, I have seen some pretty stupid slutty people have some pretty unexpectedly successful children. Well the kids are young, but definitely not what you expect.

          Its similar to how you see really ugly people have good looking kids for some reason.

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          • tiffunny5
            12 years ago

            Lmao !
            Soooo true about ugly people having good looking kids.
            Ive always tried to figure that one out.

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          • NeuroNeptunian
            12 years ago

            It's called a genetic anamoly and it is unlikely.

            Being that I am from ghetto-redneck town, I have witnessed, first hand, the cycle of stupidity being perpetuated through the generations, with a cycle breaker here and there but the general pattern remains a constant. By stupidity, I mean people who *genuinly* believe that nobody plans pregnancy, and that it is permissable not to make an effort to prevent it.

            I'm not an anon or an internet person, I have a real life and a social life and I am one of those common lay people that you see every day hanging out with a group of people and doing my thing. I've met many people and I don't think that more sheltered individuals understand just how many babies are born due to lack of use of birth control, literal ignorance of birth control or plain ole fucking whomever and not even thinking of the consequences. It's insane.

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            • [Old Memory]
              12 years ago

              Yes I agree with what you are saying, most of the time the pattern fits the standard that has been the norm. If that makes sense.

              People can be relied on to be one of two things, unreliably predictable and reliably unpredictable, meaning the moment you think they understand responsibility they will screw it up royally, OR when you think they are destined to be a bonehead they will surprise you with amazing insight.

              You also cant discount the role religion plays in it as well, many thick headed individuals believe birth control is sacrilegious and that if Jesus didnt want me to have any more babies then he wouldnt be sending them to me. TLC's 27 and counting or whatever it is, is a perfect example.

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  • tiffunny5
    12 years ago

    No worries, have the girl go to a pharmacist and get whats called a "plan B" It's like a birth control pill that is about 99% affective. Its Not an abortion pill, if a girl was prego it wouldnt do anything (google it).
    I have 5 kids and we Do Not want anymore!! Im not on any birth control but I do use a plan B whenever I need too and and I havent gotten prego in 6 years.

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    • lc1988
      12 years ago

      Yeah you're not supposed to use that for birth control. Plus, it's expensive.

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      • tiffunny5
        12 years ago

        You shouldnt use it "as" a every day birth control. And I dont.
        Expensive??? Babies cost a Hell of a lot more !!!

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        • lc1988
          12 years ago

          It's about $50 where I live. That's an expensive mistake. Of course it cheaper than getting an abortion though.

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          • tiffunny5
            12 years ago

            Yes it is an expensive mistake. But Its cheaper than having a baby !!

            Toy with fire and you might get burned.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      12 years ago

      Using plan B like that will render you infertile within a period of time and can horribly damage your uterus and hormones. You should probably stop and just go on hormones before you wake up in quite a bit of pain.

      You are probably infertile already...

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      • tiffunny5
        12 years ago

        "Like that" ??
        Like what?? You dont know how much I've needed to use it.
        Thank you for being So concerned for my health.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          12 years ago

          What are you talking about? I'm telling you that using it on even a semi-regular basis can fuck you up in the long run.

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          • tiffunny5
            12 years ago

            I know. Thats why I dont use it on a semi regular basis.
            Taking a birth control pill every day causes the same problems. Thats why I dont do that either.

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            • Its_Called_Love
              12 years ago

              How often are you taking it?Just to stop all future bitching on the matter.

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  • JustDave
    12 years ago

    I'd say consider waiting for this reason alone- suppose she does get pregnant? Would you rather raise a kid with some dumb slut or someone you actually love? Although i'm no virgin, it's the reason I don't have "casual" sex.

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    I find it actually very refreshing to find a male that's concerned about having sex due to the pregnancy.

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    • Jukebox13
      12 years ago

      I couldn't agree any more! :)

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  • Ney
    12 years ago

    "protect yourself at all times" and worrying won't do you any good.. enjoy your life, worry less and be responsible.

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  • beastie
    12 years ago

    GUYS can't get pregnant.
    So you're safe, dude!
    Honestly, what passes for sex education in the schools these days???

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      It would be nice if you could actually take the time to read an actual three paragraph story before trying to act condescending. I never once in my story stated that 'I' could get pregnant, I showed concern over getting a girl pregnant.

