Is it normal that my husband is selfish?

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Is it normal that everybody around me when I'm high and I accidentally bump into something or accidentally knock something over and make a loud noise on accident they'll purposely make a loud noise back or like I feel like people doing this to annoy me or cause they know this annoys me so like itll be a lot of people and they'll like take a really long time to leave my house or they'll act like they're finna leave and then come right back in and sit they're all day like people monitoring me my fiance he doing it and all of his friends doing it and I don't like it cause I have really bad anxiety and when he invites all of his friends which is a lot into my comfort space my comfort zone my room they don't want to get up and leave when I say it's time to go and I have really bad anxiety attacks and they're really mean and loud and trash the whole house and I have to clean it up for Them every day and I I don't I'm made to feel bad and out kasted out the group and this happens every where I go with them except for one of them who I really like and I feel comfortable around but now my husband being really mean to him and says he can't come back inside his own house basically because of me and it's not fair. What should I do please help thanks

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  • KholatKhult
    1 year ago

    Stumbling around high knocking things over and going on paranoid tangents where you think people are teaming up against you may be part of your problem.
    If you have such serious anxiety attacks I don’t think walking around high is helping.

    That being said, your husband should absolutely respect your boundaries. He needs to grow up and realize he isn’t living in a bachelor pad where he can have his friends come and go and do as they please in the home where his wife lives.

    I don’t allow other men into my home at all unless it is an arranged meal, holiday, or event. I have plenty of outdoor space for that. I’ve got kids and women in my home, it would be horribly inappropriate to let dudes show up unannounced. And they way his friends treat the house, like you say, is awful and completely disrespectful.

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    • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
      1 year ago

      *was just about to knock when i read this*

      *turns around from your doorstep and leaves*

      *throws nice bottle of vodka i brought in the trash*

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  • ospry
    1 year ago

    This entire post is one sentence that goes all over the place, which makes it hard to tell exactly what it is you're asking

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  • Preschoolgamer
    1 year ago

    Seems like you were high were you were writing the post but you may consider talking to your husband about your feelings and talking with a psychologist.

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  • DADNSCAL
    1 year ago

    Way too long to read, but as a trained therapist all I can say is that you're probably projecting and you're the selfish one.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    This dude ain't the one for you, honey. Dump him, and find someone else. Start planning your exit strategy, and make the next time he does this the last.

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  • Iambillythemenacetosociety
    1 year ago

    Tl;dr

    But it's okay to be selfish.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Its not normal. You should pull your husband aside and tell him it bothers you. Make a point to sit down and talk about it with him. If he's halfway decent he will tell his friends not to mock you and that you dont like it.

    Also, not trying to be like his friends here, but you gots to start adding periods at the end of your sentences. I had to read this 3 times to understand it. A period goes a long way!

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