Is it normal that i wish my teacher loved me like a daughter

Well I'm going though the exact same thing as you and I mean exact, my teachers 30 and I'm 15 and she is the most amazing person in my life I do hve a good relationship with my mom but we don't talk that much and my mom is older (50) and I don't really enjoy talking to her that often my teacher and I get together after school during the week and we talk about things in our lives she cried because i flattered her so much by telling her that I want to be like her and I admire and look up to her she even asked for a hug, my teacher is so beautiful so nice and intelligent Im meeeting her this Tuesday to talk and I'm going to reel her that I love her like a mom I'm not gonna say it out like that I'm gonna fit it in a sentence not using the same words of course! So I hope it works out my teachers engaged and has no kids but her fiancé has 2 so I think she would except me as a daughter becuz I think she loves me a bit to :)

I think it's not abnormal. I've been in a similar situation, it just means you're looking for an older role model, and you see a parental figure in your teacher, especially if she has been there for you so much.
For me it was my youth leader. There where times I wanted to run and hug him (quite childishly) because he was such a father figure to me, but I often felt like it was inappropriate. In the end I thought for a while, then approached him and told him exactly what was going through my mind. After that it felt different. He accepted me as more than just one of the kids. Telling him what I was thinking, and knowing he accepted it, made me less desperate for his attention.

I left school last year and have kept in touch with my favourite teacher since.... She's the nicest lady ever and I look up to more than my mum or any other lady I know (I told her this and it made her smile) she doesn't have any kids of her own and I text her and her husband all of the time. I ring her up in tears if I'm ever upset and she always make me feel better! I've stayed at her house over night, and she bought me some chocolates for my birthday and an Easter egg! I'm going to uni next year and she said her and her husband will cone and visit me when I'm there.... I meet up with her for coffee occasionally and she says I'm welcome over to her house any time :) I love her so much she's the best! Last year I was really upset when I left school because I didn't think I was going to see her again, but I wrote get a card saying how much I looked up to her and she said we will stay friends! I love having her to talk to and I think it's nice to have someone other than parents to talk to about problems :)

I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I hope things have improved since you last posted.

I'm in the same situation, too. I can completely relate to that emptiness and hollowness inside, wishing for a certain teacher to love me like I was really their daughter.

I'm a bit paranoid so I won't give you my email address here...

But I'd love to email with you. It would be so nice to have someone to discuss these things with, someone who's actually experiencing the same things as I am right now.

I don't know how to get in touch with you through email but if you ever wanted to give me your email, I'd be really happy!

*airhug*

I recently graduated from high school. While I was there I met the most amazing teacher EVER. I loved her at first sight! (not in a romantic way but in the way y'all are talking about too) I am a quiet person so I avoided her for a long time but eventually I needed her help because I fell behind because I had a minor surgery. When I came to her for help she was so so warm and welcoming! She wrote me a pass to come see her before school anytime. She was so concerned about me and she didn't even know me. It was literally the best feeling ever. We ended up talking and hanging out in her classroom all day long. I would come in before school a little early and she'd sit with me and then I'd stay a little extra during lunch and then after school (her classroom was down the hall from my last class) she'd stop me and we'd talk some more. When her class ended I was devastated, but she ordered me to come see her after Christmas break anytime I needed her. Well school got back in after Christmas break and we became closer than ever. She offered to help me with an online class I had signed up for earlier in the year. She was now my mentor and my tutor instead of my teacher. We'd sit down early in the morning and talk and then during lunch. And then she gave me her phone number and told me to call or text her whenever I needed her. We didn't really text much, but sometimes I'd text her and ask her things or when she got sick and was out for a couple of days I sent her a little get well soon message. Towards the end of the year she began pulling me out of my 2nd class and letting me come hang out in her classroom because I wanted to. As far as telling her that I loved her I hadn't really. I more would say things or give her things to suggest the idea. Then everything changed. The school year ended and she gave me a huge hug on the last day. I knew something was a little off when she gave me that hug. Later on that summer I discovered that she was moving 757 miles away. I was heartbroken. I cried for weeks. We talked via telephone and email for the summer. She broke the news gently and I could tell she was not happy about leaving her job or her home but her husband had gotten a job offer he couldn't pass up and they thought it'd be best for their family. I told her I was happy for him and sorry she had to go. I'm not sure if she could tell or not that I was getting ready to cry so I ended the call. Since then surprisingly our relationship has gotten stronger. I had another year of high school to go and she continued to mentor me and help me along the way. I was still heartbroken for a long time that she was now a 12 and a half hour drive away. I sent her letters, emails, texts, pictures, etc. She sent me replies to all of them. At the end of high school I was so worried that I had become too attached to her I sent her a letter with all my feelings about her and told her I was working on letting go. She sent me a text saying that I made her cry and that she loved my letter and my feelings and that she didn't want me to let go. She told me that she planned on keeping in touch with me for a long time and expected an invite to my wedding. And that even though she'd far away she expects us to stay friends. This made me cry. It was the best thing she could've possibly said to me to give me some security. I often miss her still and I wonder if it would be weird for me to try to go visit her. I fantasize about going and spending a week up their with her and her husband and her daughter (her daughter is 2). I don't know her husband very well we've met twice or three times, but I know she tells him about me because she tells me his opinions on our discussions sometimes. :) I love my teacher and I miss her soo much! I don't think it is weird to love your teacher. They are people too and sometimes they just happen to be that special person that you need in your life.

It is normal...i have a teacher who i love and i wish he was my dad. It makes me really upset that he's gonna have kids cos i know he will be amazing at it. My dads not that great ;(

Hey guys!
I have a teacher that I met this year in my new school. We had been so closely connected from the first time. Its not my idea but we both look very similar. Our nose our mouth our teeth our eye shape are exactly the same. Our character is also the same. We love doing the same things, we both are risky and we talk through chat almost every day. She is the one I trust in my life and that I want to become like her one day..

I think you are lucky to have such a special and nurturing relationship with your teacher. And it is obvious what that has meant to you.

But I do agree with the above comment in that you must regard her as your teacher - albeit one for whom you have great admiration.

I am sure you could talk with her about your feelings.

And do you think the reason you can't get enough of her & feel empty might be that you are expecting a bit too much? I do. If you agree maybe you can tone it down a bit & just enjoy what you have with her more.

I completely agree with all of you.
I had a teacher who taught me for three years in a row and we have gotten really close...She's not just a teacher, shes a close friend. I look up to her so much and I know she has has her own kids, but i do kinda wish she was my mum too...I somewhat get along with my mum at times but with this teacher, its like she understands me completely. Sometimes I wonder how it would be if she really was my mom...And sometimes i think how lucky her kids must be to have her as a mom...Whenever the going gets tough, i always wish i could just call her up and talk to her..We went to lunch in the summer and that was great. She tells me a lot of personal things but i always wonder if she would tell that to other people and im thinking to much about it...I wish i could talk to her everyday but we cant :'( Im always wondering if im weird or if something is wrong with me...? comments? :/ Emails too anyone so we could talk about this?? im so glad im not alone in this :/

I just wanted to say I'm so relieved I found people who really get me! I have a teacher at school who I absolutely love. I don't know how exactly it happened. It just kinda did. At the beginning of the school year I didn't really have any favorite teachers until second quarter came along. Then all the sudden I found that one teacher who really understood me. I found myself staying after class every day to help her put away the chrome books and then trying to find a few extra minutes after that to catch a small conversation with her. I feel as if I could talk to her about anything and as if I've never cared about anyone as much as I do her. She is truly an amazing teacher. But now the end of the school year is coming up within the next week and I will be going off to high school. I'm afraid to ask for her phone number but I'm also afraid that if I don't I'll never see her again! What should I do! I really don't want this school year to end I've never had a strong relationship with my mom and I don't really have any trusted adults in my life besides her. I sometimes even end up wishing that something horrible would end up happening to my family in hopes I can go live with her. I'm afraid to tell anyone this in fear they will think I'm mental. But really what do I do? How do I ask her for her number? I can't lose her she is so important to me I don't know what I'd do without her! She really is my heart and soul my diamond and pearl.

