Is it normal that im socially awkward in school?

Most of the time in school, I get really shy with people I don't normally socialize with , since I hang with a relatively small group of my own friends. I have a low self esteem when it comes to talking with new people or girls in general. I can only keep a pretty small conversation at the most I guess. But with my friends, I'm completely myself and normal. IIN?

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Based on 115 votes (107 yes)
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  • rainbowsoul

    I'm exactly like that but worse, I don't even feel myself with my friends. The only time that I'm myself is when I'm home alone.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    It's normal. I was a little similar when I was in HS. I think their's just some people that you feel like you can "let your hair down" in front of, and others you struggle to find that comfort zone.

    Just try to be more open with people. Push yourself to step out of that comfort zone, because you'll never get comfortable with new people if you don't go the extra mile in getting to know them first with a few awkward conversations in the beginning. Once you get past the awkward, "getting to know you" questions/small talk(that comes in the beginning), you'll find yourself warming up, and you'll feel a lot more comfortable with talking to them again. Then you'll be able to say that you know them, and can relate.

    It'll get easier.
    :)

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  • 8Serene8

    Yup I was a bigtime loner mostly in school but around my friends I was always loud and funny and sociable.

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    • Adoxy

      Haha im just like you :)

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  • funnycommercials123

    Exactly the same thing with me! I'm really social with my best friends or family. I don't talk at all with other people.

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  • momoboo

    Since I went to a new school in year 8, I have stayed with the same group of friends. I did make other acquaintances that I talk to when I'm bored but I am never really myself with them as I know what they would rather talk about (mostly about boys and celebrities =.=) It is good you at least have a group of friend you can be yourself around. What is the point of being popular and having lots of fake friends, if you could just be yourself and have people like you for exactly who you are!

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  • It is absolutely, perfectly normal. I am so shy it isn't even funny. Get this: I can't even be myself around my friends. Not much of a feeling, is it?
    I actually do know how hard this is (better than many, for my own reasons), but if it's upsetting/bothering/infuriating you, you do need to attempt to improve your confidence. BE YOURSELF, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
    If you can't, I COMPLETELY understand. It's a very hard thing to do, and I'm not even halfway over it yet.
    Believe me, it's normal. Convince yourself of this, or you'll get even more unsure of yourself.
    Good luck.

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    • lilylily

      I know how you feel. I feel awkward even around my "friends". I just feel like I don't have anything substantial in common with them.

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  • TheIntellect

    I'm like this too, it's normal. But I usually keep it pretty general with my closest friends, nothing interpersonal -- basically just joke around. It's weird.

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  • timebobbu

    thats soooo me!

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  • U sound EXACTLY like me

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  • wreckd

    Normal. I'm not fully myself around people who I don't socialize with regularly. I have social anxiety and that's probably what you have too. Go to a mental health center. They'll take care of you. I'm not sure if regular doctors will help you as well but it's worth a try.

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