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My dad is a coward ass-hole with no concious ,i don't trust man and i want to punish them because they want to take advantage of me
No, it's not normal. It's misdirecting emotions and treating other people unfairly. And it's making you act like just as big an a-hole as you think your dad is.
Thats not very reasonable. Why would you stereotype people based off one persons bad actions. You put yourself on the same level when you punish people who did nothing to deserve punishment.
Your attitude assures you that you will get stuck with a guy that is just like your Dad.
I don't think your mother is absolutely free of guilt either. After all, she's the one who chose the douchebag to be the father of her children.
My dad was a cunt. But I'm not stupid enough to think that therefore all men are cunts.
That may work for you in the short term, but in the longer term that's really pointless and not a good strategy for you, or any men that you meet or interact with.
I would suggest getting some professional counselling to help undo some of the damage your dad has done to you. Not dealing with it is going to hurt you and others, not your dad.
I had a similar kind of thing with my dad and it took a long time to work it out.
It's not your fault what he did to you and I'm sorry to hear it but obviously they're not all like that and it's wrong to punish them for someone else's mistakes. Please seek therapy, for yourself as well others - you'll be missing out on some lovely people out there. :)
You're going to find it hard to trust someone, but if somebody is patient enough to wait for your trust, then they're who is truly worthy of it.
Your attitude is normal considering the situation, but not normal in general. There are a lot of asshole guys out there, but there are also a lot of asshole girls, just as there are good guys and good girls.
Yes, this is the diplomatic answer, but I'm a guy, and frankly and somewhat immodestly, I know I'm a good person. I've never cheated or hurt someone physically or psychologically. I don't have it in me to be like that. Since I exist, there MUST be others like me, even people in your social circle.
When you're deeply hurt by someone, it poisons you against a lot of people. What your dad did was very wrong and sick. He's not normal and needs help, but for you, there IS hope. You have a chance to be a really loving and secure person.
Good luck! (:
Good luck with that deflecting shit.I guarantee you will end up with sm1 like your father. What a pompous cunt.
You can't hold the whole male population responsible for what your Dad did. Not healthy seek therapy.
I'm guessing you are one of those lesbians who were made a lesbian by a man (in this case your dad), not born that way.
It's normal to feel dislike and distrust towards men but remember not all men are the same. People will treat you as you treat youself. Work on your self esteem and give decent men a chance. Learn to read their signals and develop your understanding or others. If your father has no self value it's not your issue. Focus on improving your knowledge in general & be better then he could ever be.