Omg I'm so glad I found this page ! I thought it was only me going through it ! My math teacher is amazing and I love her loads I'm 16 and a female and I'm leaving school next week. It all started in year 7 and she knows my mum and I don't have a good relationship and hits me now and then ( she has a drink problem i never use to speak to anyone about it but when I first saw her I knew she was going to be good .
One morning after lesson she kept behind to talk to me and she explained that when she was my age she had a similar problem. I felt as so I could tell her anything and are chats became more frequent which i liked. She gave me her mobile number incase I ever wanted a chat out side of school it was very helpful .
In year 9 we had a school trip to Spain for a week in which my aunty sadly passed away she use to help me mum and I. I couldn't imagine my life without her. I remember getting the text during dinner and running to the toilets crying .mrs got up and ran after me. She explained to me that everything was going to be alright but I wasn't convinced. That night I couldn't sleep and before she went to bed as she promised she came to check on me. She took me into her room where we had a chat and she held me close and I didn't want it to end and I by accident fell asleep on her bed . But ever since then we have had a really good connection. She lives alone and frequently I would go round to visit her. I love her sooo much and I really don't want to leave school :( in my eyes she is my mum and always will be <3

I am beyond overjoyed that you all who post here can share your feelings. After reading all your stories and sharing mine, we all know that what we feel is not weird or awkward. We all crave security, love, and comfort and found them in these very special women. I often felt alone with how I felt, because really - most kids are supposed to hate teachers. But I knew that my heart felt something different among certain ones. With them, I experienced a kindness, love, and patience my soul had longed for. For those of you who question your relationship, please don't be afraid to pursue it further. All you need to do is just tell them how you feel. I mean, don't go right up and say, "I wish you were my mom." But do say something like, "I can only trust you." or "Thanks for taking the time out to help me. I know that I could always depend on you." See where it goes from there. Trust me, if things work out right, you have such an amazing bond.

I can relate to all of u I have very similar situations with my mom not being around and having a special mother - daughter kind of relationship with a teacher . I don't understand y so many people think of it as a bad thing and put up boundaries I understand the whole "perfessional" circumstances but doesn't god want people to be loving and caring towards one another . I hate that there are stupid rules based on what someone does for a living. I am really glad to see that I'm not alone!?! :) besides all of that remember that if you care/ love someone never give up on them because I know I will never give up on the person I love and look up to as a second mom <3 :) NEVER GIVE UP

P.S. Sorry its so long but this is the only place I could talk about my feelings.

And here I am thinking for the past 6 years that I was the only one going through this. My counselor after meeting her for the first time in 8th grade changed my life forever. Everyone till this day thinks I love her in a romantic way. and it breaks my heart to know that people have such a disgusting view. My counselor meant the world to me. She helped me get through the darkest days of my life. Whether it be getting through suicidal thoughts, bad grades, no friends, bullying or the worst one yet very bad home environment. That woman made me feel so loved and cared about that she was god for me. I worshiped her. She had no children. It was just her and husband. One day I felt like I could talk to her about anything and everything I went as far as asking her if she loved children that much why doesn't she have any of her own or why didn't she adopt any like her brother did. Her answer was "I just never thought about it". She may have never admitted this but I know for a fact she was too busy making people like myself's life better. She had no time to make herself happy. Anyhow. She was like such a mother figure to me that she even came to the movies with me when no one else wanted to. She would occasionally offer to buy me lunch. I declined because I don't eat out much. During summer between middle school and freshman year. I would have to ride my bike to summer school. One day my bike broke down and I had no way of getting my bike home which was 3 miles away. I left on her voicemail what had happened and she decided she will put that bike in back of her car and take me home so I don't have to walk home in the 90+ degrees. She was the person I called at home when I wanted to talk to someone. Her husband was the one I messed around with couple times on the phone when I called her house. I even talked to her dad one day, when things got real bad and I called and her dad answered, and he said it is so good to hear your voice. I have heard so much about you. I was a familiar name in her family although I never met any of them. She would even occasionally tell me about her relationships with other people around the school. And she trusted me to keep it confidential and I did. Then one day and it was the happiest day of my life. It was august 22nd 2007. My first day of high school. Right after high school I walked over to middle school to tell her about it. And she gave me the biggest hug and told me that she is so proud of me. She gave me the hug that my mom never did and never will give me in my life. Then few months later life changed forever. My therapist at high school thought that my counselor and I had way too close of relationship. So then she talk to school officials. And then since that day I have barely been allowed to talk to my "mom". I have seen her few times. But not in the way I once could. I remember giving her a frame with a picture of the two of us together. And she had it on her desk. Then One day I asked her to take the picture down because I hated that picture was no longer that happy picture it once was. Then few years later came high school graduation. So then I wrote he a letter asking for her to come to my graduation since no one from my family was coming. And I also told her how sad I was that she was no longer part of my life. In return she came to my graduation and gave me a card that said she will always be there for me even when she is not around. Since that day I have not seen her. Last year I emailed her of how I went out of town without telling anyone and she emailed back showing concern and then she is like okay I am done with my little "lecture". Her showing concern for me still tells me that she probably still wanted to be part of my life but things happen. Sometimes I wonder if I should email her or call her or go see her as to how much she still means to me. I just wish I could tell her this.

No it's nothing to be ashamed of and I think it is perfectly normal. I have been there, done that, and lived through it. Growing up, my music teacher was that be all and end all for me. She taught me so much more than just how to sing. She taught me to pursue my dreams, and to aim high. When I first met her, I was attracted to her immediately. There was something special about her, like it was magic or something. She was patient, she was kind, and she helped me in so many ways. She made time for me and never thought I was that much of a bother to her. At that same time, things were going on at home that I wasn't happy about. I didn't have a good relationship with my parents and it was often afraid of them. While I was never abused, I just felt like I never pleased them. Having learning disabilities, they always made me feel like i was like a failure. However, in my teacher's eyes all I could ever do is get better, and better, and better. She never let me look down on myself, or let me talk bad about myself. Because of that, I loved her. Some nights I would cry alone, and wish she could just scoop me up and take me away to somewhere beautiful, somewhere where nothing awful could ever hurt me. Then reality would hit, I would cry even more because I knew she had a life separate from me. She had her husband, she had two children, and a career. I didn't fit into any of that.

During one very particularly dark period of my teen life, things had gotten so difficult at home that I had a plan to commit suicide. However, the only thing I wanted to do before I "did myself in" and was to see her one last time. I thought it would bring me peace, soothe my nerves, and I will have closure knowing that I spent my last moments alive with the one person I loved more than anything in the world. But upon walking into her room that day after school, hoping only have a nice little casual conversation about how the day went I ended up bursting into tears, absolutely losing it. I confessed to her about everything I was going through and what i had planned to do. I could not look her in the eye as I told her about my miserable home life, spiraling school and social life, and the sleeping pills I was going to take. I felt ashamed, I felt like a failure, and I felt dirty. What happened next came as a total surprise. She slowly pulled me into a hug, sat down until I was in her lap and she just held me for what was the longest time. Everything was quiet for a while, until she said "I love you". That set me off again and I cried some more. I have never felt more safe and loved I did when I was in her arms. She explained to me that losing a child is is every parent's nightmare, and that losing me would be a nightmare. Those are the words that saved my life, and those are the words that reassured my place in HER life.

It's been many many years since that incident, and from that point on my life got better. I finished high school, went to college, made amends with my parents, and even joined a theater troupe where she even drove 2 hours to come see one of my shows. People from my theater thought she was my mom because we acted so close!
Not long after college, I scored a dream job with an entertainment company. That October I dressed as Cinderella for a Halloween party. Afterwards, I took the elaborate rhinestone tiara I wore with my costume and had it wrapped pretty and sent to her - along with a note saying that she was my Fairy Godmother, and that the crown truly belonged to her as a gift of thanks for all she had given to me.

