Is it normal that i want to die before i get old?

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Its not that I want to forever stay young or whatever. It's just that I don't see the point of living past 40. I would have accomplished everything that I ever wanted to do, which is not much, in life way before than. So for the rest of my life I'll just be sitting there doing absolutely nothing but trying to survive. So I want to die before I get old. Is this normal?

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tori

11 years ago | pl

When I was a teen, I thought I would never make it to age 21. Guess what? I made it. And even further than what you consider "old". Life is a good ride. Sit down, hold on, and shout "watch out life, here I come!"

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- KeddersPrincess
  
  11 years ago
  
  Aw, I like that:) That should be a famous quote.
  
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  - JustinBiebsFan#1
    
    11 years ago
    
    my grandma always told me a famous quote - "Fuck Detroit"
    
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  - tori
    
    11 years ago
    
    Thanks! Use it anytime you want! :)
    
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iEatZombies_

11 years ago

I say not normal only because 40 is pretty young- you still have goals at that age. Hell, 40 is when you can start truly enjoying what you worked your ass off for.

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- VioletTrees
  
  11 years ago
  
  Yeah, my dad's 50 and he just ran a marathon. 40 is ridiculously young to die.
  
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Wendell

11 years ago

Talkin' 'bout my generation

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Sorry. Didn't mean to offend anyone. That's just how I see it for me. 40 to most really isn't that old, but to me it is.
  
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  - Wendell
    
    11 years ago
    
    No, that was a reference to the Who song "My Generation". It's ok, I was'nt offended or anything
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Oh wow. I feel stupid right now. Lol
      
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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

I'm scared as well. On on hand, I don't want to live to 40 even though I'm realising that it isn't that old. It's still somewhat young. If anything, I'm more fearful of 50+. I don't want to age and deteriorate. I don't want to die either even though I know that everyone dies at some point. I don't want to deal with it.

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forever_anon

11 years ago

To some extent, yes. Really, 40 is not that old compared to the average life expectancy, but I understand your sentiments. I sometimes think that when I get into my 60's, I will try to fall from a horse or pull some other dangerous stunt so I will die before I get old enough to be mentally and physically debilitated. But the truth is that "old" is relative term. When we get close to ages 40 and 60, we will probably find that we have reasons to continue living.

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NocturnePonyFan

11 years ago

I share your thoughts. I've already decided that if some disease or some angry person doesn't kill me by age 35, I'm going to do it myself. There's really no reason to live past that age if you really can't do much. Some people have shit to live for, and some people don't. ^_^

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- chp316
  
  11 years ago
  
  Okay, by age 35 you want to die?! Are you freaking kidding me!!
  
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  - NocturnePonyFan
    
    11 years ago
    
    Not at all. I've determined my life is never going to amount to much, and growing old would be a waste of time for me. Thus, if something doesn't kill me before my cut-off date of my 35th birthday, I will do it myself. I'm certainly not waiting another 60-70 years for absolutely nothing.
    
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    - chp316
      
      11 years ago
      
      Okay, really, all bullshit put aside. I am really worried for you, Life doesn't really start for most people untill 35. can i ask you how old you are now? 35 is not old sweetie, and i do not know if you are male or female, but i still call you sweetie, ok? I am 48, and i do not feel old, and i am having a good life. I didn't even know who i was as a person untill i was 30. Please give yourself a chance at life, remember that you get back what you put into it.
      
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      - NocturnePonyFan
        
        11 years ago
        
        Look, when it comes right down to it, this is my decision based on my experiences in life. The only good parts of my life have happened as a child. The older I get, the worse I find my life has gotten. It's not at all fun being me...I have so many freaking mental disorders and have been taking so many medications that my brain is on permanent leave. I've been hospitalized over and over for being suicidal, and at this point, I'm just struggling to stay afloat. I can't do it...I can't go another 60-70 years with this. Believe me, I've TRIED to make my life worth living. I've TRIED going to school and figuring out things I want to do later in life. Nothing I have tried, nothing has worked. I'm 26, and female. Why did I give myself the age of 35? Because I STILL have a little semblance of hope in my heart that maybe things will get better. But I know I can't live past that age should I not be able to fix myself. It's the only way.
        
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        tori
        
        11 years ago
        
        I feel your pain. I really do. I was in a mental hospital also for 6 months for wanting to die. They had me on everything also. I have chronic clinical depression and PTSD. The one medication that I requested to be taken off of was Depakote. I felt like a vegetable. I needed to feel emotions. It took forever to even crack a smile. I didn't care what people told me. I didn't believe that my family and friends love me. I didn't know what love was. Didn't care. Didn't see an end to the suffering I was feeling. I was a robot through out my day.
        I lied to get out of the hospital. Saw a therapist 4 days a week for 5 years. Talked his ear off about the same stuff. He was frustrated with me because I wasn't getting better.
        Then, there was a turning point. I don't know what it was exactly. Wish I knew.
        There was a pin hole of light at that end of the dark tunnel.
        I haven't looked back since. I still see my therapist. Once a month, drug free. He keeps me grounded. It's been 17 years of therapy with the same therapist.
        I just thought of something...he is the only constant thing in my life. Being there for me. Listened. Maybe that's why I got better.
        
        Anyway. Sorry for the long story. You may or may not listen to my story. I just hope you do.
        Take care.
        
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howaminotmyself

11 years ago

Chances are that as you age, you will find new things you want to do that never crossed your mind until then. Why are you giving up before you start? And why throw something away without looking at it first?

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MiaScarlette.

