Is it normal that my neighbor's child acts like this?

I have lived near these neighbors for over 10 years. Around 2 or 3 years ago, their little girl (now 5 years old) started to play outside with others. First, I did not mind her. But then I met her and interacted with her. I will list her aberrations below.

1) She is rebellious, she goes as far as saying "You're not the boss of me!" to her own parents. She doesn't listen to older kids either. She'll just hurt them. (Below)

2) She is somewhat harmful. I do not know where she got those muscles, she looks like a normal 5 year old girl. She enjoys, hitting, biting, spitting at, pinching, punching, slapping, stomping on, pushing, and kicking older kids (mostly boys 10+), WITH GREAT FORCE. And for no reason whatsoever. She has bruised me and some friends dozens of times and even caused bleeding once.

3) She can be EXTREMELY moody. If you do not give her 300% of everything she wants, she will go on an hour-long temper tantrum. I hear it daily and I live three houses down. Afterwards, she will run very far down the street and hide in a corner or behind something, physically injuring anyone who comes within 10 feet. Usually, she won't come back for up to 2 hours.

4) Threats. She has told me this (just last week) (exact quote): "I'm going to break all the bones in your feets with big huge rocks." And the tone of her voice was EVIL. EVIL!! After hearing this, I was stunned to hear such words coming out of her mouth. I had a talk with her parents immediately.

One last thing, she is more spoiled than... I don't even know.

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Comments ( 27 )
  • pmon

    I'll recommend some old fashioned spanking

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    • starfishpeople

      Too bad our society frowns upon such punishments.

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  • perrintablets

    My son was the same way. He would be violent and make threats to his preschool teachers. They suggested to me that I have him evaluated by the school district, who did a full psych eval. And he was then referred to SELPA where he does play therapy and will soon start occupational therapy. And it has helped ALOT!!! if her parents are willing to listen, maybe refer them to have her evaluated as well. And the therapists will also teach the parents techniques they can use at home as well. It was a tremendous help for me and I hope they will listen to your concerns. Good luck!

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  • dinz

    Spoiled brat for sure - I suggest you talk to the other children and their parents and state your concerns about her aggressive behaviour. If she wants to interact with other kids she should be told to behave or don't play with them.

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    • starfishpeople

      I agree, many of the older kids are scared of her.

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  • DannyKanes

    Possession. She requires an emergency exorcism.

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    • starfishpeople

      I think it's possibe, LOL

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  • georgienne

    Pain123, what of those things can't you learn from looking out your window once in a while and talking to her once?
    Needless to say, most of those are normal, just not all together or at that age.

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  • OFWGKTA

    next time it snows smoke her with an ice ball

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  • hellostrangers

    She has mental health issues, is/was abused, or a combination of both. The violent behavior is what is really disturbing, a 5 year old should not harbor such rage.

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  • alv1592

    Maybe you should talk to her parents about her behavior. There's probably something mentally wrong with her.

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  • MissClaire

    mental disorder?

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  • lil

    She might have ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) my brothers child has this, he is a twin and he bullies the other, and he hates his baby sister, she's only 2, the most adorable little thing with lovely character, I was looking after them a few weeks ago, and I heard her crying in the kitchen and he had her by the wrist, saying "you get all the attention, I hate you I wish you were dead" the parents should def get this kid checked out!!!!

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  • derker

    AGAIN Popular mechanics. THE answer is right in front of you. You're going to laugh when you finally see it you know.

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  • emilydoll

    Lol at the threat. That is so fing creepy and wrong and I would be surprised by it. This girl needs serious help. They aren't getting younger.

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  • unsure106

    You should speak to the parents about her causing you or your guests physical harm, but be understanding when doing this. It sounds like she does have some kind of disorder and the parents who seem as though they are spoiling her are probably just overwhelemed. A few disorders that can cause this are autism, ADHD, bipolar affective disorder, conduct disorder, or emotional disorders from trauma or abuse. You should not get invovled with telling the parents to seek a medical professional, but understanding these disorders can help you to cope and interact with the child. The only thing that you can really do is to keep the child off of your property to protect yourself and your guests. Or try purchansing elbow/knee pads and gloves when approaching her if she is 'hiding' on your property. And ask her parents if there is anything that particularly calms or soothes her so you will be prepared.

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  • SweetandTenderHooligan

    HAHA Can you imagine when she older and even more evil?!

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  • starfishpeople

    I also need to know possible mental conditions/diseases that could cause this.

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  • wreckd

    Wowww! What do her parents do about this? Are they psychopaths? This kid needs help before she goes off the deep end. I would recommend boot camp or Supernanny for this one.

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  • Jessie735513

    My sister threatens me too...one of ten was "I'll pick of your sceebs (her way f saying scabs) one by one"
    ...she was 4 o.O
    Now she only threatens to break my things....I think this is progress.

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  • squirrelgirl

    I'm sorry but I lol'd when I read the threat part. Little kids can be so evil sometimes!

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  • pain123

    You are one nosey neighbor! U know all this just from her being outside with the other kids? Lol

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    • starfishpeople

      I have been outside with them a lot and in their house a couple times.

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  • derker

    does this child have a subscription to popular mechanics? If so you should find AT LEAST 7 pairs of shoes to leave infront of her house. Otherwise I donno man.

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    • starfishpeople

      What does Popular Mechanics have to do with her behavior?

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  • Sarisa

    Whoa, that's really not normal. her parents need to work on changing her behavior.

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  • femmefatale12

    She needs her little behind spanked. Ugh parents are getting too soft. Nothing wrong with a leather belt.

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