THANK YOU! I finally someone who feels the same way. I'm currently in the eighth grade and I feel attached to my teacher. I can tell her things and she won't tell anyone. She helps me and gives me the support I lack at home. She is the reason I come to school. she is my number one role model.I hop err to be like her one day. A smart,intelligent, . and wonderful I try giving by Dr all these hints but I don't know if she is catching on

I feel the same way. My teacher was my 8th grade french teacher, Mrs. Lord. I miss her so much and I do think of her like family, like a second mother. Just like you, any time I got with her was never enough. I could be around her forever and probably never get sick of her. She has two kids of her own, young kids. And she often treated me like one of her own. She would hug me and encourage me all the time. I never wanted the hugs to end . . . But they always do. You are not the only one with this feeling, me and many others know how you feel . . . and I think it is very normal!

I had this REALLY nice health teacher at my school. She was also a conciler. I felt like I could tell her ANYTHING. She knew everything about my feelings and everything that was going on. This year was a rough year for me at school and so I would go in everyday after school and talk to her. I have never been close to my mom, but I don't like my home and parents so I wanted her to adopt me SO bad!!!! I felt like a love that you feel for your family not like a gay love. She would be there every single day to talk to me and if I needed a hug she was the first person I thought of. I swear she was like my mom for a year. I think it's normal. :)

I'm exactly like you! I thought I was a freak but now I see... A lot of people are the same way. I don't get how an innocent little love is inappropriate. It's the way God wanted this world. Love will warm the heart and make the world a nicer place to be.. but isolation and judgement will make your heart stone. I don't think we want the world to be made of stone. When are people going to wake up? Love never hurts anyone! It's this judgmental cruel world that does.

I totally get it. I absolutley adore my math teacher, even though I HATE math. She is my favorite teacher, I love her so much, no, not in a romantic way, in a family way. I know that I can talk to her about anything. I will go in at lunch just to talk to her. I think of her as a mother figure in many ways. If I get a bad grade in her class she bugs me about it until I get it up. Sometimes she will forget I am her student I think. Once I was in there just talking to her and she dropped her phione and started cussing right in front of me, it was hillarious. Another time I was getting scolded for my bad grades, and she said " I would've killed my kids if they didn't graduate, just like I will kill you if you don't graduate" lol. She says she loves me. She is harder on me than the other kids, and picks on me alot, but I don't mind. She also favors me. I normally would've gotten detention for being late, instead I just got scolded. I love her like a mother, and I can talk to her no matter what, and since I had to retake her class this year, she is even harder on me, but on the first day of school this year she gave me a huge hug and said she missed me, but even though she has 2 kids in college, I wish she loved me like a daughter.

I Know Exactlyy How You Feel . I Met This Teacher About 7 Weeks Ago And I Love Her Already . I Don't Feel That I Want Her To Be My Mom Tho , I Just Want Her To Always Be There And Care For Me . It Feels So Comforting To Be Around Her . I loveeeee My Teacher So much and i want her to know Without her think'n i'm weird.

i see nothing wrong with it however a teacher might be a little bit difficult to maintain especially if they have they're own children. The biggest problem in my mind is that is the problem of finding some one else that suffices. from your description i's say you have a past with this person so it would be extremely dificult to find some one else. just by the way i don't really have insight into this thing as im only 13 but whatevas

Yeah, it is hard. Oh, i totally understand that they shouldn't be expected to take on parental roles. However she actually does do her best, she knows everything about me. I don't have a good relasionship with my mother at all, well i don't have anything with her really. She's mean, spiteful and down right annoying, i don't wish to either. :(

I have the same thing. I have had a female teacher (early 30's)for the past two school years and I'm supposed to have her for my next two as well. She's single and embraces it. I was pretty friendly with her freshmen year, but sophomore year(I'm 16) was a terrible year, and she got me through it with a smile. I honestly came to school to see her, even if it was just during class. She was so supportive of me and it's wonderful. I went through a sexual harassment/bullying thing in the past year. I was abused on the way home from school for months and she's the only one who noticed anything different about me. I was physically flipped upside down and dry-humped by this kid, and my parents didn't even know until after I told her and the school called them. The kid was expelled and I was then subject to a massive amount of bullying, and random people yelling "FREE %%&%%" at me wherever I was recognized. I still get comments about it almost daily, even at work. The boy was a senior and he now has to register as a sex offender when he turns 18. I feel so bad that I told on the kid. He was screwing me up mentally, but I feel terrible that his life was basically ruined. That's a majority of the reason I let it go on so long. It also made me feel desirable and as if someone could love me and find me attractive.So anyway this teacher helped me through so many different phases of depression and was basically my therapist. She's so caring and she was the only person who I could talk to throughout the whole process. My parents gave up on me and left me to take care of everything myself. They just assumed I had temped the boy to do things like this to me. I eventually was in a really bad place and had a lot of suicidal thoughts and I had a plan and everything. And also at that point my best friend was about to graduate and my only other friend decided she didn't like me anymore and she just gave up on me. Her sister, who was a senior, and literally my closest friend, eventually did the same. I was in such a bad place that I literally craved her attention because it was obvious that she cared. It was refreshing to not have someone constantly bashing me and telling me I don't have friends. My sisters are in the same fan club for some teenybopper boy band, and they even got their friends in on it and I had people hating on me everywhere. I literally only had this teacher and I became so attached. I don't think she has any idea of the impact she's had on me. She literally has saved my life more than once without realizing it, and she's been so good to me. She inspires me to do so many things, including not take my life. She inspires me to dress however I want to and to embrace who I am. I want to grow up and be exactly like her My parents and family now think we have a sexual lesbian relationship, and they make fun of the only person I have to look up to. They try insulting her because she's not skinny, and they cringe when I say how beautiful she is, both physically and personality wise. I truly believe that everyone's beautiful, and it doesn't matter what your body shape is. Whatever, just a rant and a way to get my feelings out. She's the most amazing and incredible person I've ever met. I want to be as great of a person as she is someday, and I hope I know her for the rest of my life. XOXO love you nj

finally found someone with the mutual feeling ꙩ_ꙩ i thought it was just me, but i guess this feeling is because of my emotionally unavailable parents??? i longed for a mother for quite a long time, the kind of mother who takes care of me with love.

Hey Everyone. I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I am shy and I met my favorite teacher three years ago. She's my major teacher so i had her for all three years. I have loved her from the start(not romantically of course) but she is like a mom to me. My mom has mental illness and can't always be there for me. My favorite teacher has such a funny sweet personally and my mom can not always be happy and funny.
Anyway, this year her class was switched to a different teacher. I miss her sooo much and feel the loss of her. I can't get her personal info until closer to graduation. I can visit her. But since I am shy I never know the right moment to do so. I know she cares for me. I had an extreme panic attack and she was there for me and was so much support to me afterwards and before. I almost told her I loved her as much as a mom but I froze up and acted so awkward. But I am usually awkward. I'm so happy to know I'm not alone. I thought there was something wrong with me. My question is should I tell her? And should I be so concerned in when to visit her or should I just go for it? She said it was OK, but I feel like she's busy sometimes and I don't want to be a disturbance or something. Much love
K. D.

Same here. Back when I was in grade 7 I had this one teacher Mr... He was my french teacher but me and him always got along so well kinda like father and daughter. When I was in grade 8 I would always stay after school and organize the french books and he would try and stay 10 minutes longer than he was allowed to just so we could talk. I remember one day I got to school really early and he was the first person I came out as transgender to. I started to cry so badly he came up to me and hugged me and said "it'll be alright. You're safe with me." But when I told him that my mom wasn't really excepting of the LGBT+ community he said "why don't I come with you when you tell her? That way you fell more safe." I said "when I'm ready to tell more people, yes." Over the weekend I babysat his kids while him and his wife went out for dinner and I thought that it wouldn't be that weird if I was apart of his family. His parents adored me, his kids called me there 'big bro'. When he dropped me off at my parking lot he asked if I wanted to tell her now, I said "let's do it tomorrow." A little bit of a background, my mom gives you an hour to get your stuff out of there. Then 'tomorrow' came and Mr... Got a uhaul truck, I packed my bags and he was ready to help. I told my mom and got my stuff out of there. That summer we organized his office that he shared with 2 other french teachers and the music teacher, that's when he announced that I was legally his foster child. For my 16th b-day he officially adopted me and it was the greatest thing ever.