      The only reason my title is slightly misleading (which anyone who understands context in the slightest could figure out) is because the title length on here required me to type things awkwardly to fit them to length.

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      • Its_Called_Love
        12 years ago

        Use spermicide and maybe look up other forms of contraception you can use along with a condom.

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    • Lynxikat
      12 years ago

      Ah, so you support the existence of dead beat dads? What a sad world we live in.

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      • beastie
        12 years ago

        LOL, no I support education and understanding the basic way the human body works.
        Men DO NOT get pregnant.

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    make her take the morning after pill

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    use a condom. no STD. no babies.

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  • Ibelievethis
    12 years ago

    1 word of advice never ever rely on the pull out method as prior to ejaculation you will release sperm anyways. Also you may get so caught up in the moment that you amy not be able to pull out. x

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  • Its_Called_Love
    12 years ago

    Add spermicide, it practically eliminates the baby chances. :)

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  • catfan
    12 years ago

    Have fun and do what you think is right. Bye. I'm going off to paint my shirt. LOL

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  • jam12
    12 years ago

    Its normal to be afraid. Who would want to be pregnant at age 19.

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  • bugger
    12 years ago

    When can I eat it out? YUMMMM

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  • ben&jerry<3
    12 years ago

    Luckily for you, most girls with loose morals are on birth control (I like to sleep around without the worry of pregnancy so I am on bc). Also, there is a new drug that will be approved soon by the FDA that will act as a male contraceptive. Also, if you are THAT concerned you could get a vasectomy, which, if you one day decide to have children, can be reversed.

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  • Jukebox13
    12 years ago

    I've once heard of condoms that has lube which destroys sperm just in case in breaks or whatever. Is it true?

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Yeah, its called spermicide. There are several different forms of it. All are great to use, they really help put your mind at ease.

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  • ITgirl232
    12 years ago

    if u wear protection (and make sure that it has no holes or looks suspicious) then u should be fine and have nothing to worry about.

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  • Ziggy2
    12 years ago

    Jah

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  • DarkAngel212
    12 years ago

    Don't worry about it go ahead and get your sex on; you sound like you have been very thorough...tho having a gf can be really awesome :)

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  • jamesmitchell29486
    12 years ago

    for one unless a girl is ovulating you can usually cum deep inside her without a problem not advisable but can be done and even if she is ovulating it usually takes more than one try and even then even on her peak ovulation day you would have to produce good sperm and if you have came recently both volume and spermcount and motility will be down mating is a tricky buisiness in humans son so if you use a condom (which i don't technically see as loss of virginity but i leave that uop to your judgement)it is very unlikely she will get pregnant it usually takes 2 weeks of at least once a day cum deep inside fucking for the fertilization to take hold.

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    • lc1988
      12 years ago

      Wow...so not true.

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      • ccjigsaw
        12 years ago

        Not to be all technical, but it is true. A woman is only impregnatable when she is ovulating. Approximately 14 days after the day she starts her period. I'm a nurse. We don't hand out morning after pills on a slip up if it's not near ovulation time. It's about 3 days a month that a woman can actually get pregnant :P

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        • lc1988
          12 years ago

          I wasn't saying not true to that. You should be able to see some false statements if you were a nurse.

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          • ccjigsaw
            12 years ago

            Your right, there are. I just thought you guys were talking about ovulation, which is mostly true. I figured it would put his mind to rest to know that it's actually quite a task to get pregnant. Alot of couples struggle with it, opposed to the commom misconception of it being something that just happens all the time.

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            • lc1988
              12 years ago

              Yeah I guess it depends on the person but for me, one time just ONE time the condom broke and bam..pregnant.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        12 years ago

        Bad piece of advice, dude.

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    • Ibelievethis
      12 years ago

      Sperm can live in your body for 5 days after intercourse. So in a nutshell if a women has sex 5 days before ovulation takes place she can still get pregnant. x

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    • catfan
      12 years ago

      You are bugging me. You broke me brain, too. Charli.m also said that. You have GOT to make that shorter!

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    • underager
      12 years ago

      Q: What do you call someone who practises the rhythm method?
      A: A parent!!!!! :)

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    • tiffunny5
      12 years ago

      Wow ! You should delete your comment, do your homework and try again.

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    • charli.m
      12 years ago

      That just broke my brain...

      WTF?

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