Is it normal that my friend and i have sex, but are not gay?

I would like you thank you for the opportunity to get this off of my chest before I continue.

My friend is my best friend and we are both males, and we grew up together. We are both geeks, despite our being hygienic, we are not the geeks that girls like to wear shirts proclaiming their love for. We're not cute or quirky, just research nuts that have both received full ride scholarships to a good school and will be attending in the Fall. We probably won't have any shot at decent women until we are earning good money. Academic prowess and being well mannered is not enough to attract nice girls for ourselves, sadly enough.

So... My friend and I were at his Mom's house one day and we were discussing this. Out of frustration we both got into his Mom's liquor cabinet, got drunk and played Mortal Combat. By match 7, we had both convinced each other that having sex with each other to relieve sexual tension and not being sexually attracted to each other is not a gay act, more so than it is a favor done between friends. By match 11 we were lotioned up, lights off, clothes off, taking turns on each other. It was very painful. After a few more shots it became... the most sexually satisfying experience ever.

After several weeks of awkward distance, we both decided to cut the crap and talk this over. Eventually we got drunk and it happened again. We came to the agreement that there was no sexual interest between us and we were simply doing this to hold our sexual desires at bay.

For the past few months, every other week or maybe more at times, we will come over to each other's homes, wink wink nudge nudge, turn off the lights, take turns on each other, get our clothes back on, turn on the lights and not even mention it. Our relationship has not changed, saved for the addition of this awkward ritual. Is it normal to have sex with your best friend to relieve sexual desires without any sexual interest?

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Based on 399 votes (266 yes)
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Comments ( 18 )
  • Garglemysac

    Gayer than cum on a mustache.

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  • Allistalla

    This is kindve sad I feel very sorry for you fellows that you are so desperate that youd fuck each other I do not think you are gay I think you needed a release and its the only thing thatd do it .

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  • Darkoil

    Yeah I don't think it's normal but I understand what you are saying. You should try and get a girl involved.

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  • smartpatrol11

    "We are both geeks, despite our being hygienic:" that made me LOL you obviously leave the computer long enough to shower. Im sure when you get older you will get women and for the moment your probably just using each other for relief but it would be easier to just have a wank wouldnt it. You may grow to feel this is the only way you can get sex and although saying your not gay this moght be the only sex you ever get. Id suggest you try and be a bit more sociable there are girls that do like geeks you just have to look harder

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    • Allistalla

      I dated a geek I had no idea what he was saying ever but he was always so cute and sweet. ^T^ I like geeks and goths .

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      • Java

        Yeah, that's what sucks about it. I'll post a picture of my dream guy just 'cuz. I just feel bad I'd never be able to date a geek/nerd/dweeb (and those those FUCKING HIPSTER-ASS EMO SCENE DOUCHEBAGS *cough*) sorry for that one there, I'm not the most intelligent person in the world so I'd feel not good enough, you know?

        Some dude I find hot:
        http://prntscr.com/be2cg

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  • Justsomejerk

    You keep telling yourself it's not gay buddy.

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  • nightmare28

    Call it how you want, but man plowing another man IS gay. I would do my car in the muffler before I do another man in his muffler.

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  • outtasite

    This is not gay and it IS normal. Everyone get sso weirded out by the idea of two men exploring their sexuality. If it was two girls, people would be egging them on... Don't worry. This happens more often than you'd think. It doesn't make you guys weird or anything. It's just experimentation.

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  • theaverageatheist

    ok ... aside from the jokes,sexual experimentation betweel the same sex is normal, but to do this regadles of your lack of atraction for each other... if you where to girls thats fine and farly normal, I personaly have kissed e few girls and I woulden't mind trying a bit more (with someone I trust)is fine, I'm not bi, i like boys :3
    but I'm a girl I kinda diferent.
    to guys?...er... nope you two are at least bi, nothing to worry it's fine, you seem good friends , so enjoy your selves, ;D

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  • theaverageatheist

    this would be a good gay porno

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  • oliveyou

    That is sorta, really gay... just saying.

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  • ZommBeee

    Sorry, it is quite gay, but if you can't get laid by a girl then fuck it, settle for the cock. (y)

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  • anti-hero

    Call me old fashioned but jacking off was always good enough for me. If you can't get laid and you are straight you wank it. You don't have gay sex unless you are gay or bi. I have been really drunk in my life and I have never said, "Drunk Parrish, let's go fuck another man." No never, not once. It is not normal, unless you are gay or bi.

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  • ambigous

    I dont think you can put a label on this one its not gay because this its not this bec of that . You are just going to have to go with how you feel as time goes by alot of lassie's have more experience with this than blokes. Dont beat yourself up matey just see how it turns out

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  • onemansperspective

    IT IS NOT GAY.

    Gay / Straight / Bi are based on attraction, not action. If you're a guy and you closed your eyes and got a blow job you'd eventually cum regardless of who was on the blowing end.

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  • Java

    That's the kind of dork I like. D'aww...but so many of them are gay nowadays...

    Oh well, whatever floats your boat, man. I mean, what do you want? You've had sex so I'm just going to assume there's something there between ya'll.

    I definitely think it's weird and not normal for best friends, and you say you have no sexual interest, so why are you even doing it? Sex should be fun with someone you love.

    You're either gay and in love and you two should embrace that,
    or both of you are so desperate you're fucking yourselves,
    But you can't be "bros" or something.

    That's a really awkward best friend thing. Like friends with benefits.

    This is a toughie. I say as long as you're happy then keep at it, but otherwise you should stop. I mean dude what do you want to do? It's up to ya'll, whatever you want, go for it.

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  • davesumba

    IT ISN'T GAY. seriously, men are attracted to the idea of sex, not the guy. and when there's no girls to have sex with, it's not gay at all to find a guy to s your d. it's only when you get sexually aroused by simply looking at a guy and his cock that it becomes gay.

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