Is it normal that lying will ruin my fake life?

Okay. I have lied to my best friends and a lot of people about my entire life. I just lie for no reason. And they are not small lies, they are lies that make a person's life the way it is. I have lied about being raped, being sent to an insane asylum, cutting myself, stabbing myself, relationships I have been in, and many more. I realize it is impossible to turn back now because my friends will want to have nothing to do with me. My only way out is getting away from everyone I know and starting my life on a clean slate. Please help me.

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Comments ( 38 )
  • Trust your friends more. Let them know you have this problem, they might show you a surprising amount of empathy. Or they will be upset. You won't be able to change if you are running away from taking responsibility, though.

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  • LittleMissy

    The chances are they probably already suspect you are lying anyway. I had a friend who made stuff up all the time and in the end I told her to try and stop because I liked her as she was.

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  • changes123

    This is going to follow you regardless, and will always be at the back of your mind. Like ^ it's much better to come clean. I know it's easier said than done, but think about the positive side of telling them. You won't have to feel guilty anymore. And you can start living your life.

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  • Avant-Garde

    See a therapist. When the therapy is done, if you want, you can leave the country, change your name and try to make a new life for yourself.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I hope who ever ends up with you doesn't end up with you as a result of these lies.

    Thats the worst thing to base a relationship on and it doesn't end well.

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  • Most people lie to make themselves look better. Why would you lie about bad things?

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    • RoseIsabella

      The OP probably feeds on pity.

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    • SkullsNBones

      There was a girl in my secondary school who told some very eleborate lies about her friend dying after surgery and her boyfriend commiting suicide in front of her amongst many other things. She didn't tell everyone, just her close friends, suggesting that she didn't want general attention but a way to connect with a small group of people, which could be OP's reason. Yet this girl did also show signs of schizophrenia such as vivid hallucinations, so OP may be doing it for different reasons.

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  • Camigirl080343

    You're a pathological liar. It is a real condition, so I have empathy for you. But you need to talk to someone to help you, you're not going to be able to stop yourself.

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  • abode123

    If you don't feel ready now to tell them, then do what would make you feel better. Go, relocate, and start fresh. Develop yourself as a person, and work to improve in whatever aspect you feel lacking in.

    When you do build up enough confidence, then maybe you can tell them the truth. There is no rush.

    I cannot judge you. Some of the comments on here are very harsh, and serve no purpose other than to be harsh. That is what I truly pity.

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    • Absol

      Thanks for not insulting me. I suppose others seem to find themselves really cool to decide to insult a 14 year old's mistakes. But thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it.

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  • RoseIsabella

    IIN that I just can't bring myself to feel sorry for you?

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  • JoeFuckhead

    I think you're full of shit.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy

    insecure? I mean people often lie about their lives when they are insecure

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  • braintrip

    You're a fucking dumbass why would you lie about shit like that?

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    • Absol

      I didn't ask for an insult. I asked for help and how to resolve my problem you fucking asshole.

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      • braintrip

        You do have a problem seriously who lies about that? Like I can see lying about little stuff but geez, you're friends probably think you're bat shit crazy.

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        • Absol

          We're all misfits and we are all outcasts at school. They find it believable due to my naturally gloomy and so-called heartless mood.

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  • DamnSonn

    I know how the OP feels. I tell lies constantly:/!!!

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  • SangoNyappy

    Why did you lie? Was is just to be more interesting or you just thought "why not?" ?

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  • handsignals

    Are you one of my x-GF's?
    I went out with a girl once who said her X-Gf was coming to her house to rape her and she was to scared to call the cops I stayed up all night waiting for him, what a surprise he never showed up, to the OP you are an idiot it is because of woman like you that men can't trust woman.

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    • Absol

      I'm a guy.

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      • handsignals

        and I'm a dumb ass :(

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  • losingfaithinhumanity

    Why would you lie about such awful things?

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    • Absol

      Because, I enjoy being miserable.

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      • Moonbow

        That's your prerogative, but you need to keep it to yourself, you freak!

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      • RoseIsabella

        Sounds more like you enjoy attention and having an excuse to be miserable.

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  • dirtybirdy

    Your title doesn't make sense to me.

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    • RoseIsabella

      It sounds like the title of some stupid show on Mtv about teen angst and high school crap. Not that I don't sympathize with teen angst per se, but liars...fuck em.

      God damn, I miss music videos!!!

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      • dirtybirdy

        Set the liar on fire!!!

        Ahh I miss watching eddie vedder all sweaty and shirtless. Mmmmm. There was a lot of other good stuff but...eddie vedder...all sweaty...and shirtless....mmmmmm

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        • RoseIsabella

          Woo Hoo! Or curse them with a venereal disease. PANTS ON FIRE! Mwahahaha!!!

          Grunge was tha shit! I love how organic it was and how it killed all those damn hair metal bands dead in the water when it came on the scene. There's some good shit out there today but much of this post millennial pop culture tends to be über douchey these days, especially here in Las Vegas. It's like ground zero for superficial douchebags.

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  • Moonbow

    Sounds to me like you're suffering from a condition called Munchausen's Syndrome. You need help.

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    • Munchausen's is when someone lies about medical problems for attention. The OP is a pathological liar.

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      • Moonbow

        I KNOW what Munchausen's is, that's why I said what I did. The OP specifically said she lied about "being raped, being sent to an insane asylum, cutting myself, stabbing myself." Because these lies were named first, it would appear she is seeking attention by pretending to have medical/psychological problems, i.e., Munchausen's Syndrome. Excuse me for not being more explicit!

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        • Absol

          He*.

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          • Moonbow

            The only way you could know "he" is a "he" is if YOU are the OP. Stop asking people on a site frequented primarily by preteens and immature adults for help and see a psychiatrist!

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          • Moonbow

            A man who would lie about being "raped" has much bigger problems than Munchausen's or being a pathological liar. Most men, i.e., real men, would be mortified to have people think he'd been raped!

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            • Absol

              I am clearly not like most guys. I enjoy the feeling of misery.

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