I know it's been so long since this post came out but i don't care.

I can relate, my teavher is 50 and but she looks a lot younger, she is our drama teacher and she is very sweet and everyone knows that and I went through a horrible time this year and she WA there for me and I couldn't thank her enough. When she isn't with me I feel empty and when she is I'm soooo happy. I don't like talking to my mum as she doesn't listen and it makes me sad cuz stuff that happened to me she doesn't know about and she teases me about similar things. My teacher is very attractive and everyone know even all of us gals, but when the boys make crude comments I get overprotective inside and mad.

Omg no!!!!! I didn't notice you wrote it 4 days ago, and when you said the school is going to be over in 3.5 days- well, it over today :'(((((
I'm so hopeful you did it eventually!!!!
Be strong

whoa. tons of comments since i posted last! hard to believe it was only a few days ago! i was a bit worried since all the previous posts were from years ago but looks like there are still people who get me and feel the same way. ok now here is an update. there are only 3 and a half more days of school left! im feeling more anxious then ever to ask my teacher for her personal phone number. what happened from the time i posted last until now was horrible. my bff and i got into a huge fight since we pretty much lost everything we had in common. my councelor suggested to try new things together so i did. but my friend didnt want to. she only wanted to do what she liked and she officially ended our friendship! i ofc went straight to my teacher to talk to her and it did help alot. but later that week i get called to the counselor office the counselor is friendly but i dont trust her 100%. but she speaks to me and tells me that my used to be bff came to speak to her. and i was immediately like uh oh. but the session was fine. except for the fact my counselor told me my friend thought i was too obsessed with my teacher and that she wanted it to be made clear that we keep things on a professional level. but now im super nervous to ask my teacher for her personal phone number! will she even give it to me! will she be mad if i ask last day of school? does she want to keep our relationship professional? because if so i dont think ill ever see her again! im going to highschool next year! and she has taught middle school forever! what am i going to do and if i ask how do i ask?

and (i have been skipping lunch/meals.... it's not good. I know... i have been since may... before this even happened with her but it worsened after it did.) when I was walking in the hallway during lunch, I saw her... and I was crying and so I hurried up and stopped my tears and I looked at her and gave her a smile. She could tell I was crying and she just kept staring at me and I looked away... I could feel her staring at me, though... And then in class that day, she was all sad. I was planning on being mean to her, but seeing her sad like that broke my heart... so, I began to joke around and stuff and eventually I got her to laugh....

It's just hard to tell if she ever did care about me... I mean, I know right there seemed like she did... but she's very sensitive and she's hard on herself. She could have just been upset because she was mad at herself for hurting me. Not necessarily because she cared. Ya know?

I like to try and tell myself she did and still does by thinking about the things she does. Like, we literally fought like siblings. If she was fighting with other students like she fought with me, they'd be written up. We weren't afraid to express when we were angry at one another and sometimes in Spanish class, I'll say really passive aggressive comments to her (in spanish) and she'll reply with another passive aggressive comment to make me feel better about it. She knows I don't eat and so she makes comments about it all of the time. Like, "Ana never eats." Or "food is very, very important for survival." And she'd just stare at me. One time she even saw me skipping and she said really mean-like, "EAT." And stared at me meanly... but then I asked her, "Do You care about me?" And she was like, "Yes. Of course." And I looked at her and she was like, "Well, let me say this- i care about you like a teacher would a student." And that literally KILLED ME.... we have a very close relationship. I know a lot about her life and things I probably shouldn't know about her.... it's just.... ugh... there's a lot more but I've already written a lot... I just needed to talk about it and you guys seem like you would understand my pain.... do you? What do you guys think about how she feels about me? Do you think she cares?? I've been struggling with this and I feel hollow... I'm sorry this is long and I don't expect anyone to reply or read it all.... I've just been suffering. Thank you for reading if you did.

from me (which he recently had a massive stroke which I am torn about...) Things would be different now.... since it was over email, she had to tell the counselors about it and then this HUGE thing happened. She got in trouble because she "crossed the line with a student" WHICH IS RIDICULOUS! Other teachers are able to help their students.... but anyway, that was my freshman year and now I am a senior and I was fighting with the counselors over this ever since. Now, though, they finally got me believing that she doesn't care about me... that she never did... that she just felt obligated to be there for me... they literally told me, "She doesn't care about you like you think she does. She cares about all of her students. She'll never consider you a friend" and you know, they'd tell me that stuff all of the time, but finally it got through to me that maybe they're right. She never did care, did she? I mean, she's a teacher. She can't just say she hates me.... ya know?... and so, I told her that I was done. I drew her something and told her it was the last thing she was ever going to get from me. She seemed to have freaked out because she knows I am kinda suicidal and so when I said that, she wouldn't let me leave until I explained to her what happened... so, I did. She was like, "Ana, (my Spanish name) this doesn't mean that I think of you as a bad person... and none of this is your fault." And I looked at her and she was like, "Okay, your actions are your fault..." (I stopped listening to her after that... I don't know what she said) and I said, "I don't want you to give this to the counselors..." and she was like, "I have to. They told me everything you say to me and everything you draw me, I have to give to them." And I looked at her and was like, "EVERYTHING?! Did you ever get any of the things back??" And she was like, "No... but I copied some of them like the Harry Potter you drew me... I don't read half of them anymore." And I looked at her and was like, "THEN WHAT IS THE FREAKING POINT?!" And tears started streaming down my face and I began to take the paper from her. (This is when the trust left me and I think she saw it, too...) and she held onto it and she said, "I'll copy this one and I'll read Every. Single. Word." And I started crying and said, "I just don't want the counselors to call me down..." and she said, "I won't let them." And so I gave it to her. I forget what I was saying because I was so furious, but I know I expressed that I was angry at her through the way I was speaking.... and she began to get quieter and barely saying anything... then, she started chewing on her nails like she does when she's upset... and when I noticed that, I said, "I gotta go." I didn't want to upset her any more. And I started walking away and she was like, "Thank you...." and I heard her voice crack because she was beginning to cry... and that was the last time I had a personal conversation with her and I haven't been able to talk to her about it. I can't tell if she cares about me, honestly. I can't tell if her crying was because she's sensitive or because this actually hurt her. I know she could tell that I lost trust in her because the moment I felt it go away is when she got upset... the next day of school, she literally stayed in her room and I didn't see her all day. She was a hermit. I'm not kidding...

This is going to be a couple comments long... I'm sorry... I just really needed to rant about this... I'm sorry.

I am seriously so happy to the point of tears. I seriously thought I was completely crazy and messed up... there's this teacher who I completely adore. She means literally everything to me. She's too young to be my mom, and so I consider her to be my big sister. She's only 14 years older than me and she and I have the same interests. Not only that, but she has been there for me through literally everything. She knows my whole life story.... including really deep stuff that not even some of my friends know. She has stopped me from hurting myself in any way. She didn't know that I was going to hurt myself, but I would come to her just bawling and she'd comfort me. One time, I completely broke down in front of her. I mean, I've broken down so many times to her, but this time, I specifically remember. I was in Spanish 2 (by the way, the teacher I love showed me that I am great at Spanish and opened my eyes and helped me realize that I want to be a teacher) and I didn't have her as a teacher. I had a different one... I was going through a lot because my mom was recently diagnosed with cancer and so I just wanted to ask her if she could tell my teacher that I won't be able to come to some of the Spanish club meetings because of that. I didn't trust my Spanish 2 teacher... I was walking to her classroom and I saw her and I started BAWLING. She was like, "What's going on, honey?" And I literally started hyperventilating. I couldn't breathe. I couldn't explain it... and she literally just came over and gave me a hug for 30 seconds. She just let me cry in her arms and then she was like, "Now. Tell me." And I started by explaining how I missed my first Spanish homework assignment and then I just started to have a breakdown.... and then I mentioned how my mom had cancer and I just sat there and cried until I was emotionally drained. I wasn't able to talk to anyone about it and so talking to her literally just made me feel so much better. I think when she gave me that hug is when I really began to look up to her.... but a lot of stuff happened before that, she stopped these people from bullying me and I emailed her with a simple "thank you" and we kept a conversation going for a while... and then I just started telling her a whole bunch of stuff. I mentioned how I was abused by my father which I shouldn't have done. He lives far away

Hello everyone! I have a similar story than most of you. I'm 23 and I met an incredible teacher in high-school. The day we met, we got along right away. The years passed by and one day, out of nowhere I called her Mom. It wasn't planned it just came out of my mouth. I had no idea of how she was going to react. Luckily she was really happy about it to the point she considers me her daughter. To make the long story short, I graduated from high-school 5 years ago and let me tell you, that nothing has changed, only the fact that we are closer than ever. She is someone really important to me, I trust her with my eyes closed she is and will always be a second mom to me. She always tells me that I'm the daughter she never had and that I have a special place in her heart.

