Is it normal that literally everyone hates me?

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I really need advice. Everyone in my life apart from one person who occasionally still speaks to me, either hates me or is getting sick of me. I don’t think I did anything, but people have just always seemed to dislike me no matter what I do. I’ve tried to be so many people, and no matter what mask I put on no one seems to be impressed ever. I’ve lost all of my friends and my family think I’m boring and annoying. Everyone either leaves me on read or leaves me on delivered for days and I don’t mind, but I just wish they would be honest and tell me what I’ve actually done wrong. I understand that I can be difficult but there are people who are wayyyy worse than me who have tons of friends.

It’s so unfair, isn’t it? People will only like you if you’re attractive and smart and funny but those things don’t come naturally to some people. No matter how hard I try I just can’t THINK of anything smart or funny to say, and it’s not like I can help the way I look. People suck so much. I know I’m kind of ranting at this point, but I really need advice. Is there any way I can take back control over this situation, or find the positives in it? If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it :)

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[Old Memory]

2 years ago

You're conflating "attraction" with "friendship"...The people you're referring to as "friends" are they people you're trying to flirt with?

I'm sure you're not hated nearly as much as you think you are, a lot of people just cba with replying.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Yeah you’re right lol, most of them are likely busy. I just overreact sometimes but thank you for the response!
  
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my_life_my_way

2 years ago

You said you get left on read/delivered so try making friends in real life not on the internet

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- [Old Memory]
  
  2 years ago
  
  Probably wouldn't be able to at the moment due to COVID-19.
  
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  - my_life_my_way
    
    2 years ago
    
    Only gays and communists believe in Covid 19
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      2 years ago
      
      And the Swedes.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        2 years ago
        
        Swedes?
        
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      - 1WeirdGuy
        
        2 years ago
        
        The swedes never even did covid lockdowns!
        
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      2 years ago
      
      And lots of Karen's and old ladies.
      
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Tommythecaty

2 years ago

Boring and annoying....

That’s a strange combination, sounds shitty.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Yes it’s not the most pleasant lol
  
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  - Tommythecaty
    
    2 years ago
    
    I don’t know how those two even occur simultaneously. Honestly it sounds like you’re around the wrong people. You can adjust yourself a bit, we all do around others. But there’s always people who will like your personality out there, and you will bump into them.
    
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1WeirdGuy

2 years ago

I dont know what advise to give because I havent been around you. But I've always been the same way I get on peoples nerves and alot of ppl tend to not like me as well.

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- nopurpose
  
  2 years ago
  
  Are you weirdguyfromthesouth? I can point you as the one of two cool persons from this site.
  
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  - 1WeirdGuy
    
    2 years ago
    
    Ayyyeee Yeah thats me.
    
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    - nopurpose
      
      2 years ago
      
      So what happened with your old account?
      
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        2 years ago
        
        Banned
        
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        nopurpose
        
        2 years ago
        
        What for? That seems to be a pretty liberal forum..
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Thank you, it sucks sometimes but hopefully people like us will find real friends one day!
  
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RoseIsabella

2 years ago

Stop trying to wear a mask, people will feel like you're being insincere. Have you ever received some constructive criticism about any bad habits you have?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  That’s a great point actually, the only thing people have mentioned to me is the fact that I take everything personally which is definitely true lol. Thanks for the response!
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    2 years ago
    
    You're very welcome.
    
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pastafather

2 years ago

Normal I guess I know everyone fuckin hates me for sure

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I’m sorry to hear that, don’t worry though you’ll find people who like you one day - or you’ll learn not to need their approval if you haven’t already!
  
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livegeek

2 years ago

Who cares what anyone thinks. Be happy with yourself. Nobody can take that from you. Don't give a fuck what others think. Then you will smile and have fun!

Asperger's for me. I push past it every day.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  This helps so much. Thank you, I hope you have a great day :)
  
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normal-rebellious

2 years ago

Yeah, to be liked stop caring that people want you to change, and be consistent and don't change, and stick to all your beliefs etc, even your diet, wardrobe, routines, etc, I'm sure your family will like you better if not your friends if you stay this way and stay the same and not put on all these masks, stop caring what they think of you and they'll like you better, I tried it and it works. And the dislike they have for you is normal, it could've happened to anybody, it's the human condition. And we don't hate you, nor do your family and friends, they're probably thinking arseholes are decent human beings.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Thank you so much, you’re 100% right! This helped a lot.
  
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Contrivance

2 years ago

"I’ve tried to be so many people, and no matter what mask I put on no one seems to be impressed ever."

This is what I see as a problem. There is nothing more unappealing than chameleons that change themselves to be liked. Just stay true to who you are. You'll alienate a lot of people but at the same time you'll attract the ones who like you for being you. For instance, very often I'm not attracted to the smartest, sexiest or funniest person in the room, but the most genuine.

Also, a law of life is the more you chase something, the more it will elude you. And vice versa. Become your own friend, be someone that _you_ like. For no other reason than pleasing your self and conscience. And then you'll see how many people will gravitate towards you. But the irony is by then you might not care for the attention anyway

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  That’s a great response, and this really offers a different perspective. I’ll try to be more genuine from now on, thank you and I hope you have a great day!
  
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DADNSCAL

2 years ago

It sounds like you’ve got a persecution complex, but only a therapist could say for sure. I would strongly suggest seeing one. Your medical insurance should probably cover some sessions.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Yeah, I suppose it does make sense. Thank you and I hope you have a great day :)
  
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Somenormie

2 years ago

No one personally dislikes you some just cannot be bothered to reply back to you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I suppose I don’t usually think of it that way, thank you!
  
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nopurpose

2 years ago

That's the price of being one's own purpose, walking your own path without bowing down to anyone and holding to principle. Welcome to the club!

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