Is it normal that i'm an aspie but i hate other aspies?

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They really get on my nerves, especially a relative I live with. They are so damn LITERAL and keep focusing on unimportant details. I have trained myself not to do it because it annoyed me like hell. I will be having a conversation with one about trees and he will nitpick a random word and correct me on it, or go off on some tangent about it while completely missing the point of the topic.

Then there's the arrogance. I don't know why, but many aspies (not all, but many) are so damn arrogant and self-centered I can't stand it. I don't know if their parents spoiled them or what, but I get sick of hearing "oh I wasn't paying attention because I don't care about that". I told a friend he would be homeless if he didn't get a job and to snap out of it and come back to the real world. He said "meh I'm not reliable, i'll just commit suicide if it gets too bad". He never takes ANYTHING seriously, like he's living in a dream world.

I can totally understand why some people don't like me, although I try very hard not to appear "weird". I keep my ticks in check and I try not to be so shy. But I was raised to be polite, have manners and not be a total selfish ass.

Are all these aspies just spoiled assholes or is this just part of being an aspie? I would much rather hang around "normal" people than other aspies, which is why I quit my "support" group which was just a bunch of childish adults whining about not being able to be home and play videogames all day.

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handsignals

9 years ago

Mom said if I didn't turn the PlayStation off and clean my room...she'd stop buying Hot Pockets! :.( I'm just a boy Mom! I'm only 34!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I have a relative the same age with the same diagnosis, but he refuses to go outside and do anything. He's literally just like you described even though what you said is a joke.
  
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  - handsignals
    
    9 years ago
    
    .....yes...a joke...fuck my life.
    
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zzyzx

9 years ago

Not every Aspie will have the exact same symptoms as you. It's not as if they are choosing to be self-centred or that they have been brought up by their parents to be that way. It is just how their brain developed and people hating them won't change it. You're fortunate that you don't have this particular symptom of Asperger's Syndrome but I'm sure you have others. How would it make you feel if people hated you for something you have no control over?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  So "but that is their problem, so fuck them all" doesn't count as "choosing" to be self-centered? That is absolutely impossible to believe, sorry. Autism doesn't cause people to be asses, they learn it.
  
  If that user said that to me in person, the mood i'm in right now I would have kneed him in the jewels.
  
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NeuroNeptunian

9 years ago

That's kind of what happens when you let a diagnosis define who you are.

It is like a trump card. You can be as weird and fucking idiotic as you want and if someone calls you on it, you can say "I have High Functioning Autism/Asperger's Syndrome, I don't know any better". However, you are conscious of it. You are aware of it. Having HFA doesn't mean that you should not be held responsible for your actions.

I'm going to throw in that I was diagnosed for (and treated for) HFA before someone decides to step in and tell me that I'm an ignorant fuck and that HFA incorporates these qualities and that it is beyond their control. It's ok to be weird. It's ok to be fucking weird as hell. It is not ok to use a diagnosis to avoid trying to become a functioning adult.

There are people out there with far worse developmental delays than HFA who are functioning within our society. They put a lot of work and effort into doing so. I fail to see any sense in anyone seriously believing that HFA is an excuse for not being a functioning adult. Ambition is not contingent on your intellect or ability to quickly master a skill.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Im diagnosed with aspergers and schizoaffective and have trouble relating to anyone including people with my same symptoms. I am often told I am annoying, but that is other peoples problem, so fuck them all. Anyway I get that just because someone has a similar diagnoses does not mean they have anything in common besides similar neurologial problems.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  This is the type of assholeyness I was talking about.
  
  If I know i'm annoying a group of people, majority rules and I try to tone down whatever it is i'm doing that is offensive to them. I know it is MY problem, not theirs.
  
  And yes it is your problem and not theirs. You are just being a selfish ass to say otherwise, which is what my OP is about. All these self-centered, arrogant asshats who think of nobody but their own selves.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    I shouldnt have to conform myself out of my own behavior to please other people. I have realized that rather than going out of my way to fit in at my own discomfort I would rather make an attempt to enjoy what time I have here. I never know what pisses people off anyway so it shouldnt be a burden I have to carry.
    You do not sound to have such a plesant attitude youself either.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      Normally I do, but after a few incidents regarding this in the same week, I'm extremely annoyed.
      
      It is quite easy to tell when people are being irritated by yourself even if you don't know what is irritating them. The safe thing for an oblivious aspie/autie to do is to stop doing or saying anything other than what needs to be done (ie, work), or just walk away.
      
      Staying around purposely pissing people off and not caring is a selfish, asshat thing to do. And saying what you said just proves my point. Most aspies I know are selfish asshats who couldn't care less how other people feel, and that is why nobody likes them. That is probably why you have "trouble relating" to anyone. You'd rather just say "fuck them" than actually sit and try to force yourself how to learn to deal with them.
      
      And yes, you should have to conform yourself to the societal standards of politeness and manners. That is how society works. I'm sure in prehistoric times you would be thrown out of the tribe with that attitude.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        Calm down.
        Anytime I am pissing somebody purposely, I am just being an asshole. But also there is no way to be certain what will upset someone. Therefore I am not just going to do or say what is expected. I have the right to say what I want just like anybody does. I usually have no idea if someone will get upset, so I just do things by random chance.
        I have manners in my own perception. I share with people who share and I dont create any drama. I pick up after myself and show respect to those who show me respect and until someone causes me a lot of problems I dont have any issues with them.
        
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RileyJJ

7 years ago

hello fellow aspie it is totally normal for many aspies to act this way the aspergers brain is wired very different to the NT brain we function differently in a way and again if you meat one person with aspergers you've meat one person with aspergers every aspie is different no two are ever alike they may have the same traits but they always have something less in common and yes some aspies hate each other reason is we are not alike some of us can be as smart as Einstein but some of us can be average or below average intelligence so yea don't compare the 2 they are both two different people in there own unique way

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IndoorGardener

9 years ago

Totally normal, as someone with ASD who was raised and trained myself enough that I can pass for normal, I can't stand many others with "high functioning autism" or Asperger's Syndrome (which is no longer recognized as a condition by the APA). Many (most) of these people are selfish, arrogant, rude, obnoxious, self-centered, and unpleasant to be around. They refuse to change for the better. They reject the idea that they might be the cause of other people's discomfort around them. They are immature and lazy, and they use their diagnosis as an excuse. This is one of the most irritating groups of people you will ever come across.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Do you think it is natural or learned behavior?
  
  I really think it is the way we are raised - either spoiled because of the diagnosis or encouraged to be socially awkward by demanding parents who want a nerd for a child.
  
  I don't think either is an excuse, though.
  
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