Omg I'm so glad I found this because I feel the exact same way. It was my first year in my new school and I was very shy and quiet. Gradually I came out of my shell and made some friends. But in the middle of the year, I had a big downfall. I was having problems at home and a lot of problems with friends. My anxiety went through the roof and I didn't know what to do. After that I shut down, became very anti-social and told nobody what happened. Well my Spanish teacher could tell that I suddenly stopped being social, happy etc.. She called me after class several times asking if I needed to talk about anything, but I was to scared to trust anybody again so for the longest time I kept saying i was fine. Well one day in her class I just started to cry and my anxiety got the better of me. After class I asked if I could come see her in one of her prep periods bc at this point I needed to talk to her. She offered me such great advice and told me she will always be right here for me if I ever needed anything. Just hearing her support and stuff made me cry. We got closer over the year as I went to her with all my problems. I trusted her more then my own mom. And I always imagined it would be amazing if I could be her daughter. We aren't obviously allowed to follow our teachers on any social media and right now I'm on summer vacation and I'm missing her so much. I don't know who to go to whoever I need someone to talk to.

Hai! Ive been also having a problem :-\ I love and care very much for one of my past teachers. I love her like a mom. I want to give her anything she wants and i sometimes ebd up trying. (Idk dont ask) Its just that we had a problem about favoriting one year and i totally lost it causevi wanted her attention but she gave all her attention to these 3 students that had perfect straight A's. Look im not crazy nor am i an attention seeker byt i just want to be noticed by her for once! I love her so much but idk wut to do! Eer since our problem, she stopped favoriting.That also means that she cant love me the way i love her back cuz then technically she would be favoriting on me.(srry for the confusion) recently one if her students mentioned her favoriting again. I get so jealous and i start acting like a 6 year old. I try to look my best when she comesbto make a good impression but she never notices. The thing is that i want her to know how much i love her. She would make a perfect mother. Honestly, i feel reallu jealous when she sees small children cause them she gives her attention to them! Maybe i am a little over obsessed? Then again sometimes she acts like she doesnt care. Sometimes i think in my head if she just acts nice to cover her butt from getting in trouble. Idk pleez help! Also shes married.

Hi!I have the same thing as all of U.If U want to become with me friend and talk about this topic - this is my e-mail : [email protected]

OMG this is so weird I feel the exact same way and I mean exact! I am 13 and my dance teacher is 29. I'm really close to her and she is my inspiration/idol. I understand what your saying, I text my dance teacher all the time and we talk about random things and it dosen't seem awkward. I do feel like she is my second mom and we even joke around and I call her my mom sometimes or we call each other bro or Twinnie because we are soooo much alike it's actually weird. She's always tells me she's proud of me and she always tells me she believes in me and has faith in me. I also do wait to walk out with her at the end of class because I love talking to her! She gave me the dancer of the year award the last 2 dance shows and it made me feel as though she really does love me as her student. I do get called 'Teachers Pet' and I think I talk to her the most out of all the other dancers and I thought I wasn't normal wanting her to love me like I'm her daughter. When I'm upset and I talk to her about it I do always end up saying 'Love you' and she says it back to me. She dosent say love you to often but she knows how much I love her. I can tell her anything even things I can't tell my own mom! She is always there for me and I wish she loved me like a daughter but who knows maybe she does! She also tells me that I'm the only one she's knows will never leave the dance school and she even said when I'm older I can take over her dance school which made me feel important and happy. I don't think of her as a dance teacher I think of her as a part of my family and she means a lot to me. I've only known her for over 2 years and it feels like I've known her longer. I also said something to her and she said that I made her cry and I did feel a wee bit embarrassed but I love telling her how much I appreciate her. I love her sooo much, I would love to talk to you about things like this seems like we can connect with a lot of things! x

I also feel the same way. I had a French teacher for three years and I felt I was close to her. But I don't think she cared about me as much as I cared about her. She liked me as a student (because I was the "best" and did all my work perfectly), and she often praised me infront of the other students and teachers. This approval made me feel important and I began to admire her. I wrote really deep short stories and poems for assignments and she always talked about how great they were. I was never close to anybody in my life - not to any "best friend" or a family member - but I felt I became close to her because she knew me well from my writings.

I always wanted her to love me like a daughter, but the problem was that I don't think she ever really cared about me - she only cared about my work ethic. Maybe she did/does love me, but she would never show or say it. She knows that I love her, but I don't think she knows how much I love her.

I will be graduating from high school in a few days, and I'm not sure as to when I'll see her again. She might forget me, but I don't think I will ever forget her.

I know exactly how you feel, I'm reading all these replies and understand the emptiness... like a hole in my heart where I wish she could be.. I love her like a mom and she is so important to me, but she has a life and kids and a husband. I met her online.(sounds creepy, but we've skyped and shes a minister in real life) I've known her since I was 14, I'm 19 and shes 50 now and i still wish I could just hug her like a mom. My parents were never really there, and I moved alot while i was 14-15 so i felt really lonely. She always listened and was so nice to me, like i never had met someone so nice. I understand ur feelings and i didnt think it was normal until after reading all of these comments. I felt so ashamed too bc i knew she wasn't my real mom, but I just wish she was.. i wish i could tell her i wish you were my mom.. we talk less and less now as we get older and it breaks me inside.

It is Normal.. I'm Happy to Find a Lot of People that are Like Me, I Never Expected...

I Have this Science Teacher that Just Started Teaching me This Year, I Love her so much, but she Doesn't Seem to Like me. She's Really Nice and Funny. She Doesn't even Smile to me. However, the other day I Made Her Some Muffins, She Flashed me a Smile. I was Over the Moon, I was Extremely Happy. But still.... It's the Same with her. The Problem is that my Friend Doesn't Particularly Like Her and I Do a Lot. My Teacher Likes Her but Doesn't Like me.. Huh.... I Just Don't Know What to do.. I Have the Most Wonderful Mother in this World, We are Really Close and I Love Her a Lot and She's so Amazing. But, I Happen to Love this Teacher to Death and I Have No Ideas Why( I don't Mean that I Love Her More than Mom )? Can Anyone Give me Some Help of What to do? I'm not the Shy Kind of Person but, I Just am too Shy to Tell Her. I Think it's Going to be Awkward. Help?

So sorry,
So were was I.... Oh that's right then she showed another one of the teachers and said. "Read her poem it is so sweet." I love her and that day I ran out of my game with my friends to walk on yard duty with her because I felt sorry for her after what happened that day. She calls me her assistant as I always help her out with some jobs. One time she wanted me to draw out the table that we would be using for the rest of the year for maths. I had to stand on a chair to rule the line across and I almost slipped but she came running from her desk to hold my hand and steady me. I LOVE HER! ♥️! I am just too shy to tell her that she is like a second mother to me. I am scared that she would think that it was a bit wierd. I have two and a half weeks left of school and I don't know how to tell her. HELP ME PLEASE! I love her sooooo much and I want her to know.
Finally now I have finished these set of comments all about the same teacher.

