Is it normal that i wish i were asexual?

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So, I am a heterosexual 17-year-old girl, and I feel lots of urges (like, all the time). But, sometimes, I feel like it would be better not to have any urges at all.
This is because I have a hard time trying to flirt with boys and knowing when I'm being flirted with (it doesn't help that I'm autistic) and I have hard-to-shake sexual thoughts when I am supposed to be focusing on something else.
I wish I didn't want to have a boyfriend, because it wastes my time and I wish I didn't want to have sex, because the urges get physically uncomfortable until I masturbate.
Does anyone else feel this way?

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Based on 12 votes (9 yes)
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  • SkullsNRoses
    4 years ago

    Most people are terrible at flirting when they’re 17, I wouldn’t beat yourself up about it. Also your sex drive will probably drop a bit once you’re no longer a “horney teenager”.

    I’m asexual and aside from not feeling sexual frustration/ desperation there aren’t really that many perks. Any “extra time” we get we just waste online, it doesn’t actually make you a god-like hyperfocused genius.

    Basically the grass is always greener, accept yourself the way you are, you are still young and these things will improve with age.

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
    4 years ago

    ASEXUAL MASTER RACE!!!✊🏻

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      (virgins who want an excuse)

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      • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
        4 years ago

        i'm not a virgin 😋, try again.

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        • d0esnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          You are a good sex virgin

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          • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
            4 years ago

            No sex is good sex😊

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            • d0esnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              That's false. If you ever had good sex you'll no longer be "asexual"

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  • KholatKhult
    4 years ago

    Horniness can be a nuisance sometimes, that’s normal, but it’s usually a symptom of boredom or an idle mind. Getting active can be a cure-all for a lot of pesky mental/emotional stuff, and a great way to work out your hormones and get some energy out of the way.

    Wrestling(sambo), hockey, and farm work, was my go to for all of my emotional or hormonal issues when I was younger. But I also attended therapy for dealing with a sexual attraction, which is a definite more drastic measure, but if this all bothers you enough you may want to try.

    There’s a great balance you can find for your sexuality in life without having to be asexual or celibate, sex can play as big or as small a role in your life as you want it to play. Personally, sex has very little importance in my life. What’s important is you’re in control and comfortable with its influence.

    I wish I could be more helpful to you but I have no experience with autism or what it’s like to be autistic, I can only offer advice on what’s helped me.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Okay, yes it's normal to be bother by your sexual urges. No, it's not normal to with you were asexual thinking that would solve it.

    I think the reason you see it as burden is because you haven't enjoyed sex to its fullest. Have you ever had sex before? Or how much? If you think it's going to be just like masterbating, you are mistaken.

    Think of your sex drive like this. You have it and you can't get rid of it. It builds up overtime and it releases when you have it. The good news is the release feeling is fucking amazing and the bad news is, if you ignore the urges they will keep bugging you. And since you can't zap your sex drive away, I recommend you have some good sex and fix that shit.

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