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He is actually my ex now. We're not seeing each other for a while but i still need an answer.Whenever i was moaning ( not too loud) he'd hush me. If i moved too when we were having sex he'd tell me to stop moving. I had to sit there like a robot.I wonder what i was doing wrong as the bf before him liked all that and always told I'm good in bed.
Necrophilia aside, it is also entirely possible that he was having sex with you while not attracted to you. Perhaps he was imagining or fantasizing about someone else and whenever you would move or moan, it would ruin the mood / fantasy for him. That's how I've felt towards one of my exes. I loved him very much emotionally but the physical / sexual attraction was simply not there. I had to fantasize about other men to keep me going because I didn't actually like having sex with him (in fact, he was quite off-putting and a turn-off).
Sounds like he was a controlling douche, it's a good thing you left him. My ex was kind of like that too, if we were having sex and I started moving my hips he'd be like "just lay back, I got this." I'm like "what the fuck, its not just about you." Total piss off.
One time one of my friends hooked up with a girl and when she moaned, he said she sounded more like an ape-man, and it was a total turn off to him. Do you sound like an ape-man? lmao
If not, it's definitely kinda weird.
Sounds to me like he was picturing someone else... For me, a girl moaning is the sexiest thing ever.
Whoa, what's his problem? Makin' a woman moan is every normal guy's dream. Tell him to get a blowup doll if he just wants a place to drain his lizard.
Be quiet and don't move?...that sounds like something else entirely...if you get my drift.
I'll offer another explanation.
Do you live in an apartment or dorm? Is it possible that he might have been embarrassed that other people might hear you?
Okay, but do you live in an apartment? Maybe he was worried about the neighbors hearing through the walls.
Yes, it's an apartment but why wouldn't he let me move my hips for God's sake? lol The bf before him lived in an apartment too and even had a roommate but we had healthy, passionate sex but on low volume. As I said above, I'm not normal, educated person lol Not that type of woman that screams like a crazy goat.
Maybe he is secretly a necropheliac and was using you to practise before digging up a grave.
Do you moan like a goat?
There's no way we can answer your question. We don't know what you look like or how you sound during sex so the question is silly really.
I am dating a guy that doesn't like hip movement during sex either. I talked to a close male friend of mine about it. He said, some guys like to be the givers during sex while the woman just takes it. He also said, some guys have a hard time falling into rhythm with a woman who moves and grinds her hips during sex. He might not be able to follow your rhythm, that's all. I would not take it personal.
I used to be quiet in bed till i found out that the louder you are, the louder your partner will be. its a big turn on specially if you know someone can hear, you can guarantee they will be turned on
I used to have a friend who told me moaning turned him off. Idk why, I find it pretty hot. Maybe it's just one of those things. We had a one-night stand and he stayed deathly quiet. It was pretty uncomfortable tbh.
This is actually a funny topic for me. To answer your question I would say the dude u were with has issues.
Although... my last gf screamed so loud during sex I used to fear the neighbors would call the cops thinking i was killing her. She wanted to have sex one time at her parents and I laughed and said "yeah... like they arent gonna hear that" lol
I dont honestly think she could control it or turn it down though. Good Luck in the future, scream on!
You know when someone complements you so much that it reaches a point that it gets annoying? Especially if it seems played/overdone
I love it when the woman moans! If you wanna moan get ahold of me and I will make you moan and walk funny for days!!!!
it,s not sex with out it i love it when my wife doe,s it turn,s me on nore.
A bit of moaning is sexy, but when women go all pornstar about it, it gets fucking annoying after a while.
My ex did that to me to. He said he hated it when I moaned.. And he would always tell me to stay still and don't move. He was WIERD. Trust me, it's not you!
Hes probably gay or something! All guys like when a girl moans or moves during sex!!! Look imma virgin and i know that!
Yeah well im not into all that moaning either but with me a little bit it fine.Sometime that shit is a turn off because women fake or all in my ear. I rather fuck you and watch your reaction like fucking a girl so good she cant walk straight when she get up. I like talking ... I feel your dick in my stomach or fuck . I also GOTS to dominate.... Yeah (gots) thats the only way my dick works now. Everyone different so dont knock him for not liking you moan. Also and it dont mean your sex is bad or he dont like u.
I like talking too. Once I whispered his name when I was cumming and he lost his erection...I was about to cry...
if u whispered my name in my ear when ur cumming i'd say yes yes i love you so much im so happy that i made you cum not just some fantisy
Dont feel bad maybe it is better y'all did end it so u don't have to feel like that. The whispering is a problem ...for him. I feel like I know the reason for that but I don't want to make it sound bad. Overall it's his loss right..It's easy for women to find a man so remember that. Don't let some make u feel bad you'll be alright.
he's either into corpses or rape. neither of which is a good thing. he's also just a complete douchecock. not sure why you ever liked him, dated him, nor fucked him; but that's beside the point. good job on moving on despite it never should have happening.
He seemed to be a good guy but the way he was having sex with me hurt my feelings a little bit. I started feeling less sexy and less beautiful and that I'm doing it all wrong. I might appear shallow now for leaving him because of sex but...I wouldn't let anyone make me feel like a piece of shit lol
i dont care what you do wrong right or anything as long as i'd be with you
Men can be overexcited some times. Maybe you were just so good he couldn't resist? But if he's hurting you you have to say it. If he won't stop, he needs to learn a lesson
good. nobody should ever date someone like that. that's not a relationship. that's slavery. and whether people want to admit it or not sex is a very important part of an actual relationship. congrats again for dumping
I don't think you are shallow for leaving him. That makes perfect sense. Just don't forget that more than 99% of guys would not say the things he was saying. It is very unlikely that you will ever encounter this again.
Sounds should turn you on during intercourse. It does it for me anyway. Probably just thin walls he's worried about. But honestly, the louder she screams the better, fidget it
Instead of just moaning you should say stuff cause there was this girl i was with that would constantly moan during penetration and i could never figure out if i was hurting her or if she was faking it or what but then i started sucking on her nipple when she moaned and she came almost instantly after that. So i figured that she must have just been into it all along. And we never kissed before but have had sex probly 20 times lol is that normal?
I don't understand why he wouldn't like that.. I mean, if you're moaning, it means it feels good. Lol.
I guess it's just not his thing. Did you ask? You're probably best broken up. Now you can find someone that makes you happy? I'm guessing here. I hope I'm right.
Some girls are horribly annoying when they "moan". Like a real cheesy porno. But you said he didn't even like you moaning "not too loudly". Maybe he wasn't convinced that you were really into it so that was ruining it for him.
As for the "don't move" thing, that is pretty weird. Maybe he is into sleeping girls?
Whatever the case, it definitely sounds like you two are not a good fit for each other sexually.
Doesn't sound like a very promising matchup if he was not diggin your natural (assuming you were being natural and not fake) sexual behavior.
My advice: don't take it personally. It was probably him, not you.
I never fake and when I moan it's only when I feel good. I'm also not that loud. I'm a normal acting person lol
I could be wrong but it seems that he has a fetish for dead people hence is why he didn't want you to make any sounds and stay still as a log. I think you did a very good thing in making him your ex.
How much moaning were you doing? If you do too much it sounds fake and that turns some guys off
Depends on if u sounded sexy or stupid. Maybe he wasnt into u all that much so he wanted u to hush and not move so he could concentrate on his orgasm. I've done that to guys I didn't like when I was horny and wanted to get off but didnt like them cuz they were ugly