Is it normal that i'm often afraid someone i love will die suddenly?

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It's been getting stronger and more frequent the longer I'm in this relationship. Thing is, the relationship is fantastic. We've been together for a year, I love her, and honestly I feel happier than I ever have.

But I think that's what causes it. Since I don't see this relationship ending on its own any time soon, I'm terrified that something out of our control will happen and she'll die suddenly. The theme I usually return to is a car accident, which is what I'm freaking out about right now. She left earlier today to run a number of errands, including replacing her phone--so I know I won't be able to contact her until she has a new one and it's up and running.

But it's been 3 hours, and my imagination is getting to me again, and I just wish I knew she was okay, and how to not worry when I don't have any particular reason to.

So. Anyone else do this?

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  • Juniperroach
    12 years ago

    Its normal to fear the death of a loved one. Its not normal if it disrupts daily life. It seems to be causing you a lot of anxiety, this is not good for you. Like with most fears you can learn to handle it & calm yourself.

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  • chadams
    12 years ago

    I think about my children dying all the time. When I catch myself doing it I tell myself that if it happens there is nothing you can do about it. Use those thoughts to remind you to enjoy every minute with your loved ones.

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  • pretzel
    12 years ago

    wnevr any1 doesnt pick up my call the first thing that strikes on my mind is that he might hv died n dt gives me a lot of tension until that person calls me up bck again

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    It is normal and completely understandable. Death is permanent. There is no way to change it, fix it, or make it better. It is what it is and there is no coming back from it.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    Yes. :)

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