Is it normal that i was pissed off for being forced into a hug?

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I dislike hugs, but I can tolerate them. The other day one of my parents forced me to hug their friend, even though I was clearly uncomfortable with it.

I didn't do anything, but I'm actually really angry and annoyed. I'm probably overreacting, but I think forcing someone to do that is obnoxious and inconsiderate. Not to mention stupid, because a hug is a display of affection, so telling someone to give a hug takes away from the point.

On a slightly deeper level, that makes me feel like my parents don't respect my feelings. I try to be considerate: offering to help, rarely asking for unnecessary things, and taking care to save their money the few things I ask for, and this is how considerate they are of me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Some parents have a distorted view of what respect means. They believe they are entitled to it from their children and that they don't have to return it. Your body is your body. Don't let anyone, including your parents, tell you that you don't have a say in what happens to you. If this happens again, especially if you really do not want to be touched, verbally protest. If they insist, refuse. If they try to physically force you, put all your weight to the floor. You may be punished for it, especially if they are likely to react in anger (don't put yourself in a vulnerable position if your parents are abusive, just get away from them as soon as you can do so safely,) but taking a stand on the things that really matter to you is often the only way those things will change.

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  • tnabq
    6 years ago

    yes i hate hugs and being forced to do anything so...

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    I would be angry as well. Physical contact in general makes me extremely uncomfortable, no matter who it is. I'm not trying to give you any bad ideas, but in your situation I would never have hugged that person. No matter what their reaction was.

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  • ShadowCat
    6 years ago

    You shouldn't have to hug anyone you don't want to.

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    You should just tell your parents your uncomfortable with it.

    Be honest with them

    They may not understand how it affects you. Most people just think hugs are cool with people

    And how did they "force" you?

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    • [Old Memory]
      6 years ago

      Well, after my dad told me to do it once, I stuck out my hand for a handshake instead, hoping to avoid hugging. But he just repeated himself, and then finally told the person to hug me.

      I didn't want to be rude, especially since the friend is actually a really nice person.

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      • redrainbow22
        6 years ago

        Sorry but its your choice, not theirs

        If you dont want to hug, you dont have to

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Try to fart more.

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    • redrainbow22
      6 years ago

      lol diversion tactic

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        SBDs or SBVs can work wonders.

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        • redrainbow22
          6 years ago

          Severe Body Disfunction? lol

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        • redrainbow22
          6 years ago

          what? :o is that? lol

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  • Trenton6985
    6 years ago

    I hate it too especially if is someone I dislike

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    6 years ago

    It's normal to feel that way. I mean it's a type of bodily contact, which is always personal and specific to each person. It'd be like you telling your parents to kiss their friend first, they'd tell you that that'd be uncomfortable and awkward. But people in other countries do that all the time and would tell them to grow up and just do it. So there's no difference really with what they're asking you to do.

    On the other hand though you can't really complain if your parents don't even realise they're doing anything wrong, you need to tell how you feel about it. If they continue to do it, then you can complain about them.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    i have seen muslims hug a lot might be a religious thing . In the USA we just shake hands

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