Hi I'm back. So anyway I could see her on the verge of tears. I saw that look in her eyes and I felt so bad! I looked away and saw the other teachers but they were really sad. I was about to cry and my favourite teacher saw me. She smiled at me weakly. After that the teachers had to move their desks and I went up to her. I told her that I had made her a birthday card but told her that it was really bad because my pen was smudged and it wasn't that decorated. She told me that of course she would like the card. I went and gave it too her then ran to start cleaning up. I saw her eyes twinkle as her frown turned into a smile and she looked at me and told me that it was really sweet. Will continue post later I have to go dancing again.

Hi all. I love this post. I can totally relate to this post even though I am twelve. I have this teacher in grade 6 and she is the best. I love her so much, just like a second mother. I talk to her when she goes on yard duty. For Term 2 and 3 I rarely went to see her on yard duty. I would wish that I was at her side talking about our weekends but I didn't want to seem like the teachers pet in front of friends. She would walk alone and I would feel sorry for her. The only interaction that we would have was a quick hi and bye. But lately my friendship with my two bestest friends started to fall apart. My closest friends would ditch me and play with others and I would ask them why and they would start laughing. I then started to go back to talking with this teacher but I wouldn't talk to her about my problems but I didn't think that they were that major since they are sometimes nice to me. I would just talk to her about general stuff so that I wouldn't have to think about my friends. But on her birthday the teachers got us together as a year level and told us that the principal thought that our behavior was bad and said that if it continued the teachers would have to move back to a lower grade. I was gutted. She said that she didn't know whether it was bad news for us but she was about to cry. I wanted to cry with her too. Sorry... Will continue this post later. I need to go to dancing now. Bye.

I am very interesting your post. I real like my teacher that like me as daughter.

I love my boss like a mother!!!!!!

Hey! :) I'm glad I'm not the only one here. So, this is my story.
I actually had a pretty bad experience last year with a favorite teacher. She was always nice to me and we would always talk to each other about anything. Well, one day when I talked to her, she started being distant with me. I asked her a couple times how she was and she would just say fine. Every time I went to her class and I tried to talk to her she either didn't say much or would just avoid me. I was really upset and mad because I started to think that she hated me or I did something wrong but her other friend who is also a teacher and my counselor told me she doesn't hate me and I didn't do anything wrong. They said it's about her. Until this day, I still don't know what happened that made her change like that. We used to be very close but things have changed I think for the better. I avoided her for about a year before I started to talk to her again which was last October. I can tell things are different between us. We aren't the same people we once were to each other. I barely talk to her now because I have moved on to a healthier relationship. I've changed because I found someone who makes me happy and my life has become way better with her in it! She is my Spanish teacher and she is truly amazing! She knows me very well and she can always tell when something is up. When I get upset, she has always been there to support me and comfort me. Everyday we see each other, we always hug each other even more than once. We are affectionate with each other and she likes to make me smile and laugh. I can tell that she really enjoys me and she loves to touch me (not in a romantic way) in a friendly, loving way. I know she always looks at me because I can just feel it and even though she jokes around with me sometimes I love her very much. In fact, I recently told her how I felt about her and she was so happy to hear what I had to say! I was very surprised to know that she felt the same way about me. That day was perfect to me because we both wore our favorite color, purple, and I felt like I was ready. I'm so happy to have such an very close bond with this amazing person in my life! This summer has been so long without her. I can't wait to finally see her next month! I'm seriously going to like crush her when I give her a hug and it's going to be very, very long! LOL! :P <3
Oh, and if any of you guys want to talk to me about anything just sent me a message or comment on this post, and I will get back to you! :D

Oh my god I thought I was the only one feeling like this! I feel exactly the same way as you do, I'm 21 and my friend is 42, she's not a teacher but is a friend of my mum's and I have grown to adore her as my best friend. I love her so much and really believe that if I'm meant to have a second mother figure in my life, she's the one for that role. She mentors me, encourages me, and is always there for me when I need someone. When I was devastated over the loss of one of my pets, she was the only one who could lift my spirits again. I'm the same as you - I love being with her because she makes me feel so happy and confident and hate being apart from her. She's someone I can look up to and all I want is to be like her. It's like having a best friend/motherly love and it can't be matched by anyone else. When we're out shopping together, people often think I'm her daughter because we're so alike! I also love her husband so much too, he supports me and cares about me just as much that I see him as a second dad as well! They've both done so many amazing things for me that I feel a better person as a result. I wish they love me like their daughter because I love them like second parents. I have a good bond with both my mum and dad, but they fought alot when I was younger and never lived together...I just feel like I wish these guys are how my parents should have been; a happy loving couple living together... Love you Carolyn and Frank XXXXX

i feel exactly the same way my science tacher is really funny and sweet ant i just love being around her. i always try and stay after school and talk to me and i feel like i have mixed emotions about her. i think its cute when she does certain little things, but i don't feel any actual sexual attraction to her. also shes six months pregnant and married. i want to tell her how i feel her, but im too shy and feel like it will be akward. i really want her to feel the same, but not the part about the cute thimgs she does. my mom doesnt talk to me umless im in trouble or she wants me to do something for her, never a hug or even a hi. i feel neglected and the school day doesnt seem to come fast enough. im glad i had a place to vent please tell me what you think i should do.

This is a little odd because I think I'm the original author of this post - it was a while ago, I made a quick forgettable account and typed up this because clearly I was embarrassed. It's up to you whether you choose to believe me or not but I know my writing style and those words came from my keyboard. I'm a little overwhelmed with how many comments this post actually has now, quite touched at the same time though. I have something very important to say to those people who are going through this situation right now though. Basically, 99% of the time, it's not "love" you have for this teacher/person, but you do have an infatuation. Not in a romantic way, but in a way that you want her to be your mother, which I can very much relate to, obviously.

This person will always cross my thoughts for the rest of my life, every now and again, but now, I just don't feel the same way about her.

I feel the same! Its scary tho because now im over 20 and still feel that way about wishing someone was my mom. Cept now its my boss at work. How do I help?? Is it normal? ?

I know exactly how you feel! It's not weird at all. I have a counselor at my school who used to be my teacher and we have grown very close. I'm a junior in high school and this woman is like my mom. My mom died so I've never had a mom and don't know what that's like... But when I'm with this counselor it feels like she's my mom. I love her. I don't know how she feels about me back and I wish I did. She has two kids of her own and one is older one is younger than me and they are both girls. The little one loves me. Every time she sees me she gives me a hug. Anyways, I always feel like the time I have with her is never enough. I tell her all my secrets and she tells me some of hers. She's the reason I actually want to go to school in the morning. I just wish I could tell her how I feel without her and others thinking its weird.... If anyone wants to talk more about their situation comment and we can def talk! :)

It is so reliving to know that I am not the only one! For months I thought I was nuts because I had a teacher as my best friend! In 8th grade I was super close with a teacher, Mrs. Route, but since I started high school we have not spoken but I miss her greatly. My history teacher however has this profound affect on me. Like I feel like I relate to her as I did my 8th grade teacher and the problem is I do not know how to go about it in telling her how I feel. When I was in 8th grade, I kind of just started talking to her and we became close and I was one of the first people, including teachers and students, that she told that she was pregnant :) and I felt such an honor and connection and from there we really hit it off and became close. But I feel like in high school it is different and everyone is more mature and it would be weird to go up to her and start talking to her. I have been battling depression and that was another reason me and her became so close because I would talk to her on how I felt and she would help me. I still am facing depression, but that's a different story. I just do not have a clue at all on how to approach her and tell her because she is sort of strict and I do not know how well it could all play out and I guess I am just a little scared. Ugh please someone give me some advise!

