Is it normal that i worry about these things?

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Im a junior at college (19 year old female). Long story short I got accepted at some pretty decent universities (Warwick, LSE, BU, York etc) but I managed to somehow mess up my chances and I ended up at a university that isn't that great in ranking. Ever since this has happened I've been worrying about the future literally every second of every day and it's driving me crazy. Things such as 'will I get a decent job that pays well & that I will enjoy?' 'Will I get into a good graduate school? (I know its not about the Uni and about my work experience etc but I'm still freaked out that due to my carelessness I won't be getting into a good graduate school)' 'Will I be able to take care of myself when I graduate? (I'm a very family orientated person and therefore being away from the one's I love (I study abroad) is hard on me as it is and it has made me lose confidence in my abilities, and If will be independent enough without them) I'm always hearing about how bad the job market is and how people seem to be struggling more nowadays with work etc than before and how the world has become so competitive. I'm studying in France at the moment which is great since I get the chance to learn french and the city (Paris) is so lively, however, my home country is Egypt and given the circumstances (It has gone through a revolution and as a result corruption, violence and crimes are even worse than before + the fact there are no jobs) it is unlikely that I will be returning there to live and this has been stressing me out so much) I love my home country and I've never thought about leaving it, my friends and basically my whole life (Just imagine packing up and leaving everything you knew) until this year and this scares me to death. I don't know it just all seems so much and I'm only 19, I feel like I'm worrying more than I should and I don't quite know how to deal with it. Your comments are appreciated :)

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  • blablablah221
    12 years ago

    Of course it's normal to feel this way, you're nineteen and away from home. Is there any way to contact your family so that you might not feel so homesick? If not, surrounding yourself with other people usually helps as well. For instance, if you stay in a dorm room at your university, you could try getting a roommate. If you don't stay in a dorm room, sharing the rent of a small apartment alleviates both cost and loneliness. You didn't specify exactly what career path you were looking to get into, though you did mention graduate school. Finding the perfect job for you is a matter of process of elimination; first, root out the jobs you know you would never do in a million years, then work from there. Imagine yourself in each and every job, and ask yourself whether or not you'd be completely and totally happy there. If the answer is no, cross it off the list and keep going. And I'll tell you this; as long as you are in fact going to an accredited four-year university and are making good grades, graduate schools should not be a big concern. When it comes to employers, it's more important that you have the skills and mindset necessary for that particular job rather than graduating from a fantastic university. That's not to say that you should aim low; apply for the schools you really, really want to get into, even if you think you might not make it. You never know! Take the best you get and keep your mind open. You never know when opportunity strikes. As for the conflict going on in your home country and the job crisis in the rest of the world, all I can tell you is to live for yourself. I know it sounds selfish, but honestly, you have to take care of you, not everyone else on the planet. Enjoy your time while you're young, there's only so many years you get to go to University and live through all the crazy, amazing things that come with it. Take advantage of Paris, you'll find that the experience you get studying abroad will benefit you in all you do. It's truly an amazing city, isn't it? If you need to talk to someone, message me personally. Good luck to you!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    Thank you so much for both of your replies you don't understand how much they've helped me! I will be taking every single point into consideration. Thank you again!

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  • BoozeWooze
    12 years ago

    I'm not an expert at this so I can't give a good answer, but all I can say is that you are still young and there are a million decent jobs out there just waiting for you. Your only 19, you have plenty of time to find a job.

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