Is it normal that my friend's boyfriend flirts with me?

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My friend lives in a different town but she lives close enough to where I live so she visits every so often to visit me,the rest of her friends and her boyfriend.

They have been dating for about a year now so I have gotten to know her boyfriend well. He's really nice but confuses me.

I don't know if this could be considered flirting but he hugs me a lot,is a little touchy feely with me(enjoys tickling me) and has pretty deep conversations with me. Also when we were at the homecoming dance, my friend got pissed at him for some reason so she ended up dancing with another guy while he danced with me. He told me I looked really pretty and told me to rest his head on his shoulder as we danced.

He is cute and I like him a lot but he says he's like in love with my friend. It hurts me because I feel like my feelings are being played with whenever he does this then goes back to my friend and tells her how much he loves her.

Is this normal? What should I do?

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Based on 75 votes (23 yes)
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  • joelsmo
    13 years ago

    You need to learn right now that he is taken. If you wish to ruin a friendship then proceed. He is trying to set you up for seconds. If it doesn't work out with your friend he has you. If he does this to her he will do it to you also, just remember that and decide if this boy is worth a friendship. There is no way you can ever rationalize a relationship with this boy being all right. You need to back him off, and make it clear that you are friends with this girl and you are not interested. If you are a pretty girl you should have no problems finding a boy who isn't dating your friends.

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  • marycontrary
    12 years ago

    Here is what's happening:

    -He is being vague, he is purposely being unclear. He is lying to you.

    -He wants to get you to like him, so that he feels better about his self-esteem.

    -Once you are in love with him (while staying with your friend), he can claim that he has no part playing with your feelings. "I was just being nice," he will lie. This is a lie.

    -He'll think, "It's because I'm such a wonderful guy, I can't help that girls are suffering and conflicted over me."

    This guy sounds like a loser. He's manipulative, so he can feel better about himself when girls like him.

    YOU are NOT a bad person (from the circumstances you described), I think HE is the bad person. Don't fall for this player, I agree that if you were dating him, he would do the same to you with another girl!!!

    Don't lose your friendship over this loser.

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  • hiddenhiderlol
    13 years ago

    LOL NO.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    He's an asshole.

    Run for the hills.

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    he's a player and he's playing both of you!!! thete is a strong likelihood that if there are other girls atound when neither of u are around (like work, school) he'll be pulling the same shit with them at the same time. also, it doesn't sound like ur a very good friend, either. c'mon, wake up !!

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  • HSVWHO
    13 years ago

    Who is more important to u? Ur friend
    Or this guy?
    That's ur answer

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    dannykanes makes a good point...or maybe he is just dating her to get to you. You should talk to you friend about it.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    maybe he's not actually flirting with you. maybe he's just nice like that.

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    • kukurami
      13 years ago

      alv1592 is right, he's just being nice,our the ne who flirts come on!

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      • kukurami
        13 years ago

        alv1592 is right,he's just being nice,your the one who flirts come on!

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    I don't think he means to play with your emotions, more so he sees you as really good friend and likes you to, but he knows things could only ever happen in another lifetime so he just wants to stay as good friends :-)

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  • mush13
    13 years ago

    im confused too :s

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  • Savmagic
    13 years ago

    His girlfriend is your friend. Originally and initially he wants her regardless how much he flirts with you or he would be with you right now.

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