I thought I was the only one with feelings like this toward a teacher! The problem is though, I've been out of school since 2006 and I still feel like I want to talk to her. I want to grab a drink with her and hang out, but I'm so afraid to contact her cuz I think that she will think I'm crazy or weird or something like that. I was kind of close with her husband too. He was my shop teacher (my fav class) and I looked up to him like a father figure sometimes. They were both just so awesome but I get these paranoid thoughts that they will think I'm weird for wanting to know them as friends.

i'd just like to share my story with you ....
i am now 24 and 10 years ago i was going through exactly what you are.
we were on holiday in the south of france when my life got turned upside down. we where staying in a chalet and two down from us where an english family who lived near us unbeknowen to me. one moring i went out for a run and when i returned back to the entrance of the campsite a car pulled up alongside me and asked for directions but i knew who it was striaght away it was my french teacher and her husband i was supprised and shoked when i saw her becasue she was the Best teacher ever ! she was satying with the family two away from us becasue it was her brother. so i walked her to her chalet while paul (her husband) drove. we talked and she knew about my family problems my parents splitting earlier in the year and my dad comitting and the problems between my mum and i. she told me that she was there for me and my heart lit up as she said this. later on that night at the bar i started talking to her nephew and he seemed really nice and we spent alot of time together. the third to last day we had a walk in to the near by town and had lunch, i did not expect him to ask me out. that night we where at the bar and my mum had a drink problem and that night she drunk too much .i got really upset and mrs was there to comfort me we had a walk around the campsite for abit and advised time away from her would be good. and planned a day away. i returned to the chalet to find my mum drinkiing more and she became abusive towards me and hit me a few times. before i did anything i ran out of the chalet when mrs came after me. i had a hot drink with them . after i returned to the chalet to find the lights where off and the doors where locked and my mum wasnt answering. so i stayed overnnight on the pull out satie in there chalet in the morining my mum came looking for me a became appologetic. so we had a nice day out. we where all leaving the next day. and they offered for me to travell home with them , jane ( mrs ) paul and nick (the person who i was going out with) we drove home and there was a massive storm. we took the euro tunnel back because the ferries were cancelled could life get any
worse stuck in france in a storm ? yes it could i looked at my phone to find abbusive texts and jane decieded for me stay at hers because of the time problem and we didnt know where my mum was in her car. i satyed over night twice and i returned home the day before we were meant to go back to school. my realtionship with them was really strong and still is ! i got so close to mrs and met the rest of her family and got really close with nick my boyfriend. things were getting better and i satyed over at lizs more time i was at home. it gradually built up and now she is my foster parents eventhough i call them mum dad. we are soo close and i even still live at home with paul and liz. i have now completly no contatct with my mum brothers or anyone because they refuse to speak to me. but i was miserale and i am now soo greatfull for what i have now and i prefere my life now to how it was before. and earlier this mounth i got engaged to nick ..
so there are happy endings and i loveee my new parents to bits and my husband to be <3
* sorry for spellings etc *

I also hope my teacher can treat me as his daughter and sometimes as his best friend.I have regret I write out to him that what he has amazed me.I tell him that I thought he hate me last time. He din't reply me at all after that. Is that he has been scared away by me or angry with me?

Hello i am going through the same thing. I would love to email anyone and talk about it! I have a teacher at my school who i just look up to soo much! i will not give my email on here but please if you want to talk i will give you my email

I feel exactly the same. I went on a PGL trip with my fave teacher. I felt sick when I got there and she actually stayed overnight in my tent just to make sure I was okay. I stayed with her for the whole time I was there. Each morning she'd sneak in and give me a hug when she woke me up then wake the others up. She actually said that she was leaving and i cried really badly, and she said that she would miss me alot and that because she can't give me a number or email adress while she's my teacher, she'd give me it on her last day. I love her alot and wish I was her daughter. <3

OMG OMG I found place where i can find people with same feelings like mine. Well I love my teacher like more than my mom i think. She was my teacher 3 years ago but i was going on his section and we became very close. She is my idol in the life. She is a very strong person cuz she has had a breast cancer and i was very scared to lose her. Now, a two years later she is OK , but for 20 days i'm finishing 8th grade school. And i'm feeling like a whole my life will ruining. I have got her phone number, i know where she lives
even i was with my friends and we made a surprise for her birthday in her house. She felt very happy and started crying and saying that she love us a lot. For New year i sent her a message and she replied to me, and for Easter she sent me first. She is a very special and strong person, and i think that she love me more than the other students , cuz she is always refers different with me when she sее me. I can't live without her. My best friend know all about my feelings but he can't understand me like i would like to do.

That is happening this year. My Spanish teacher has been my teacher in Spanish since 1st grade and now I'm in 6th. I feel like she is perfect. She is beautiful, extremely sweet, nice and pretty. She is always there for me. She will always be my favorite teacher. But the problem is that she is leaving next year. Very sad.

OMG!!! I found it, I found it, a post where I can feel safe. I didn't know so many people have this same situation going on. And i know it wasn't only me, but all of you!!! This is amazing,how one teacher can affect your life in a positive way. I found this site last year, and I was still scared post something, but now I look at this, as a group thing.
See there was was this teacher, and she is awesome, we've been together for a year now, and it's going to be 2 years this September. Over the time period, I learned to love her more and more, until she was the only person who I could trust. WE spend time together, basically everyday or whenever I can see her. Like I have to make plans for certain things so I could see her. And everyday, she begins to be more motherly to me only, other people don't see that side of her where she's nice, have an amazing laughter, good sense of humor, and soft-spoken. Some people only see her as mean, loud mouth teacher, but I just think, you son't know her, so you can't judge her, and all of those mean things are put aside as I look at it.
She has a better life than them, she has a husband, and a son (my baby bro), she's not a student, she's a grown woman, who has a life, and control of it. I love her so much!!! She even protects me like a daughter, she told some boys to leave me alone, and that I was her daughter. Rumors spread and basically everyone knew that I was her daughter.
Those boys were stupid enough to believe it, but I'm glad that they did it,and she's glad also, because she said, I inspired her at times, and vice-versa with me. I really wish she was my mother, I love the title as her daughter, and those students never ever mess with me.
But lately I have been seeing her as a kind of love, still a mother, but more in-depth. I don't know what has happen over the course of our relationship, but I don't ever want to let things get in the way.
I made some mistakes this year that resulted her not talking to me for couple of days. She was heart-broken, and me knowing her so well than anybody else, she cried, cause of what I did. It seems kind of weird for a teacher to cry because of a student, but I'm not an ordinary student. I'm someone who knows secrets, who she can talk to, but at arm's length, because I'm not an adult yet. In her mind, I'm still a child with an intelligent mind, and even though I'm mature for my age, she doesn't trust me with any personal, personal! information. Those mistakes left scars for both of us, and I over-think things too much, and that's why I did them.
I mean you've been with this person over a year, you've seen them out of school, you spend time with them longer than anyone, you have their number to call and text them when you have problems, and just need to talk. You don't think you should at least have an "I love you" for all of the things you've done to make them trust you, and like you.
I don't want to be selfish, but I at least deserve one after all of the craziness over the 1 year and a 1/2. Anyway 9 of friends know that I have a teacher crush on her, and they asked questions, and they said they're cool. I know they are and they also laugh when I say how I want to see her, and spend more time, and how good she looks whenever I see her with them. And they know some things they can't say or joke about.
I feel relieved to see all of these people with this situation. And it's not a problem for people to wish that their teachers love them like their own. That's just you trusting someone who can do things to sort out your problems, but they're not one. It's not a problem if some people have it too. Those people who don't have teachers that we have are missing out on great relationships with someone who cares.
I'm going to miss my teacher love when I leave school, and there will be tears, and that time sayings like , "I love you," and "I'll miss you," But that time hasn't come, so I taking every moment I can to spend time with her, and getting to know her more than I do.
I'll admit, I'm not a student who wishes that their teacher loved them as a daughter. I'm proof that my teacher loves me like her own daughter.
ShellieMays You are lucky to have that teacher that let you sit on her lap, and hugged you, and said, "I love you," I'm soo jealous!, but I'm glad for you.
In Paris we will be together soon, whoever reads this welcome to the club. You are now a teacher's child.