11 years ago

What about watching your kids succeed in life or whatever, being there for your kids as they grow up. People can get really fucked up when their parents die. Staying alive is a good option... Theres always room to improve :D i Dont know lol

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saddenedunicorn

11 years ago

My parents are in their 60s and they have energy, still do lots of fun things, etc. You really think life stops at 40? Man, some people LOVE their 40s. Why not live as long as possible? My grand mother is nearing 90 and can still dance about and have an awesome time.

For me personally, I know I won't be able to accomplish what I want by 40 or even 50. I expect to accomplish everything by 70 and then, if I'm lucky, another 20 or so years of relaxation and people pushing me to play bingo. Yip-eee.

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danica824

11 years ago

I used to think this way when I was a teenager. I'd say it is normal. If you are 39 and thinking this way it is not normal. Lol.

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whatswrongwithme22

11 years ago

You shouldn't stop living life when you're 40. Keep doing something fun!!! Go on a trip or just spend time being with your family. Your life isn't over when your get older.

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Justsomejerk

11 years ago

You would make an excellent stuntman.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

You will.

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Boo!

11 years ago

I want to live till I'm 100 and from there.. well I'm hoping for the curtains to drop. Yeah its normal, dont worry time will prepare you.

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Dad

11 years ago

Its normal to have this idiotic point of view, so yes.

But when you reach 40, guess what? You'll want to continue living and enjoying life. Just like ALL other people at any age really.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Yes, it is pretty idiotic, the way you see it.I understand what your saying, and for most that may be true but not all people continue living and enjoying life. Some die, and others live maybe wishing they were dead probably not enjoying life. In all honesty life can either get better or worse. Maybe a combination of both. But then again what do I know right? xD
  
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  - Dad
    
    11 years ago
    
    They ALL want to live.
    The only age group that feels like dieing all the time is probably late teens!
    
    Even a 99yo can't wait until they reach 100 (its a very exciting time)
    
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    - TheBunnie
      
      11 years ago
      
      Unfortunately my great grandmother lived to be 104 and she seemed to have hated every minute of it. Years before she died, all she ever talked about was wanting to die and get it over with. She had Alzheimers and couldn't remember the names of the people in our family. For a long time I'm sure she was happy but she got to a point after becoming so old that she was just tired of living.
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Quite honestly, but you really can't speak for everyone. I mean, all is a very broad word. By using the word all (correct me if I am wrong) that means that your saying they all want to live as in everyone.
      
      For the most part you really can't know that for sure unless the person told you, but even then they could be lying. Then again if you could read minds and they all wanted to live then you could say they all want to live. But even then I'm sure there would be a person or two who didn't want to live. In fact if all wanted to live then there wouldn't be suicide, right?
      
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      - Dad
        
        11 years ago
        
        Ok I'll allow that.
        'Generally' they all want to live, at any age.
        And don't start on generalizations, because how I see 'people' and the 'population', MOST definitely aren't committing suicide. MOST want to live.
        
        By the way, this is the same reason why you were conceived. Out of ALL the sperm that could have been alive (millions and millions of them) in our world, YOU either luckily got there, OR you were the most determined to live, out of ALL of them.
        That's just a point of interest.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        11 years ago
        
        Yeah, in general most people aren't. If mostly everyone was though, that would be interesting in a horrible way.
        
        I could drag this on longer and question your whole statement on the comment you made about all the sperm that could have been alive, but I don't feel like it and this is getting boring.
        
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thinkingaboutit

11 years ago

what about having kids? What about a business? Why not making bank and blowing it on beautiful young women? I don't know, I want to be a centenarian, just so I know what it feels like.

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- mary82
  
  4 years ago
  
  Well, I'm a female, 37 with no kids and no savings, I live paycheck by paycheck... why would I want to live beyond 55? i see no point
  
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TheBunnie

11 years ago

I remember my boyfriend telling me that he had a friend that had this same viewpoint. But a few years later, she got pregnant, got married and had the child. Now she has a family to take care of and support. I doubt that she has that same viewpoint now that she has a child that depends on her.

Things change.

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blaster

11 years ago

Yeah I've been into some investing lately bc I'm trying to set myself up. I love the look of older people that have it all sussed and are nice and comfortable financially, only way to age I reckon , setup so at least your not worrying financially and can do what you want.
Anyway so I'm in a lot of investing clubs and talk to a lot of investing people , business people, or people that have just worked hard to be comfortable.
Seems to take till 40 or 50 at least to get to that stage ,even later it's pretty rarely an over night thing.
So in many ways it'd be a real waste to go too close to either side of those age groups bc you'll only just begin being where you've worked your whole life to be and enjoy.
I traveled heaps to and have done some serious partying first though,made a real mess of myself . I don;t believe in this waiting until your to old to enjoy it to start having fun bs.
So now the last 2-3yrs though have been all about trying to get it together , set myself up so I donno , 40 wouldn't be long enough that's forsure and it's still very young these days. I'd be only just starting to enjoy the fruit again by then.

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jim8255

11 years ago

so do i, i just can't image the life when i get old

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- chp316
  
  11 years ago
  
  So how old would be too old for you?
  
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flutterhigh

11 years ago

It's a common misconception. Somewhat counterintuitively, surveys have shown that people are happiest past their 60s, particularly men. There's an article in the Economist called "Age and Happiness: The U-bend of Life" that discusses the pattern. Typically, happiness takes a sharp dip in your mid-20s, a gradually plateaus and declines again during your "mid-life crisis". But at somewhere around that 50-year mark, people tend to get happier, eventually surpassing how happy they were in their teens.

Sure, you could just pick and choose your favorite quotes out of a book and quit reading the moment it gets bleak, or you could enjoy the gratification of the entire storyline.

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