Is it normal that my boyfriend holds me down & etc. when we fight

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well I've been dating My boyfriend for 9 months and I love him to death it's just when we get into an argument or fight we will yell in my face and when I ignore him he will pull me and hold me down and continue to yell in my face and when I move my head he holds it until I'm facing he does other stuff to like punch and break stuff but I don't know If I should be worried I'm only 17 and he's 19.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago | pl

    Get out of there.

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    • charli.m
      11 years ago

      This.

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    • EroticChickx69
      11 years ago

      Are you sure

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        Yes make haste not waste.

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        • EroticChickx69
          11 years ago

          I know it's just hard

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  • Jeaneathean
    11 years ago

    You need and deserve a lot better than this.

    I wish you well.

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  • keef
    11 years ago

    It's gonna be hard, but you gotta leave. Once you're over it you'll realize how bad he was to you. You deserve better. He's being abusive, and he's not gonna stop, it will just get worse.

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  • losingfaithinhumanity
    11 years ago

    Run as far as you can and don't look back. It'll be hard until you realize you are much better off and deserve so much more. Trust me. I've been there, done that and they NEVER change!

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  • MnMxx
    11 years ago

    Get out of that as soon as possible,
    I'm 23 and I dated a guy for 2 1/2 years who mentally and physically abused me.
    Don't be dumb, get out asap.

    Learn your lesson while your young before it's to late.

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  • xxwrong-as-rainxx
    11 years ago

    If this is how things are now just wait, soon it will be your face he's punching. Do you really want to be with someone who thinks it's okay to hurt the one he 'loves'?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You are so young!! There are so many more guys out there for you that will respect you. Get out before you have children, a house, a car, etc with this guy.

    You may love him, but that treatment is unacceptable. What do you gain by staying with him? On the other hand, what do you risk??

    I sound like my dad. No, this is not normal, and yes, you should be worried.

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  • WonderBoy
    11 years ago

    Girl, get yourself out of there!

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  • Coolieo
    11 years ago

    HE'S ABUSING YOU, GET OUT OF THERE! Good luck :)

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  • beno420
    11 years ago

    Get the hell out of there, it will only get worse.

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  • aeondolphin
    11 years ago

    This is abuse, and you don't deserve it. Tell someone you trust. Tell as many people as you feel comfortable with. Abusive relationship escalate quickly because abusers are masters at making themselves seem like victims... by apologizing after. If it happens repeatedly, it is a pattern and it will escalate.
    End it. Find a safe place. And end it.

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  • curiouskate101
    11 years ago

    next time say dont treat me like that. tell him that isnt ok if he does it again then you need to leave before its too late dont ignore the warning signs. people always used to tell me to leave my boyfriend and tell me he was this and that and i knew it too but i ignored it all because i thought maybe i could change him. you cant he has to want to change himself. words are cheap actions are warning signs. dont be stupid!! follow your gut feeling

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Get out of the relationship while you still can. He is being abusive.

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  • annm2361
    11 years ago

    Get help or get out. This will get worse if he thinks this is normal and how far u willing to be hurt? Where is the limit for you? Hospital?

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    11 years ago

    I guess if once in a blue moon this happens, then you can probably work things out. But if this is happening too constantly.... This is not healthy, for the both of you.

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  • AvrilLavigne
    10 years ago

    Oh no my dear. You have to kick his ass and break him up.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    I shart myself silly

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  • Laurengirl
    11 years ago

    Sweetheart i hope things are better for you now. Because thats not ok n im worried for ur safety. You deserve better.

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