Finally, I found other people going through the same things as me. I met a PE teacher that took me for hockey for the first time the other week. I instantly fel in love with her. I've been on 3 schol trips with her since. Then i found out she was leaving, i pretty much died! I told my friend I'd cry when she leaves, then she told the teacher. The teacher smiled but laughed. I have another, faveourite teacher, who I've liked for longer and I wish she was my mum too, but I'm still gonna miss the first teacher, we've done so much together!

I completely understand. I'm so close to a teacher, she was my head of year through years 9-11, I got close to her in year 10 when I started going through some rough stuff at home and now I'm in year 13 and we're still close. I love her like a mum, she's been a better mum to me than my own mother has. She also can't have children of her own so we sort of fill a role in each others lives. We talk every week, even if it's just a quick chat around school, or a hug now and then. This woman's saved my life and I love her to pieces (in a motherly-best friend sort of way) we also went on a school trip to America a few weeks back and I was SO scared about getting on the 12 hour flight as i'd never flown before. I was an emotional wreck and she helped me through the whole flight and the trip. I'm dreading when I leave year 13 because I'm scared we'll lose contact even though we have each other's numbers, but idk i'm just glad i've found people who feel the same!

I understand all of you. I also have the same feeling. I really love my English teacher as my mom. Until now I'm so curious about it. It's my problem now. Because soon I'm leaving her because I'm going to graduate and I need to transfer to another school. That truth really makes me sad. She became a big part of my life since I'm in first year high school. She became my inspiration in times that I feel that I'm so alone and sad. I don't know the reason why even she didn't say anything it's just makes me so happy every time I see her.It really scared me when I think of my college without her guidance...

I have a similar relationship with a very special person. I love her more then anything in the world... After all of these years it feels so great to know that I am not alone. All of your stories are inspiring. Thank You for not making me feel alone!

I really love my teacher to <3
She is so so so nice to me she treats me like her daughter

i have the same thing i stay after to talk to her im in andour of her room 50 times day i stay after school to talk to her i tell her about everything andi find that im more relaxed when i talk to her tha when i talk tofamily i love her so much

I feel exactly the same about two teachers, one was my french teacher and was engaged and moved to Paris to get married, so i know that i am never going to see her again :( But.... i then had a new french teacher, she is lovely :) i really like her and she likes me too, but doesn't know how i feel though :¬/

Im 19 now left skul 2yrs ago wel i thnk i love ha 2much!and t dsnt fil normal...HMMM u guys i even luk up 2 ma lecture man im addcted!

I always wanted my teacher to love me like a daughter, I had troubles at home my father abused me and my mother had problems with drink and beat me up, and I use to tell this teacher so much things untill one summer I mistakenly found out where she lived and that summer things where very bad at home and I made the mistake of contacting her during the summer holidays which she wasn't to pleased with although she knew there where troubles at home she always done her best to understand and listen to me when I was upset, she did seem to care and did look up to her as a replacement of my own mother and often think of her I wish I had told her the full truth of what I was going through back then I have not seen her in ten years and I do miss her even after all these years.

Hello Foxy101, I have the same problem. I would love to chat with you about this. It is comforting to know that someone else has the same issue. Would you care to chat by email?

I really like a teacher at school but I don't think she knows and I really wanna tell her cause I really like her and I'm a shy person so I dont have confidence although I do smile at her and say Hi but I wanna be close so she likes me but I don't have the confidence to talk to her more! She is really really nice and she's really funny and her smile is so heart warming! My best friend likes her to and they do talk loads but she don't like her as much as me she has a different favourite teacher and i just feel sad why can't i have the same amount of confidence as her? I like her loads and her name is Vicki which makes it cool! X Please leave comments I know what to do and if anyone is in the same position as me please leave a comment i just wanna know what people think! She don't teach me this year but she did last year and I don't know if I should make her a hand made card for her birthdy In November or not? It might be a bit awrkward! But I do really like her loads! What do h think?x

LOL GUYS I FIL DA EXACT SAME WAY....plz leave ur emails so dat we cn share our stories.PS M GNG TO C MA MOMMY TCHR DS WIKEND M SOOOO EXCTD

Just a suggestion ask her if your her fave student cuz I ask my english teacher and she said I was her fave student and I was like so happy!!!!!!

I think it is quiet normal because I always wish my English teacher would treat me as if I was her daughter but I get over it and you will too one day!
Hoped this helped!

i get exactly how you feel i come home scared from my parents wondering when abd what time are they gunna abuse me.. then one day i walk in school and i met this wonderfull spectaculer lady she is the best over the year i pored my hart to her! i told everything i did drugs and i get hit my family is difuctianol eney way.. i began to fall in love with but only in that mom and son way i would wish that one day she asked me can i adopt you but she never is and never did. eneyway i want her to love me as a son im so sad beacuse school is already ending and i cry sometimes knowing i come home to a shitty family instead i can be at school with someone who cares how i fell and what i love. i wish the same as you .:( :/

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omg i thought i was the only one then i look on here; im sooooo relived i didnt think it was normal but it seems it by all these comments. i have this teacher im really close with(woman) and im 16(woman) she is such a lovley teacher and always makes me laugh i look up to her. i also stay a little longer after lessons just to have a general chat it makes my day that little bit brighter specially when im down. i feel safe and secure around her and i can talk to her about anything and she wont tell anyone. i have been through a rough patch the last few months and i have just been feeling crap, but when i talk to her she ensures everything is going to be okay, i generally love her as a person and hate it when i dont see her, im not in love with her its just my mum and dad yes there here but there not here for me like my teacher is i only see my dad once a week because my mum and dad our separated and my mum must hate me she calls me fat even though i am only 9 1/2 stone and ugly and says i have no friends. my teacher is so lovley and would love her to be my mum and for her to love me as a daughter; she has 2 children and a husband though. i know this proberbly all sound weird by she has literally been there for me througout think and thin, she has done so much for me she is my spanish teacher and came back after maternity leave a half way through year 10 (in yr 11 now nearlly leaving) i didnt know her very well but we almost staright away had a good working relationship when she started teaching me i was on a U in spanish now im on a C and i thank her so much for that couldnt do it without her also i have had really bad money difficultys and she has payed for me to go to a show shes judges because i really wanted to go but i had no money. i just wiish theres a way :( there is one thing i havent been telling her that sometimes i get so depressed with life that i slit my wrists and feel suicidal im not proud of this but cant help how i feel im too scared to tell her this incase she tells someone or referes me to somewhere. as i said im in year 11 and leaving in about a month and i really dont want to go :'( my day wont be brightened anymore because i doubt we will ever see each other i hope to keep in contact with her though :'(

please dont leave nasty replys, im just a girl with a broken heart </3

how is you and your teacher now ?

I know exactly how you feel! I do have a good mom who I love very much but this past semester I had the best professor, and we became very close. One day she told me that I was like a daughter being that she only has 2 sons that are grown. On my birthday, she took me to lunch and gave me a gift! She's amazing, and I love her like a mom but I feel guilty because I do love my real mom and wouldn't trade her for the world. We always stayed and talked after class. My mom invited her to my birthday party, and she came. She reminds me of my real mom and maybe that is why we have this special bond?

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well i have being go threw this kinda except i believed she was my mum untill she well found out and told me that it was so not real cos if it was she would have had me when she was 1. well it only happened today and i feel lonely again and miss the feeling i had keep the bond you have cos if you dont you will realy miss it

Im sry u feel lonely. Do ur parents help u?

I already have talked to to her about my feelings, i've talked to her about everything over the past three years. We meet up in the term break (it's all cleared with the school and my mum) just so she can check how i'm doing, that's off her own back- i don't ask, although i am glad. She's already said she'd be really upset if we didn't keep in touch when i left school, so we've decided we're going to. I think we both realise it's not really a pupil-teacher relasionship we have. Well, that as well. She is very professional though, she was my teacher a few years ago, for awhile now, she's been my form tutor.

That sounds really hard, it sounds like you are missing something in your life, do you have a strong mother figure at home? its ok to have a genuine respect and even love for teachers who help you through hard times and who you feel like you can relate to, but they can't, and should not be expected to take on parental roles.