Is it normal that i'm this scared to talk to a cute guy?

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I don't know what's wrong with me. There's this guy that works at a Barnes and Noble that I go to all the time, and I get so nervous when he's around that even the thought of talking to him makes me want to throw up. I'm an 18 year old girl and have never had a boyfriend.

So anyway, there's barely ever anyone at that store so he's always alone. When I have to talk to him (outside the counter) like for him to help me find a book or something, I put my hands on my back pockets so he won't see I'm shaking, and I can't look at him in the eye. Then when I'm at the cashier, instead of putting the money in his hands I wait for him to look away then put it on the counter. Then when he gives me my change I pretend to be doing something with my wallet so he puts the change on the counter. Then I pick it up when he looks away. This way he won't see how much my hands shake when he's around.

I really want to get over it but I have like a FEAR of talking to people, especially if I'm attracted to them. Is this normal?

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  • YBNORML
    12 years ago

    It's funny because it reminds the poster of himself.

    It is normal, and refreshing to hear a girl talk about it. Usually it is guys who are the ones scared s******* of talking to a girl.

    In fact, if he hasn't talked to you yet he might be feeling the same thing. Test that. Be honest. Next time you buy soething say, OMG I get so nervous when I talk to you. Open door. You just flattered him, and by being REAL endeared yourself. Unless he is either super shy or super stuck up he is going to talk to you.

    It is normal to feel fear when attracted, because you become attached to the outcome, and what if he rejects me?

    So, while he MIGHT be THE ONE. Most likely, he is one of many. In fact you should decide to get to know many different men (100 is the rule of tumb) before deciding who, or what kind of man you want. Although after 35 guys or so you are pretty much there.

    With that firmly in mind, his importance just dropped 100 times.

    The benefit of being a girl is there are 100 guys right behind this one dying for you to say hi to them, and who would be trembling talking to you.

    As an exercise, go in and talk to as many people as you can before and while you are at the book store. This warms you up, makes him less scary and since he has watched you talking to everyone else it is normal and expected you would talk to him.

    The practice makes you more confident as well. Confidence is attractive.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thanks, this really helped :D

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      • YBNORML
        12 years ago

        You are welcome. All the best.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    How are you ever going to get his cock in your mouth if you keep this stuff up? Smarten up and talk to him, invite him to your place and suck his fucking cock. Simple.

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  • asparagus
    11 years ago

    Oh my gosh. This is EXACTLY what happens to me, only my guy works at the dollar store! I shake like crazy, too much to even hand him the money, and the most I can ever say to him is "hi." Thanks for asking this question, I feel better!

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      lol

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  • doxies4life
    12 years ago

    I'm freaking shy talking to girls, I think after talking to someone for a while you kind of get used to it. Try and get some opposite sex friends that's what I did and that helped a little.

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  • :)BABYDOLL:)
    12 years ago

    Lol. Sorry but this is funny.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      How is it funny?

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      • :)BABYDOLL:)
        12 years ago

        Sorry but I was fucked up and drunk when I wrote that oh my bad!

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  • shadylover1218
    12 years ago

    You're just shy.. like me, lol

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