Is it normal that my boyfriend broke up with me because of this?

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Our friends and my bf decided to go out, I didn't feel like going so I said I was busy. My boyfriend went all sad but I ignored him and went to bed early. At 4AM my boyfriend called me saying he was at my door and asking me to go see him. i told him i didn't feel like it, it was so damn cold outside and i was on my pjs and i was sleepy. and he decided that meant i didnt love him and broke up with me and hasn't spoken to me since then... I'm not even sad right now, I'm just so pissed! I dont think it was my fault??

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little_freak

11 years ago

Either he wasn't actually that into you and was just looking for an excuse, or he's a complete tool. In any case, to hell with him.

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PapzBSlim

11 years ago

He was outside in the cold and you couldn't put clothes on to see him outside or invite him in? He could also be jealous and paranoid and think you were using it as an opportunity to cheat.

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Mando

11 years ago

My god what a klingy pussy! Well I guess he showed you by breaking up, huh? Boo hoo hoo! Ha.

Well you are perfectly right to feel angry about his petulant demands and when you calm down will no doubt miss him as much you would any other former pain in the butt.

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Maya05

11 years ago

He sounds like a dumbass. Unless he was actually needing help he shouldn't expect you to come to him at 4am in the cold. It's probably for the best that you aren't with him if he acts this way.

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Short4Words

11 years ago

How old are you guys if you don't mind me asking?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I'm 19 to 20, He's 21
  
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  - Short4Words
    
    11 years ago
    
    I was reading the comments and from what I piece together, you said you ignored him and maybe he felt your reason for not going was him, and maybe thats what drove him back to your place wanting to talk to you, also because you had mentioned you had fought before, and maybe you were good, I'm not sure. That might explain his actions, but I'm wondering, has he done something like this before? Being really emotionally sensitive?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Mmmm, not really! He used to consider himself very sensitive whereas I always told him he wasn't at all, because he would "jokingly" flirt with other people... but then he was the sweetest to me.
      But what really pisses me off is that, I'd been speaking to him 24/7 for almost three years (we were already talking loads when we weren't together and he was with her ex.. when he broke up with her; he didn't speak to me for like a week because he said i was so important in his life and he needed to think), but apart from that and this argument 2 months ago; we were always texting (if we weren't together), from "hello good morning sweetie" to "good night dream of me babe", so how can he be so happy now that we don't speak? I find it so weird to look at my phone and not seeing any message from him for example.
      Thanks for being so thoughtful btw
      
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redoctober

11 years ago

who gives a shit. Must be like 14 or something.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Perhaps he went through something he needed support from his partner with, and you ignored his plead for support? That, in my book, is a clear indication of a bad partner.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Oh :/ But really, It was 4am! I could cheer him up the next day ._.
  
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  - dom180
    
    11 years ago
    
    It depends how cold it really was. If it was really cold out (it was probably below freezing outside, what with it being the middle of winter), and I went to my girlfriend's house so I could come in and get warm because I had nowhere else to go, and she wouldn't let me in because she was so warm and cozy in bed and didn't want to get up, I would be very angry with her. It would make her seem very selfish and lazy.
    
    It also depends on how far he had to travel to get to you. If he had to walk a mile or two in below freezing temperatures to see you, then he's got a case for being unhappy with you. If he lives very close to you, then he hasn't got a case.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      well, let me say:
      
      1. It was FREEZING.
      2. He was coming home from a club and he just drove to mine (5mins) (he could have gone home in less than 5 mins)
      3. He was in the car, he wasn't freezing and asking me to let him in because he needed to get warm.
      4. i live with my parents they'd think we're insane
      5. he woke me up! i was sleeping and I think it's normal that I GOT IN A MOOD!!
      
      why are you people defending him? it makes me feel so sad...
      
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      - dom180
        
        11 years ago
        
        I think 2 and 4 are definitely fair reasons for you to be mad at him - possibly 3 is as well. I don't think 5 is a good reason not to let him in, but on the flip side it is completely understandable and normal that you would be in a mood because you were woken up. I think if anything 1 is a reason why you *should* have let him in, because it's bound to be colder for him outside than it is for you. That's still 3-2 to you, though :P
        
        Sorry for making you feel sad - I'm just considering all the options. It's impossible to make a judgement without a lot of information. I don't think he's a total arse like some other people are saying, but I certainly don't think you're in the wrong given that information. I think it's definitely an over-reaction for him to break up with you, although I guess it's understandable for it to be the trigger if he wasn't happy with your relationship already.
        
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        11 years ago
        
        Thank you :) yeah we weren't in our best moment, I have to admit. We had had an argument 2 months before, we didn't speak for like a week. But we were doing pretty good I thought :| But, still, he hasn't spoken to me since that night. Not even on Facebook or phone. Which I find ridiculous. And I am not speaking to him first :|
        
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  - Cherry&Mocha
    
    11 years ago
    
    If you really cared about him it wouldn't matter that it was 4am. At least I am like that.
    
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Charmo

11 years ago

So, you lied to him, you ignored him, and now your mad at him for breaking up with you? Just want to make sure I got this straight.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Well, we could say i didn't lie... I just said I have stuff to do (E.G. watch a movie with my sister and sleep) and I couldn't go out
  
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sherman42

11 years ago

If you loved him, you would get to him

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kelili

11 years ago

I feel sad for your boyfriend.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Why?
  
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  - kelili
    
    11 years ago
    
    I don't know. Maybe the fact that he has bothered to come see you, he was just at your door and he must has felt like shit when you didn't go to see him. That's my opinion, I'm not going to judge.
    
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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

Haha that is a silly reason to break up it sounds like your boyfriend should be your girlfriend hahahahahah.

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